I have been living with a controlling and verbally abusive husband for 6 years.?

I have been living with a controlling husband for 6 years. I am 50 years old and always stayed at home. He has 3 incomes including his retirement annuity, VA disability and he has gone back to work out of retirement. I have an opportunity to finally leave him but have no money. We do have a joint bank account; should I take the $4,000 that is in there when I leave?I have been living with a controlling and verbally abusive husband for 6 years.?
If you take the money you had better make sure he can't find you.


Just start calling the police whenever he gets abusive.


Build up evidence and then divorce him. Get a good lawyer and make sure you get alimony.


If you take the 4K you will have to hide from him pretty much forever.


If you get things documented then divorce him and then take his money you should be OK.I have been living with a controlling and verbally abusive husband for 6 years.?
You're entitled to half of EVERYTHING! Make sure you get copies of ALL the important papers like insurance policies, the account numbers to everything including his retirement and bank accounts, papers on the house, extra set of keys to the house and cars, you need to protect yourself and yes, you can take the money in the account! Take everything you want with you when you go, so he can't say you abandoned it all! Plan first, then leave! Good Luck!
Hi, if you have a joint bank account then go ahead and take it all out, then leave..


Take your $4,oooo you have been putting up with to much to long, and now it's time for you to be happy.


Plan where your going get your things out that you want then hit the bank last.


You deserve this screw him!


Verbally abused is just as bad as getting hit.


Good luck to you, now go and be happy:)
Take whatever you can and get out with your safety in tact. It will be hard, and probably involve you getting a job and a place to live, but I imagine it is ultimately worth it in the long run. Then let the lawyers dwell on the rest of the details.





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If your husband has three incomes - he seems to be fine financially. But you dont seem to be. If your going to leave you could go to your parents, your family and friends. I think you need to think about your happiness. Take the money.
You area courageous woman. It's never too late to start over. Don't let fear and doubt take over. This book will help you be strong and plan through this process: Too Good To Leave, Too Bad to Stay. (I speak from experience)





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take what ever your need. the lawyers will divide up the rest. it is best to have money in hand now, than to try and get it later.
We are in the same boat, with the exception I have a job.


I am sure you have built him up to where he is now. GO FOR IT!
Take what you need to get yourself up and running and leave the rest. Get yourself a job and get out of there.
Take the opportunity and go. And take the $4,000. You'll need it to get wherever you're destination is.
that will get you to the corner. good plan.
Sure...





But 4,000 won't get you that far now... will it.
wait until there is alot more!! and make him pay spousal support.
You've only been married 6yrs? How in the world would you think it's fair to get any money from him at all? You've never taken care of any of his children, so you should've been working at the time that he met you. The most fair thing would be for you to leave but to leave with nothing more than you came into the relationship with. He worked for his retirement annuity. He earned his VA disability by serving in the military. All of that he earned before he even met you, even if he's been getting the payments since having met you.





I think you should leave the money in the bank, pack your bags, leave, and go back to doing whatever you were doing before you met. You having no money is your fault. It shouldn't become his problem because you no longer want to be in the relationship. Even in an abusive situation, right is right and fair is fair. You can say, well he shouldn't have been verbally abusive but it can also be said that at 50, you should've had a source of income a long time ago. Your children, if there are any, wouldn't be so young where you couldn't have worked.