Husband and wife have paid of house,purchased in marriage.They take a loan from private investor,both sign the loan,in case of divorce what happens with this loan?In state of Florida.Wife signs the loan with husband for first mortgage on the house,in case of divorce she still has to pay it?
Wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend...it matters not since you are an official ';co-guarantor';. You are both equally indebted until full payment is received Florida or anywhere.Wife signs the loan with husband for first mortgage on the house,in case of divorce she still has to pay it?
To the best of my knowledge, the First signature on the loan is responsible for payment. The other person is only responsible if that person doesn't pay.
The wife and husband own the house together. They're both responsible for the loan.
Yes If you signed you are also responsible for that money even after your divorce.PS: Stop trying to be slick and leave the man in debt.
I would hope it is at least 2 bedrooms so if it happens they can both reside in the house.
both atr responsible
they are both responsible for the loan.
she still has to pay it in case of divorce
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
How can I convince my husband to not get a circumcision?
My husband has a very tight foreskin (phimosis) that only retracts while soft and never while erect. He thinks that sex would be better if he were circumcised because the head would be exposed. Is there really a difference in the feeling of sex when cut vs. uncut? I like the skin, but I have no real facts to convince him... HELP PLEASE!!How can I convince my husband to not get a circumcision?
Your husband can easily have his phimosis treated without circumcision, and it will definitely benefit him if he does.
The first of things he can try is stretching exercises, the first link I gave at the bottom will give you a page on how to go about doing that. Stretching exercises with the use of a steroidal cream applied topically to his penis could possibly fix his phimosis problem altogether and would be best if so.
The second of things he can try is extending his foreskin. This technique is the same as what restoring the foreskin is to men who have been circumcised. Mainly what is done is your husband wears a restoring device, over time of wearing it, a few months for your husband, his foreskin will grow new cells and become longer. Sometimes a tight foreskin only needs a little bit more skin to become loose enough to slide properly up and down the shaft of the penis. The second link provided will be on how to extend the foreskin on the page it is a bit further down; however this step will be a difficult task for your husband if he cannot even retract the foreskin while flaccid.
If stretching and extending do not work, or if stretching has not worked and his phimosis is too tight to attempt extending, the the third option is a dorsal slit. Links 3, 4, and 5 that are provided are about that. Mainly what is done is a small slit is made vertically into his foreskin to loosen it and afterward it can glide properly, there is no failure in that, it will work no matter what, and what's better is that he does not have to lose his whole foreskin to do it, actually he won't lose any of his foreskin from it at all.
There's a wonderful site out there which has a presentation about how sex is better for women and men if the man is intact. It contains 10 reasons why, each reason having various pictures and video clips showing why and how it is better. However I unfortunately can't find it at all, I visited it a few days ago, but my browser wipes its history after every session. Hopefully someone will know what I'm talking about because it was such a good argument why intact sex is best and beneficial.
And finally the last link is an overview of what can be done to help him without involving circumcision.
EDIT: I found the link I mentioned earlier in this comment about how sex with an intact/uncircumcised penis is more beneficial to the vagina and both partners. It is NOW the last link I have provided, on the page there is the ';Top 10 Ways Circumcised Sex Harms Women';. Click on the #1 and have your husband read it with you, go all the way through to 10. I think this will be an eye-opener for him as well as yourself. And hopefully should be enough evidence to have him at least considering a preptuioplasty, if not getting a circumcision. Good luck and hopefully everything I've posted will help your husband see that there's still options to try before taking the ultimate and irreversible step of circumcision.How can I convince my husband to not get a circumcision?
I was more than glad to help, I hope your husband sees now that he has plenty more options available to him. And eventhough I don't know you or him, I want anyone to be able to enjoy themselves as much as possible. Best of luck to the both of you.
Yes there is a difference. A Major difference. Circumcised guys are a lot less sensitive then uncircumcised.
He doesn't have to get a circumcision. Tell him to get fully hard and pull the foreskin back as far as he can without pain and hold it there for 5+ minutes. And do that 3+ times a day.
If the skin doesn't start stretching after 3 weeks then tellhim to go to the doctor and ask the doctor for steroid creams to help the skin relax and stretch.
Now he has to be careful because a lot of doctors these days will tell him anything just to get him circumcised. He has to stand his ground and tell the doctor he isn't going to get circumcised untill he tries the steroid cream.
The head is sapposed to be exsposed. But if he fixes the phismosis his head will be exsposed.
The head is always exsposed it doesn't matter if you are circumcised or not.
Once he fixes the problem his skin will retract when he gets hard and he will have a fullyexsposed head and he wil still have all the wonderfu pleasures of having a foreskin.
Just tell him to work on fixing the phismosis for now. If after it's fixed he still wants to get circumcised then so be it.
But I thinkhe would be happier just fixing that phimosis. His head will still be exsposed even tho he isn't circumcised.
-Connor
You just said it yourself. Your husband has phimosis. Thats not good and its not healthy. Besides that he is not enjoying sex to the fullest because he cant retract his foreskin during sex. Its his penis, not yours. I think you are being a bit selfish here. Circumcision wont affect you either way but not having a foreskin in the way will definitely let him enjoy sex better. You are right by the way. You dont have any valid facts to convince him not to get circumcised. he has a medical problem and he should take care of it. You will also have less yeast infections and urinary tract infections yourself.
you can get all the information you need here.
http://www.penisdoctor.com/
http://www.circumcisioncenter.com/
http://www.aboutcirc.com/
http://www.medicirc.org/
http://www.circumcisioninfo.com/index_ho鈥?/a>
http://www.circinfo.net/
http://www.circinfo.com/
http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/2754鈥?/a>
I was circumcised at 18 and would do it again in a heartbeat! I can assure you circumcision enhances the sexual experience, the foreskin only gets in the way. Right now he is basically masturbating inside you. When he gets circumcised the direct contact between the gland and the vaginal wall will drive both of you crazy! There is no downside to being circumcised, only a lifetime of benefits!
This page shows normal retraction of the foreskin:
http://geocities.com/painfulquestioning/鈥?/a>
Phimosis is caused by damage to the penis. Certain methods of masturbation that put too much pressure on the penis are the primary cause of damage (note this is different from saying that masturbation is bad per se - don't mistake me for a religious nutter). So he probably damaged it growing up. It hasn't had chance to repair because he has persisted in putting too much pressure on the penis and using it every day.
How do some masturbation habits damage the penis?
The answer is: by applying too much pressure. There are 3 main arteries in the penis. The one most often damaged and the one that leads to phimosis most is called the corpus spongiosum. It runs along the underside of the penis. It should stick out.
Look at this diagram:
http://www.med.umn.edu/anatomy/6150/CD/N鈥?/a>
Because the arteries do not fill with blood it means that the glans attached to the corpus spongiosum cannot be pushed through the skin.
Examples of damaging masturbation habits include thrusting against the mattress and also pushing down on your penis while sitting at the computer watching porn. I'd be interested to know if you do any of these.
The correct way to masturbate is by applying no pressure. Just lightly grip the shaft and move the skin up and down.
Can it be cured?
Yes. All it needs is rest and time to repair. The body will repair it if it isn't being used or constantly getting re-damaged every time you masturbate incorrectly. This usually takes a week to a month depending on the damage done. Once you resume masturbating - remember no pressure - just move the skin up and down.
You do not want to get a circumcision because a) there is no need if you follow the above advice and give it chance to repair and b) it is damaging to the penis's sensitivity and function..
Why is circumcision bad?
First understand how important the foreskin is. The foreskin contains nerves. These are specialized nerves found nowhere else in the penis.
Without the foreskin, you cannot masturbate properly. Intact men masturbate by moving the foreskin up and down, like so:
http://geocities.com/painfulquestioning/鈥?/a>
As the skin moves up and down, the nerves on the underside of the foreskin are stimulated.
Further damage is done because the foreskin is a protective layer of the penis. With the foreskin gone, the glans is exposed. Firstly it dies out. Secondly, it rubs on clothes; this causes the glans skin to become toughened. Both these things further reduce sensitivity. This page gives a good illustration of the damage done:
http://www.noharmm.org/IDcirc.htm
Circumcision obviously affects sex. Women and men enjoy sex more when the man has a foreskin. This page lists the ten reasons why:
http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/10F鈥?/a>
One physician noted that after stopping the bad masturbation habits his patients phimosis were cured and he never saw them again:
http://www.cirp.org/library/treatment/ph鈥?/a>
Well, from experience, I don't think it makes much difference in the bedroom. The man I've been with for two year was recently circumsiced and he said he felt no significant difference after the opperation. I didn't feel a difference either. I do however think it is a personal decision and I hope you would support him in his choice. No worries though, it won't effect your sex life either way =P
Andy has the goods. He can use a topical cream and stretching exercises .. if he can retract his foreskin while flaccid.. he hasn't far to go and also tell him that a foreskin provides you with a more comfortable ride if things get a little dry... as the foreskin's natural action of gliding backwards and forwards across his glans also impacts on what you feel in certain situations, like those times when your natural lubrication is not what it normally is... anal sex especially less aggressive... foreskin provides some give in tight situations... You might not be dry now.. at your young tender age.. but give it a few years and you will know that you aren't always going to be wet on demand.
His phimosis is not severe, since he can retract while soft.
He probably just needs to do some stretching exercises, ideally in the bath/shower, every day for a few weeks. Follow the instructions on this website:
http://www.geocities.com/restoremaine/ti鈥?/a>
This website also has some more general advice:
http://www.norm-uk.org/circumcision_alte鈥?/a>
Tell him to try an over the counter steroid cream for a few months and practise stretching it daily, before going for something like surgery.
Cutting it off is bad enough, but cutting it off as an adult means he'll be in for at least a month of agony plus any risks of complications.
It will be very painful!
It's easier for babier, but once you are an adult and fully grown man, it will be a tougher process. Tell him no. Maybe he should talk to a doctor about it, there might be other options.
Circumcisions are fine, but it;s not necessary.
uncircumcised men get more pleasure as well as woman.
when i was a baby i got circumcised and i wish i had the choice that he does to get circumcised or not but just tell him to read more on that subject and that u would prefer him to get get it
i think its better that he doesnt. if it would be better, then men would be born without that part. my dad had it when he was a baby and he is really mad about it. tell him that most men hate it.
I thought it was only possible to get circumcised while still a baby! Wouldn't that hurt something awful for your husband!!??
Tell him that uncircumcised men get more pleasure out of sex.
find pictures of infections from the surgery.
Tell him you won't have sex with him if he gets it!
I had it done 90 days ago %26amp; wished I'd had it done years ago!
Eeww just let him
omg ew
thats dumb tell him no
If your husband's foreskin is not retracting with an erection, then he IS missing out, the head of the penis is where a lot of the nerves are and where he will get pleasure. His is not getting exposed during sex, the foreskin is covering it.
(The argument that ';sex feels better for an uncircumcised man'; does not apply here, because the reason that uncircumcised men get more pleasure out of sex is that the foreskin protects the head of the penis, keeps it soft and sensitive, BUT then it retracts with an erection, and exposes the sensitive head. In this case, the foreskin is not retracting and is actually hindering the sexual experience.)
The most sensitive part of the penis is the underside of the head.
One of the main arguments against circumcision is that this area is now exposed, gets rubbed against his clothing, and thus because of the constant (albeit minor) stimulation, becomes less sensitive.
However, if while erect this sensitive underside is not being exposed, then he is not getting very much stimulation during sex. What small degree of sensitivity he will loose, will greatly be made up for by the sensitivity that he will gain, I suspect.
So to pull some figures out of thin air, to get an idea of the ballpark I am talking about, suppose that guys who are uncircumcised and don't have phismosis, get sexual gratification that we'll rate at say 100. Circumcised guys, because of the reduced sensitivity, get maybe 80. He's getting maybe 30 now, at best. Getting circumcised, in his case, will increase his pleasure by more than double, almost tripple what it is now!
You get pleasure when he pushes in. He gets pleasure when he pulls out, because the underside of the head is making the most contact then and is the part being rubbed. In his case, because of the foreskin, it's not getting rubbed - the only stimulation he is getting is from squeezing action that pushes hard enough to compress the foreskin enough that it pushes on the underside of the penis.
You and he have to weigh the additional pleasure that you feel having him uncircumcised vs. the additional pleasure he feels being circumcised. Now you can't know for sure how it compares until you actually have it done (and then it's too late to have it undone), but I seriously doubt your additional pleasure at having him uncircumcised is anywhere close to the additional pleasure that he will get by being circumcised. I'm sure that, in the end, you'll enjoy it more if he's enjoying it more because he will react differently as he gets more pleasure. If your pleasure decreases at all, it will be very slight. His, on the other hand, will increase greatly.
no difference and just tell him you like it how he is but it is his body and in the end it is his decision
answer mine?http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Your husband can easily have his phimosis treated without circumcision, and it will definitely benefit him if he does.
The first of things he can try is stretching exercises, the first link I gave at the bottom will give you a page on how to go about doing that. Stretching exercises with the use of a steroidal cream applied topically to his penis could possibly fix his phimosis problem altogether and would be best if so.
The second of things he can try is extending his foreskin. This technique is the same as what restoring the foreskin is to men who have been circumcised. Mainly what is done is your husband wears a restoring device, over time of wearing it, a few months for your husband, his foreskin will grow new cells and become longer. Sometimes a tight foreskin only needs a little bit more skin to become loose enough to slide properly up and down the shaft of the penis. The second link provided will be on how to extend the foreskin on the page it is a bit further down; however this step will be a difficult task for your husband if he cannot even retract the foreskin while flaccid.
If stretching and extending do not work, or if stretching has not worked and his phimosis is too tight to attempt extending, the the third option is a dorsal slit. Links 3, 4, and 5 that are provided are about that. Mainly what is done is a small slit is made vertically into his foreskin to loosen it and afterward it can glide properly, there is no failure in that, it will work no matter what, and what's better is that he does not have to lose his whole foreskin to do it, actually he won't lose any of his foreskin from it at all.
There's a wonderful site out there which has a presentation about how sex is better for women and men if the man is intact. It contains 10 reasons why, each reason having various pictures and video clips showing why and how it is better. However I unfortunately can't find it at all, I visited it a few days ago, but my browser wipes its history after every session. Hopefully someone will know what I'm talking about because it was such a good argument why intact sex is best and beneficial.
And finally the last link is an overview of what can be done to help him without involving circumcision.
EDIT: I found the link I mentioned earlier in this comment about how sex with an intact/uncircumcised penis is more beneficial to the vagina and both partners. It is NOW the last link I have provided, on the page there is the ';Top 10 Ways Circumcised Sex Harms Women';. Click on the #1 and have your husband read it with you, go all the way through to 10. I think this will be an eye-opener for him as well as yourself. And hopefully should be enough evidence to have him at least considering a preptuioplasty, if not getting a circumcision. Good luck and hopefully everything I've posted will help your husband see that there's still options to try before taking the ultimate and irreversible step of circumcision.How can I convince my husband to not get a circumcision?
I was more than glad to help, I hope your husband sees now that he has plenty more options available to him. And eventhough I don't know you or him, I want anyone to be able to enjoy themselves as much as possible. Best of luck to the both of you.
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Yes there is a difference. A Major difference. Circumcised guys are a lot less sensitive then uncircumcised.
He doesn't have to get a circumcision. Tell him to get fully hard and pull the foreskin back as far as he can without pain and hold it there for 5+ minutes. And do that 3+ times a day.
If the skin doesn't start stretching after 3 weeks then tellhim to go to the doctor and ask the doctor for steroid creams to help the skin relax and stretch.
Now he has to be careful because a lot of doctors these days will tell him anything just to get him circumcised. He has to stand his ground and tell the doctor he isn't going to get circumcised untill he tries the steroid cream.
The head is sapposed to be exsposed. But if he fixes the phismosis his head will be exsposed.
The head is always exsposed it doesn't matter if you are circumcised or not.
Once he fixes the problem his skin will retract when he gets hard and he will have a fullyexsposed head and he wil still have all the wonderfu pleasures of having a foreskin.
Just tell him to work on fixing the phismosis for now. If after it's fixed he still wants to get circumcised then so be it.
But I thinkhe would be happier just fixing that phimosis. His head will still be exsposed even tho he isn't circumcised.
-Connor
You just said it yourself. Your husband has phimosis. Thats not good and its not healthy. Besides that he is not enjoying sex to the fullest because he cant retract his foreskin during sex. Its his penis, not yours. I think you are being a bit selfish here. Circumcision wont affect you either way but not having a foreskin in the way will definitely let him enjoy sex better. You are right by the way. You dont have any valid facts to convince him not to get circumcised. he has a medical problem and he should take care of it. You will also have less yeast infections and urinary tract infections yourself.
you can get all the information you need here.
http://www.penisdoctor.com/
http://www.circumcisioncenter.com/
http://www.aboutcirc.com/
http://www.medicirc.org/
http://www.circumcisioninfo.com/index_ho鈥?/a>
http://www.circinfo.net/
http://www.circinfo.com/
http://www.geocities.com/HotSprings/2754鈥?/a>
I was circumcised at 18 and would do it again in a heartbeat! I can assure you circumcision enhances the sexual experience, the foreskin only gets in the way. Right now he is basically masturbating inside you. When he gets circumcised the direct contact between the gland and the vaginal wall will drive both of you crazy! There is no downside to being circumcised, only a lifetime of benefits!
This page shows normal retraction of the foreskin:
http://geocities.com/painfulquestioning/鈥?/a>
Phimosis is caused by damage to the penis. Certain methods of masturbation that put too much pressure on the penis are the primary cause of damage (note this is different from saying that masturbation is bad per se - don't mistake me for a religious nutter). So he probably damaged it growing up. It hasn't had chance to repair because he has persisted in putting too much pressure on the penis and using it every day.
How do some masturbation habits damage the penis?
The answer is: by applying too much pressure. There are 3 main arteries in the penis. The one most often damaged and the one that leads to phimosis most is called the corpus spongiosum. It runs along the underside of the penis. It should stick out.
Look at this diagram:
http://www.med.umn.edu/anatomy/6150/CD/N鈥?/a>
Because the arteries do not fill with blood it means that the glans attached to the corpus spongiosum cannot be pushed through the skin.
Examples of damaging masturbation habits include thrusting against the mattress and also pushing down on your penis while sitting at the computer watching porn. I'd be interested to know if you do any of these.
The correct way to masturbate is by applying no pressure. Just lightly grip the shaft and move the skin up and down.
Can it be cured?
Yes. All it needs is rest and time to repair. The body will repair it if it isn't being used or constantly getting re-damaged every time you masturbate incorrectly. This usually takes a week to a month depending on the damage done. Once you resume masturbating - remember no pressure - just move the skin up and down.
You do not want to get a circumcision because a) there is no need if you follow the above advice and give it chance to repair and b) it is damaging to the penis's sensitivity and function..
Why is circumcision bad?
First understand how important the foreskin is. The foreskin contains nerves. These are specialized nerves found nowhere else in the penis.
Without the foreskin, you cannot masturbate properly. Intact men masturbate by moving the foreskin up and down, like so:
http://geocities.com/painfulquestioning/鈥?/a>
As the skin moves up and down, the nerves on the underside of the foreskin are stimulated.
Further damage is done because the foreskin is a protective layer of the penis. With the foreskin gone, the glans is exposed. Firstly it dies out. Secondly, it rubs on clothes; this causes the glans skin to become toughened. Both these things further reduce sensitivity. This page gives a good illustration of the damage done:
http://www.noharmm.org/IDcirc.htm
Circumcision obviously affects sex. Women and men enjoy sex more when the man has a foreskin. This page lists the ten reasons why:
http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/10F鈥?/a>
One physician noted that after stopping the bad masturbation habits his patients phimosis were cured and he never saw them again:
http://www.cirp.org/library/treatment/ph鈥?/a>
Well, from experience, I don't think it makes much difference in the bedroom. The man I've been with for two year was recently circumsiced and he said he felt no significant difference after the opperation. I didn't feel a difference either. I do however think it is a personal decision and I hope you would support him in his choice. No worries though, it won't effect your sex life either way =P
Andy has the goods. He can use a topical cream and stretching exercises .. if he can retract his foreskin while flaccid.. he hasn't far to go and also tell him that a foreskin provides you with a more comfortable ride if things get a little dry... as the foreskin's natural action of gliding backwards and forwards across his glans also impacts on what you feel in certain situations, like those times when your natural lubrication is not what it normally is... anal sex especially less aggressive... foreskin provides some give in tight situations... You might not be dry now.. at your young tender age.. but give it a few years and you will know that you aren't always going to be wet on demand.
His phimosis is not severe, since he can retract while soft.
He probably just needs to do some stretching exercises, ideally in the bath/shower, every day for a few weeks. Follow the instructions on this website:
http://www.geocities.com/restoremaine/ti鈥?/a>
This website also has some more general advice:
http://www.norm-uk.org/circumcision_alte鈥?/a>
Tell him to try an over the counter steroid cream for a few months and practise stretching it daily, before going for something like surgery.
Cutting it off is bad enough, but cutting it off as an adult means he'll be in for at least a month of agony plus any risks of complications.
It will be very painful!
It's easier for babier, but once you are an adult and fully grown man, it will be a tougher process. Tell him no. Maybe he should talk to a doctor about it, there might be other options.
Circumcisions are fine, but it;s not necessary.
uncircumcised men get more pleasure as well as woman.
when i was a baby i got circumcised and i wish i had the choice that he does to get circumcised or not but just tell him to read more on that subject and that u would prefer him to get get it
i think its better that he doesnt. if it would be better, then men would be born without that part. my dad had it when he was a baby and he is really mad about it. tell him that most men hate it.
I thought it was only possible to get circumcised while still a baby! Wouldn't that hurt something awful for your husband!!??
Tell him that uncircumcised men get more pleasure out of sex.
find pictures of infections from the surgery.
Tell him you won't have sex with him if he gets it!
I had it done 90 days ago %26amp; wished I'd had it done years ago!
Eeww just let him
omg ew
thats dumb tell him no
If your husband's foreskin is not retracting with an erection, then he IS missing out, the head of the penis is where a lot of the nerves are and where he will get pleasure. His is not getting exposed during sex, the foreskin is covering it.
(The argument that ';sex feels better for an uncircumcised man'; does not apply here, because the reason that uncircumcised men get more pleasure out of sex is that the foreskin protects the head of the penis, keeps it soft and sensitive, BUT then it retracts with an erection, and exposes the sensitive head. In this case, the foreskin is not retracting and is actually hindering the sexual experience.)
The most sensitive part of the penis is the underside of the head.
One of the main arguments against circumcision is that this area is now exposed, gets rubbed against his clothing, and thus because of the constant (albeit minor) stimulation, becomes less sensitive.
However, if while erect this sensitive underside is not being exposed, then he is not getting very much stimulation during sex. What small degree of sensitivity he will loose, will greatly be made up for by the sensitivity that he will gain, I suspect.
So to pull some figures out of thin air, to get an idea of the ballpark I am talking about, suppose that guys who are uncircumcised and don't have phismosis, get sexual gratification that we'll rate at say 100. Circumcised guys, because of the reduced sensitivity, get maybe 80. He's getting maybe 30 now, at best. Getting circumcised, in his case, will increase his pleasure by more than double, almost tripple what it is now!
You get pleasure when he pushes in. He gets pleasure when he pulls out, because the underside of the head is making the most contact then and is the part being rubbed. In his case, because of the foreskin, it's not getting rubbed - the only stimulation he is getting is from squeezing action that pushes hard enough to compress the foreskin enough that it pushes on the underside of the penis.
You and he have to weigh the additional pleasure that you feel having him uncircumcised vs. the additional pleasure he feels being circumcised. Now you can't know for sure how it compares until you actually have it done (and then it's too late to have it undone), but I seriously doubt your additional pleasure at having him uncircumcised is anywhere close to the additional pleasure that he will get by being circumcised. I'm sure that, in the end, you'll enjoy it more if he's enjoying it more because he will react differently as he gets more pleasure. If your pleasure decreases at all, it will be very slight. His, on the other hand, will increase greatly.
no difference and just tell him you like it how he is but it is his body and in the end it is his decision
answer mine?http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
Does anyone ever hope their husband works overtime?
It's so quiet and peaceful, I can watch what I want on TV or turn it off and listen to music and read. Is it selfish to enjoy him not being home?Does anyone ever hope their husband works overtime?
As long as you enjoy spending some time with him, not at all! I love being home alone sometimes.Does anyone ever hope their husband works overtime?
YES!! I love my husband (we are now separated ;-C) but he worked many nights, overnights and although I missed him and loved to see him back at home, I relished many things about the lifestyle: eating a simple instead of elaborate meal, spreading across the bed or sleeping in the living room on the comfy couch, having a dance party or something like that. Sometimes I'd even fling my clothes across the room just for the heck of it. Okay it was a little too much fun for me maybe!
I like it when my husband work OT b/c we are poor. But I also like spending time with him, and we do it. I also work OT time..I wouldn't expect it from him if it is something that I wouldn't do.
OHh yea i agree, it is a little selfish but well worth it when he comes home, every relationship needs a 16 hr break once in awhile.
Even though I do enjoy my alone time, I wish he didn't have to work as much as he does.
i hate it when my husband works, never mind over-time. although the money is nice...........
If you need more money or just want alone time. It's not a bad thing. Your not the only one.
NO I DONT
yea i did but later found out he had an affair and baby
As long as you enjoy spending some time with him, not at all! I love being home alone sometimes.Does anyone ever hope their husband works overtime?
YES!! I love my husband (we are now separated ;-C) but he worked many nights, overnights and although I missed him and loved to see him back at home, I relished many things about the lifestyle: eating a simple instead of elaborate meal, spreading across the bed or sleeping in the living room on the comfy couch, having a dance party or something like that. Sometimes I'd even fling my clothes across the room just for the heck of it. Okay it was a little too much fun for me maybe!
I like it when my husband work OT b/c we are poor. But I also like spending time with him, and we do it. I also work OT time..I wouldn't expect it from him if it is something that I wouldn't do.
OHh yea i agree, it is a little selfish but well worth it when he comes home, every relationship needs a 16 hr break once in awhile.
Even though I do enjoy my alone time, I wish he didn't have to work as much as he does.
i hate it when my husband works, never mind over-time. although the money is nice...........
If you need more money or just want alone time. It's not a bad thing. Your not the only one.
NO I DONT
yea i did but later found out he had an affair and baby
How can i help my husband, he smokes up daily and loss intrest in me and sex! plz help?
we have been married for 2 years and have a baby that's almost 18months old, we barley have sex, when i try to discuss it things get more cold and worse. i just done feel loved anymore in any way, is it him or the pot?How can i help my husband, he smokes up daily and loss intrest in me and sex! plz help?
He's smoking pot every day and you have a child together?
Yeah, you need to leave him....Why would you pick him to begin with??How can i help my husband, he smokes up daily and loss intrest in me and sex! plz help?
it's him, you did nothing wrong, he's a pot head,and yes pot could be stopping him from having sex, to much pot can cloud your brain and mess your body up, try to get him to slow down and if he don't leave his sorry a** because all he is going to do is make your life miserable,you don't deserve that, you can do better,I hope things work out for you, good luck
Pot can lead to a low sex drive because it lowers blood sugar. Men with diabetes have the same problem, both sexually and physically with the low blood sugar.
I would look for a way to get out of the relationship. He sounds like a big selfish child. You have one to look after, you don't need to take care of a grown male adult.
I have a child, and my husband smokes too but not around her.
He loves to have sex while he's high. makes no difference. they only last longer, thats the only change ive seen unless theyre losers and they get stuck.
if you met him that way,, then you now its not the pot.
its something else...im sorry you deserve better, if theres no communication at all then nothing will work, im having problems too.
men are very stupid, hes just probably doing something else, whether its another drug or another girl.
It is him. I think he may be using more than Pot. It is time to tell him to get clean or get your baby away from him. If he is smoking with the baby in the house, you will be charged with child endangerment. You have to do what it takes to protect your child.
You need to talk to him about it and he needs to quit smoking pot what if your child grow up and want to smoke it then what daddy did it.
Try counseling
He shouldn't be smoking pot around your child, it should be taken away from him, get rid of him, he sounds like a loser
try to creat a new way of sex . be more sweet and wear nice clothescostume mask hot makeup
He's smoking pot every day and you have a child together?
Yeah, you need to leave him....Why would you pick him to begin with??How can i help my husband, he smokes up daily and loss intrest in me and sex! plz help?
it's him, you did nothing wrong, he's a pot head,and yes pot could be stopping him from having sex, to much pot can cloud your brain and mess your body up, try to get him to slow down and if he don't leave his sorry a** because all he is going to do is make your life miserable,you don't deserve that, you can do better,I hope things work out for you, good luck
Pot can lead to a low sex drive because it lowers blood sugar. Men with diabetes have the same problem, both sexually and physically with the low blood sugar.
I would look for a way to get out of the relationship. He sounds like a big selfish child. You have one to look after, you don't need to take care of a grown male adult.
I have a child, and my husband smokes too but not around her.
He loves to have sex while he's high. makes no difference. they only last longer, thats the only change ive seen unless theyre losers and they get stuck.
if you met him that way,, then you now its not the pot.
its something else...im sorry you deserve better, if theres no communication at all then nothing will work, im having problems too.
men are very stupid, hes just probably doing something else, whether its another drug or another girl.
It is him. I think he may be using more than Pot. It is time to tell him to get clean or get your baby away from him. If he is smoking with the baby in the house, you will be charged with child endangerment. You have to do what it takes to protect your child.
You need to talk to him about it and he needs to quit smoking pot what if your child grow up and want to smoke it then what daddy did it.
Try counseling
He shouldn't be smoking pot around your child, it should be taken away from him, get rid of him, he sounds like a loser
try to creat a new way of sex . be more sweet and wear nice clothes
Can I go with my husband to Korea if he is stationed there?
My future husband is at AIT right now and has been told by many people that he is probably going to South Korea and I've been told that I cannot go with him. Is this true?Can I go with my husband to Korea if he is stationed there?
Depends on his rank and how long he will be there for.Can I go with my husband to Korea if he is stationed there?
It will depend on what base he is assigned to in Korea, some are allowing dependents to come but that means the orders go from 1 year unaccompanied to 3 years accompanied. he needs to go, report in and put in the request to have the orders amended to accompanied if it is allowed. You will then have to do a EFMP screening (medical/dental) to make sure you have do not have conditions that cannot be handled there on base clinics. If approved then you will be allowed to go, you will be limited to what you can bring with you and all the remainder of HHG will go into storage along with your vehicle.
my husband was stationed at Kunsan afb and I went over there to visit him and I toured parts of seoul in which I know there is an army base there (youngson garrison) and that base had families there. Army is different than air force so I don't know if you could or not. I know in the air force if the tour is unaccompanied, then you cant be with them. Also if you are able to its very hard to do an A LOT of paperwork and you have to be married in order for that to ever happen.
NWIP is correct.
Most tours to South Korea are unaccompanied one year tours. But there is a 2-3 year incentive that will allow any rank to go with dependents. You will get payed (I believe and extra $300 a month) to do this and there are DOD schools for children to attend. Talk to you Military Personell flight and they can point you in the correct direction. This is a new program and some do not know about it. But it is possible.
if he gets accompanied orders you can. Korea is granting more accompanied orders overall, but by no means is it guaranteed that he will A even GO and B that he can bring you.
You should be able to. I've heard of entire families following the head-of-household, and my mom's first husband was low-rank, sent to Germany, where she could've gone.
Probably not, you couldn't when I was there and I keep hearing dependents are still not allowed there.
i don't know why unless things have changed. my mom and i went with my dad and my brother was born there!
Depends on his rank and how long he will be there for.Can I go with my husband to Korea if he is stationed there?
It will depend on what base he is assigned to in Korea, some are allowing dependents to come but that means the orders go from 1 year unaccompanied to 3 years accompanied. he needs to go, report in and put in the request to have the orders amended to accompanied if it is allowed. You will then have to do a EFMP screening (medical/dental) to make sure you have do not have conditions that cannot be handled there on base clinics. If approved then you will be allowed to go, you will be limited to what you can bring with you and all the remainder of HHG will go into storage along with your vehicle.
my husband was stationed at Kunsan afb and I went over there to visit him and I toured parts of seoul in which I know there is an army base there (youngson garrison) and that base had families there. Army is different than air force so I don't know if you could or not. I know in the air force if the tour is unaccompanied, then you cant be with them. Also if you are able to its very hard to do an A LOT of paperwork and you have to be married in order for that to ever happen.
NWIP is correct.
Most tours to South Korea are unaccompanied one year tours. But there is a 2-3 year incentive that will allow any rank to go with dependents. You will get payed (I believe and extra $300 a month) to do this and there are DOD schools for children to attend. Talk to you Military Personell flight and they can point you in the correct direction. This is a new program and some do not know about it. But it is possible.
if he gets accompanied orders you can. Korea is granting more accompanied orders overall, but by no means is it guaranteed that he will A even GO and B that he can bring you.
You should be able to. I've heard of entire families following the head-of-household, and my mom's first husband was low-rank, sent to Germany, where she could've gone.
Probably not, you couldn't when I was there and I keep hearing dependents are still not allowed there.
i don't know why unless things have changed. my mom and i went with my dad and my brother was born there!
My mother and my ex husband went to walmart in an ice storm and never came back. Can I only hope?
that they ran off and got married?????
Hallelujiah! He finally found someone!
POLL: should we throw rice, birdseed, condoms or tomatoes?My mother and my ex husband went to walmart in an ice storm and never came back. Can I only hope?
i'll keep my fingers crossed for you.My mother and my ex husband went to walmart in an ice storm and never came back. Can I only hope?
They have eloped, and are off on their honeymoon, after they come back, they are going to live with you.
BTW, he called, and told me that your Mother is better at sex than you ever were.
Yes, you can only hope.
Condoms - Extra small??
Great for them!Call jerry Springer
Fire hose... totally.
Lucky you. Now you are free to come to the coast and start our affair.
Don't throw condoms. We will need them
throw all of the above!
It's a dream come true!
Just make sure they still send money!
Hallelujiah! He finally found someone!
POLL: should we throw rice, birdseed, condoms or tomatoes?My mother and my ex husband went to walmart in an ice storm and never came back. Can I only hope?
i'll keep my fingers crossed for you.My mother and my ex husband went to walmart in an ice storm and never came back. Can I only hope?
They have eloped, and are off on their honeymoon, after they come back, they are going to live with you.
BTW, he called, and told me that your Mother is better at sex than you ever were.
Yes, you can only hope.
Condoms - Extra small??
Great for them!Call jerry Springer
Fire hose... totally.
Lucky you. Now you are free to come to the coast and start our affair.
Don't throw condoms. We will need them
throw all of the above!
It's a dream come true!
Just make sure they still send money!
How do I turn my husband into Donald Trump?
..For Halloween, I mean! i am making him dress up this year for a party and after lots of resistance this is the only thing he will agree to. I have the wig. How do I accessorize him to make him look like The Donald?How do I turn my husband into Donald Trump?
You have to dress like his wife and paste monopoly money all over a suit for himHow do I turn my husband into Donald Trump?
You get him a good looking tux and a wallet full of fake cash since you know Donald has Lots of money i dont know just guessing.
get a blonde wig and do a really bad comb over....LOL
Dark Suit, The wig styled like the Donald and things like a blackberry and fake money to fling about. Attitude and how it is presented is a big part. Have fun with it.
Go and get a light blond comb-over. Nice suit and teach him to say ';Your Fired';. Even if he doesnt look like Donald T. He can be a sexy version of him.
Keep wads of fake money pouring out of his pockets. Oh, and if you want a realistic effect, have him suck on a lemon for about half an hour LOL.
You should dress him in a dark suit (look at the thrift shop or good will) with a stripped tie with red in it (a power tie) and have him keep his hand in front of his belly all night like the Donald does. Oh and make him do that funny lip pout this he does too.
Sweetheart, thats the LAST thing you'd EVER want him to be.
He has NO scruples %26amp; is ruthless in buisness. What you NEED is to be gratefull you even HAVE a husband. Last Sun. paper posted
a new statistic that marrieds are now a MINORITY. Learn
to be grateful for your blessings %26amp; STOP wanting what you
CANNOT have. P.S You'll live longer %26amp; Happier too!!
He will need a Dark Blue suit with a Red Tie. Tell him to say,';You're Fired'; a lot.
Give him a billion dollars and you will have him as Don Trump.
Get 2 blowup dolls so he can carry one on each arm
Get him a nice suit and bad toupee....
don't forget a bad toupee.
just beat him with a ugly stick that will help
you have got to get him the hair. the donald is not the donald without the hair.
a black suit with red tiee and nice red scarf thingy for the pocket
perfectt on the hairr thats your main thing
get him to keep his cheeks sucked in for a sour/mean effect
ohh oh an at the partyy get him to use a fake bill (monolopy money) as tissuse to llk wipe ur hands or somethin HAHA
You have to dress like his wife and paste monopoly money all over a suit for himHow do I turn my husband into Donald Trump?
You get him a good looking tux and a wallet full of fake cash since you know Donald has Lots of money i dont know just guessing.
get a blonde wig and do a really bad comb over....LOL
Dark Suit, The wig styled like the Donald and things like a blackberry and fake money to fling about. Attitude and how it is presented is a big part. Have fun with it.
Go and get a light blond comb-over. Nice suit and teach him to say ';Your Fired';. Even if he doesnt look like Donald T. He can be a sexy version of him.
Keep wads of fake money pouring out of his pockets. Oh, and if you want a realistic effect, have him suck on a lemon for about half an hour LOL.
You should dress him in a dark suit (look at the thrift shop or good will) with a stripped tie with red in it (a power tie) and have him keep his hand in front of his belly all night like the Donald does. Oh and make him do that funny lip pout this he does too.
Sweetheart, thats the LAST thing you'd EVER want him to be.
He has NO scruples %26amp; is ruthless in buisness. What you NEED is to be gratefull you even HAVE a husband. Last Sun. paper posted
a new statistic that marrieds are now a MINORITY. Learn
to be grateful for your blessings %26amp; STOP wanting what you
CANNOT have. P.S You'll live longer %26amp; Happier too!!
He will need a Dark Blue suit with a Red Tie. Tell him to say,';You're Fired'; a lot.
Give him a billion dollars and you will have him as Don Trump.
Get 2 blowup dolls so he can carry one on each arm
Get him a nice suit and bad toupee....
don't forget a bad toupee.
just beat him with a ugly stick that will help
you have got to get him the hair. the donald is not the donald without the hair.
a black suit with red tiee and nice red scarf thingy for the pocket
perfectt on the hairr thats your main thing
get him to keep his cheeks sucked in for a sour/mean effect
ohh oh an at the partyy get him to use a fake bill (monolopy money) as tissuse to llk wipe ur hands or somethin HAHA
Is it normal for my husband to be lactating?
I mean, I swear there's something coming out of his... you know whats, but I don't think men are supposed to do that, cause they don't get pregnant.Is it normal for my husband to be lactating?
I would think it wasnt okay for a guy to be lactating.Is it normal for my husband to be lactating?
No, it's not. He should see his doctor asap. I had a friend who had this and the doctor found out the cause: a brain tumor. Your husband may or may not have a brain tumor, but it would be good to find out and soon.
Eww, ppl really want to kill the messenger.
most prob a pituitary tumor...may not be cancer,but,see MD soon.........ps,is he by chance taking drug Verapamil...
Enjoy it, it'll give you a break. It's still milk, right? Just see how the baby likes it.
He needs to go get checked out. Men can get breast cancer too.
Maybe reading this may help
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_lactat鈥?/a>
breast cancer is very prevelant in men as well.. this is one of the symptoms... he needs to get to the doc
no . . . DEFINITELY not normal. Have it checked out.
uum yah thats wierd he should see a doctor about that
Tell him to get his testosterone levels tested. Men do have functional mammary glands but they are not used. The lack of testosterone could cause the female hormones to take over and cause the lactation.
Unless you are pregnant and he is experiencing false pregnancy. It can and does happen a lot. Some men even grow breasts.
Check it out?
He needs to go get that checked ASAP... its a sign of male breast cancer. I know that sounds funny but I'm not kidding.
Male lactaction is not common, but it is very possible. Some men lactate when their partners are pregnant or breastfeeding, or whenever they are going through their mid-life change.
In any case, his hormones are out of balance and he should see his doctor. This happened to my uncle and it turned out he had a tumor in his breast that had to be removed.
I've heard that this is technically possible, but I've never heard of an actual case. I don't think it's normal. I'd have him see a doc.
yeah... that's not normal. He needs to get checked out.
I would think it wasnt okay for a guy to be lactating.Is it normal for my husband to be lactating?
No, it's not. He should see his doctor asap. I had a friend who had this and the doctor found out the cause: a brain tumor. Your husband may or may not have a brain tumor, but it would be good to find out and soon.
Eww, ppl really want to kill the messenger.
most prob a pituitary tumor...may not be cancer,but,see MD soon.........ps,is he by chance taking drug Verapamil...
Enjoy it, it'll give you a break. It's still milk, right? Just see how the baby likes it.
He needs to go get checked out. Men can get breast cancer too.
Maybe reading this may help
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Male_lactat鈥?/a>
breast cancer is very prevelant in men as well.. this is one of the symptoms... he needs to get to the doc
no . . . DEFINITELY not normal. Have it checked out.
uum yah thats wierd he should see a doctor about that
Tell him to get his testosterone levels tested. Men do have functional mammary glands but they are not used. The lack of testosterone could cause the female hormones to take over and cause the lactation.
Unless you are pregnant and he is experiencing false pregnancy. It can and does happen a lot. Some men even grow breasts.
Check it out?
He needs to go get that checked ASAP... its a sign of male breast cancer. I know that sounds funny but I'm not kidding.
Male lactaction is not common, but it is very possible. Some men lactate when their partners are pregnant or breastfeeding, or whenever they are going through their mid-life change.
In any case, his hormones are out of balance and he should see his doctor. This happened to my uncle and it turned out he had a tumor in his breast that had to be removed.
I've heard that this is technically possible, but I've never heard of an actual case. I don't think it's normal. I'd have him see a doc.
yeah... that's not normal. He needs to get checked out.
Can I live with my husband after legal separation or divorce.?
I am planning to file a legal separation with my husband but I want to know we can still live in the same apartment as a room ate. we have two kids and we can't move to another place. Please help.Can I live with my husband after legal separation or divorce.?
No legally you can't that is why you have the word separation.I don't understand why you would want to anyway?Is it a money thing?You can't get child support and still live with him.You can't get anything except more married.Good luck.(strange question) Can I live with my husband after legal separation or divorce.?
It depends. If your state has a requirements that you must be legally separated, or just separated in general, before you can divorce then no you cannot live together. Some states clearly say that you cannot be cohabitating, if you do then you will not be able to file for divorce.
If your state does not have this requirements, then I guess you could. Although, I'm wondering why you would want to. Why not just stay married?
First of all, in most states there is not really much difference between a ';legal separation and a divorce. A legal separation is just as much work and costs just as much as a divorce.
Secondly...are you serious with this question? Are you honestly asking CAN you live with him still? Like is it legal? WTF kind of question is that....you can live wherever and whomever you want. You could invite all your ex's to live with you as well and nobody can ever tell you they cant live there. Do you live in communist China?
Maybe you are asking if you SHOULD live with him.
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These people above me do not know what they are talking about. Living apart and being SEPARATED are two completely different things. Being legally separated means division of assets, etc, it has nothing to do with where or whit whom you live. God people, quit acting like you know answers that you obviously dont
unless he is abusive, do not file for separation. be nice and hang in there until the kids afre older, do not show them a hostile home we are in a recession.
No you have to live apart for a separation (hence the name) You can file for DIVORCE however and still live with him.
Been there, done that, have the scars to remember it by. I would highly advise against it.
Yes, but why? Move in with your parents.
Yes, but why would you want to? It's not worth the emotional trauma.
No legally you can't that is why you have the word separation.I don't understand why you would want to anyway?Is it a money thing?You can't get child support and still live with him.You can't get anything except more married.Good luck.(strange question) Can I live with my husband after legal separation or divorce.?
It depends. If your state has a requirements that you must be legally separated, or just separated in general, before you can divorce then no you cannot live together. Some states clearly say that you cannot be cohabitating, if you do then you will not be able to file for divorce.
If your state does not have this requirements, then I guess you could. Although, I'm wondering why you would want to. Why not just stay married?
First of all, in most states there is not really much difference between a ';legal separation and a divorce. A legal separation is just as much work and costs just as much as a divorce.
Secondly...are you serious with this question? Are you honestly asking CAN you live with him still? Like is it legal? WTF kind of question is that....you can live wherever and whomever you want. You could invite all your ex's to live with you as well and nobody can ever tell you they cant live there. Do you live in communist China?
Maybe you are asking if you SHOULD live with him.
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These people above me do not know what they are talking about. Living apart and being SEPARATED are two completely different things. Being legally separated means division of assets, etc, it has nothing to do with where or whit whom you live. God people, quit acting like you know answers that you obviously dont
unless he is abusive, do not file for separation. be nice and hang in there until the kids afre older, do not show them a hostile home we are in a recession.
No you have to live apart for a separation (hence the name) You can file for DIVORCE however and still live with him.
Been there, done that, have the scars to remember it by. I would highly advise against it.
Yes, but why? Move in with your parents.
Yes, but why would you want to? It's not worth the emotional trauma.
Why does the wife look good for other people but not her husband?
Why is it that the wife will look pretty for other people but never her own husband? What's the deal with that?Why does the wife look good for other people but not her husband?
She's used to him and doesn't feel the need.Why does the wife look good for other people but not her husband?
Don't you think that you should ask ';her?';
Maybe her husband does not look good to her anymore!!!
HE KNOWS THE REAL DEAL !
feels like you don't need to be impressed. It's something that goes wrong in relationships. She should always want to look good to him. And vice versa
if you see her when she gets dressed, and when she comes home, how could that not also be for you???? maybe she's getting pretty for herself??? ever think of that? we actually do like doing things for ourselves, ya know.
Cataracts?
Maybe He don't Make Her Feel Like She Is Wanted or Gives Her a Reason, Besides if he loves her what does it matter whether she is dressed up or not???
she thinks the husband has seen her at her worst and still loves her so she doesnt feel the need to. she needs to get her act together and realize that you should always look good for her man...and herself.
I look hot all the time. You only live once. Too bad your wife is a douche, maybe she wants somebody else's sausage? Sounds like she's tired of the homestyle links you got.
if he don't ever notice why bother
i would assume that she doesnt feel the need to impress him anymore, and when she goes out to me other people she doesnt have that comfortable feeling
She's got the husband so doesn't need to go to the work for him. He should be grateful to have her at home with him.
If you don't believe that, just ask her.
Depends on how you treat her...maybe she doesn't feel you deserve it.
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Let me add this...I can spend 3 hours getting ready or 5 minutes and my husband won't even notice or make a comment...he hardly even noticed that I quit wearing my contacts for 2 weeks and that I had been wearing glasses...so think about it that way...if the husband doesn't notice, it really loses it's value and makes the wife feel like it's pointless. Compliment your wife when she looks good and you'll see her looking good more often.
Most times I'd say she isn't taking HIM for granted, but that it is the other way around.
I am a married woman so I know. There are times that women get complacent. Especially once you've already seen her at her worse. She feels as if it's okay to walk around with a scarf on her head and jogging pants. Tell her that she has a nice body and you would love to see her in something sexy every now and then. My husband had to tell me before and when I did what he asked, sparks flew. Just tell her how you feel.
I dress to kill for my husband and he loves that I still look good so don't mind showing me off. I don't know about all the others.
I think it's kind of like the husband being pleasant to other people (like coworkers) and not his wife. What's the deal with that??
%26lt;--------dresses nicely every day
Maybe if you would tell her how pretty she was, she would not have to get dressed up to hear it from other people. DUH! My shinny ball has spoken.
'Cos he doesn't bother looking good for her anymore?
She's taking him for granted.
He probably does the same.
If you want her to get dressed up for you, give her a reason to - take her out for a night on the town.
her husband is the only person she feels she can be herself around without being judged. which is the way it should be
I don't think it needs to be this way. I am trying to look good for my husband just as much I am trying to look good for others, even more!
But as a woman, I can tell you that the opinion of others who don't know us is really important for us, it assures us we look good and sexy...a woman needs to hear and see it from time to time...so we try to look our best outside as well.
I assume that there are some women who just lost the touch in their marriage and they feel so secure and used to, so they neglect their appearance. It should not be this way!
I suppose you have the this problem,otherwise you would not ask it here...so I suggest you buy your wife some nice lingerie and maybe some nice clothes from time to time, like s small hint you know...she will get it eventually.
Also you can say to her that you read a question like yours somewhere, and ask her for her opinion, then tell her yours...she will get it and might change.
I do it with my husband and it works like magic.try it. Good luck.
I am on bed rest right now so no one sees me but my husband, Even though I am pregnant and miserable I still put on make up and curl my hair after my shower just for my husband,. Not all wives let themselves go.
I am one of those guilty wives. My husband has asked me that same question. Me personally, I don't do it to piss him off, its just that most of the time, I have no time to put on makeup, because I gotta make sure the kids are ready. And you know times is tuff for everyone, so there's barely any money to get good clothes. But when he asks me I dress up as sexy as I can for him! Most of the time We dress up for others because We don't want them to know that there is a problem in the household. Or that I can really look beautiful if I try. And to get attention. (Not in a bad way) But if it really bothers you, talk to her about it like my husband does with me. It works!
guess her husband must be kind of a joke.
Maybe she's given up trying to look good for him, because he stopped noticing her a long time ago.
I know I've deliberately put together HIDEOUS outfits and garish makeup just to test if my SO was paying attention, then asking him ';how do I look'; and of course he glanced at me and said I looked fine - just like I thought he would. Obviously when he was looking at me he didn't actually SEE me, SEE what I was wearing, SEE what I was doing. Quite simply, I've become invisible to him. I am ';too familiar';.
When we go out, I dress up. I like the positive feedback I get from other men... God knows I haven't seen it from him in ages...
An Excellent question.
Its like '; Until get the thing, Its so Great Once got it, its nothing';.
'; The Jasmine in another garden always smells more beautiful than in our garden';
Its something like the above..........
Personally, I have slipped and done the same thing. But as everyone else has said he also stopped noticing me. I used to feel like his queen and the most beutiful woman in the world around him and after about 2 years no more. The only time he ever says anything about what Im wearing is if Im going to a bar. I have gone out with him in the same exact outfit that he commented on last. And he said ';why do you always look good when you aren't with me?';. When it was the exact same outfit I was wearing when I went out with him last, he just didn't notice it until he wasn't attending. So I have tried to pick it up lately. Look good for him all the time, still dont notice it unless Im going out without him. But Im still doing it because I like the feedback I get from everyone. Whether he notices it or not, I do look nice 98% of the time when we go out and I try to keep the nice stuff on for a while when I get home, but sometimes you just want to wear a pair of sweats and a tee-shirt around your own house and I dont see nothing wrong with that either.costume mask hot makeup
She's used to him and doesn't feel the need.Why does the wife look good for other people but not her husband?
Don't you think that you should ask ';her?';
Maybe her husband does not look good to her anymore!!!
HE KNOWS THE REAL DEAL !
feels like you don't need to be impressed. It's something that goes wrong in relationships. She should always want to look good to him. And vice versa
if you see her when she gets dressed, and when she comes home, how could that not also be for you???? maybe she's getting pretty for herself??? ever think of that? we actually do like doing things for ourselves, ya know.
Cataracts?
Maybe He don't Make Her Feel Like She Is Wanted or Gives Her a Reason, Besides if he loves her what does it matter whether she is dressed up or not???
she thinks the husband has seen her at her worst and still loves her so she doesnt feel the need to. she needs to get her act together and realize that you should always look good for her man...and herself.
I look hot all the time. You only live once. Too bad your wife is a douche, maybe she wants somebody else's sausage? Sounds like she's tired of the homestyle links you got.
if he don't ever notice why bother
i would assume that she doesnt feel the need to impress him anymore, and when she goes out to me other people she doesnt have that comfortable feeling
She's got the husband so doesn't need to go to the work for him. He should be grateful to have her at home with him.
If you don't believe that, just ask her.
Depends on how you treat her...maybe she doesn't feel you deserve it.
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Let me add this...I can spend 3 hours getting ready or 5 minutes and my husband won't even notice or make a comment...he hardly even noticed that I quit wearing my contacts for 2 weeks and that I had been wearing glasses...so think about it that way...if the husband doesn't notice, it really loses it's value and makes the wife feel like it's pointless. Compliment your wife when she looks good and you'll see her looking good more often.
Most times I'd say she isn't taking HIM for granted, but that it is the other way around.
I am a married woman so I know. There are times that women get complacent. Especially once you've already seen her at her worse. She feels as if it's okay to walk around with a scarf on her head and jogging pants. Tell her that she has a nice body and you would love to see her in something sexy every now and then. My husband had to tell me before and when I did what he asked, sparks flew. Just tell her how you feel.
I dress to kill for my husband and he loves that I still look good so don't mind showing me off. I don't know about all the others.
I think it's kind of like the husband being pleasant to other people (like coworkers) and not his wife. What's the deal with that??
%26lt;--------dresses nicely every day
Maybe if you would tell her how pretty she was, she would not have to get dressed up to hear it from other people. DUH! My shinny ball has spoken.
'Cos he doesn't bother looking good for her anymore?
She's taking him for granted.
He probably does the same.
If you want her to get dressed up for you, give her a reason to - take her out for a night on the town.
her husband is the only person she feels she can be herself around without being judged. which is the way it should be
I don't think it needs to be this way. I am trying to look good for my husband just as much I am trying to look good for others, even more!
But as a woman, I can tell you that the opinion of others who don't know us is really important for us, it assures us we look good and sexy...a woman needs to hear and see it from time to time...so we try to look our best outside as well.
I assume that there are some women who just lost the touch in their marriage and they feel so secure and used to, so they neglect their appearance. It should not be this way!
I suppose you have the this problem,otherwise you would not ask it here...so I suggest you buy your wife some nice lingerie and maybe some nice clothes from time to time, like s small hint you know...she will get it eventually.
Also you can say to her that you read a question like yours somewhere, and ask her for her opinion, then tell her yours...she will get it and might change.
I do it with my husband and it works like magic.try it. Good luck.
I am on bed rest right now so no one sees me but my husband, Even though I am pregnant and miserable I still put on make up and curl my hair after my shower just for my husband,. Not all wives let themselves go.
I am one of those guilty wives. My husband has asked me that same question. Me personally, I don't do it to piss him off, its just that most of the time, I have no time to put on makeup, because I gotta make sure the kids are ready. And you know times is tuff for everyone, so there's barely any money to get good clothes. But when he asks me I dress up as sexy as I can for him! Most of the time We dress up for others because We don't want them to know that there is a problem in the household. Or that I can really look beautiful if I try. And to get attention. (Not in a bad way) But if it really bothers you, talk to her about it like my husband does with me. It works!
guess her husband must be kind of a joke.
Maybe she's given up trying to look good for him, because he stopped noticing her a long time ago.
I know I've deliberately put together HIDEOUS outfits and garish makeup just to test if my SO was paying attention, then asking him ';how do I look'; and of course he glanced at me and said I looked fine - just like I thought he would. Obviously when he was looking at me he didn't actually SEE me, SEE what I was wearing, SEE what I was doing. Quite simply, I've become invisible to him. I am ';too familiar';.
When we go out, I dress up. I like the positive feedback I get from other men... God knows I haven't seen it from him in ages...
An Excellent question.
Its like '; Until get the thing, Its so Great Once got it, its nothing';.
'; The Jasmine in another garden always smells more beautiful than in our garden';
Its something like the above..........
Personally, I have slipped and done the same thing. But as everyone else has said he also stopped noticing me. I used to feel like his queen and the most beutiful woman in the world around him and after about 2 years no more. The only time he ever says anything about what Im wearing is if Im going to a bar. I have gone out with him in the same exact outfit that he commented on last. And he said ';why do you always look good when you aren't with me?';. When it was the exact same outfit I was wearing when I went out with him last, he just didn't notice it until he wasn't attending. So I have tried to pick it up lately. Look good for him all the time, still dont notice it unless Im going out without him. But Im still doing it because I like the feedback I get from everyone. Whether he notices it or not, I do look nice 98% of the time when we go out and I try to keep the nice stuff on for a while when I get home, but sometimes you just want to wear a pair of sweats and a tee-shirt around your own house and I dont see nothing wrong with that either.
How do I show my husband that I am not cheating on him nor do I think of anyone else? He means the world tome?
I love him with all my heart and would never hurt him that way.How do I show my husband that I am not cheating on him nor do I think of anyone else? He means the world tome?
Signs of cheatingHow do I show my husband that I am not cheating on him nor do I think of anyone else? He means the world tome?
If you have to constantly prove yourself to him, then the relationship is not worth it.
The best way to show that you are not cheating is to tell him you're not. If you mean the world to him as much as he means to you, he'll believe you with no questions asked.
If he continues to harass you, then tell him you're an adult and are not going to stoop to the level of accounting for your whereabouts every minute in the manner a child has to do for a parent. And that if he doesn't believe you when you tell him the truth, then you're not going to waste time or humiliate yourself trying to convince him otherwise, and that he should make his own decision based on what he believes.
Setting some firm personal boundaries and showing respect for yourself, even to the one you are married to, is really a very important personality trait, and he should respect you for acting like a mature adult. If he doesn't, then he wants a slave, not a wife...and don't be that role unless you really want to be.
If he is insistent upon you cheating on him, when it's obvious you're not - he has insecurity problems that only he can fix. The more you try to defend yourself, the more he'll think you're guilty.
Suggest counselling or if it's really bad and he's abusive - pack his or your bags until he gets some professional help.
There must be more to this story than you have shared or he is just a jealous person with little trust in you. The best thing you can do is be an open book. If he ask you a question you need to have a clear and straight answer. Have sex as often as possible. And tell him often how much you love him....Good luck
Why would your husband think you are cheating? Is he possessive? Does he travel for his job? Maybe he feels that your sex life is not what it used to be. Make it p to him. If you have not given him a reason to feel you are cheating then he shouldn't think that you are.
It's philosophically impossible to prove a negative. You can only prove you ARE. Honest people expect to be believed, and when we are not, we just wait and let time prove it so. Unless you've given him reason, just saying you are not should be enough. If it isn't, HE'S got the problem.
I've found that the men who are the most suspicious for seemingly no reason are the ones who are actually cheating. they don't trust themselves and so don't trust you. and if there's no trust then its a bad relationship.
what you fail to really realize sweetheart is that you have done things that put that thought in the back of my head. you don't want to or avoid walking in my shoes. you are my #1. and again, how have you shown me that i am your #1?
Spend as much time with him as possible.Do everything you can for him.Call him whenever he thinks you might be cheating on him.DONT ignore his calls at all.Dont talk about Any guys eather.Its just simple.
Your husband thinks that you are cheating and the saying goes : where there is a dumpster, there is trash.
Not to sound vulgar but
Rip down his pants and give him a bj. This is mans favorite way of knowing his woman is into him. Actions speak louder than words.
Wake him up with the best ******* he's ever had. Do it everyday and im sure he will forget what you ever fought about. Guys are the not hardest to think for.
This is a question that you will need to ask him and get his opinon. Ours really won't make a difference, but his will.
This is where trust should be.Good luck.
If he doesn't believe you then why try to convince him? Something is wrong with this picture.
Signs of cheatingHow do I show my husband that I am not cheating on him nor do I think of anyone else? He means the world tome?
If you have to constantly prove yourself to him, then the relationship is not worth it.
The best way to show that you are not cheating is to tell him you're not. If you mean the world to him as much as he means to you, he'll believe you with no questions asked.
If he continues to harass you, then tell him you're an adult and are not going to stoop to the level of accounting for your whereabouts every minute in the manner a child has to do for a parent. And that if he doesn't believe you when you tell him the truth, then you're not going to waste time or humiliate yourself trying to convince him otherwise, and that he should make his own decision based on what he believes.
Setting some firm personal boundaries and showing respect for yourself, even to the one you are married to, is really a very important personality trait, and he should respect you for acting like a mature adult. If he doesn't, then he wants a slave, not a wife...and don't be that role unless you really want to be.
If he is insistent upon you cheating on him, when it's obvious you're not - he has insecurity problems that only he can fix. The more you try to defend yourself, the more he'll think you're guilty.
Suggest counselling or if it's really bad and he's abusive - pack his or your bags until he gets some professional help.
There must be more to this story than you have shared or he is just a jealous person with little trust in you. The best thing you can do is be an open book. If he ask you a question you need to have a clear and straight answer. Have sex as often as possible. And tell him often how much you love him....Good luck
Why would your husband think you are cheating? Is he possessive? Does he travel for his job? Maybe he feels that your sex life is not what it used to be. Make it p to him. If you have not given him a reason to feel you are cheating then he shouldn't think that you are.
It's philosophically impossible to prove a negative. You can only prove you ARE. Honest people expect to be believed, and when we are not, we just wait and let time prove it so. Unless you've given him reason, just saying you are not should be enough. If it isn't, HE'S got the problem.
I've found that the men who are the most suspicious for seemingly no reason are the ones who are actually cheating. they don't trust themselves and so don't trust you. and if there's no trust then its a bad relationship.
what you fail to really realize sweetheart is that you have done things that put that thought in the back of my head. you don't want to or avoid walking in my shoes. you are my #1. and again, how have you shown me that i am your #1?
Spend as much time with him as possible.Do everything you can for him.Call him whenever he thinks you might be cheating on him.DONT ignore his calls at all.Dont talk about Any guys eather.Its just simple.
Your husband thinks that you are cheating and the saying goes : where there is a dumpster, there is trash.
Not to sound vulgar but
Rip down his pants and give him a bj. This is mans favorite way of knowing his woman is into him. Actions speak louder than words.
Wake him up with the best ******* he's ever had. Do it everyday and im sure he will forget what you ever fought about. Guys are the not hardest to think for.
This is a question that you will need to ask him and get his opinon. Ours really won't make a difference, but his will.
This is where trust should be.Good luck.
If he doesn't believe you then why try to convince him? Something is wrong with this picture.
This married woman keeps flirting with me right in front of her husband?
He is starting to look more and more angry at me each time she does it eventhough its not my fault. What should I do before this guy attacks me?This married woman keeps flirting with me right in front of her husband?
tell him you have no interest in his wife and ask her not to bother you any more. i think she is just trying to make her husband jealous at your expense. i hate big flirts. if i was her husband and saw this i would get up and leave her where ever she was.This married woman keeps flirting with me right in front of her husband?
Well for starters I would send her the message as clearly as you can. If she makes a flirtatious comment to you, do not smile at her or give her any look to encourage her. In fact if you give her somewhat of a disappointed look and then look away she may get the message. If she touches you in anyway, pull away. Show her in every way possible that you are not interested in her. If the husband sees this, then his anger should turn to his wife and not you.
Tell the lady politely in front of the husband that you are not interested in dealing with her. If you are in a relationship then you need to let the lady know also that you are involved with someone that you don't want to mess up your relationship.
Say something like ';Well, I'm flattered, but you seem to be married to a great guy right here'; or ';I know since you're with a great guy like him that you're just flirting with me';. Especially if you say it lightheartedly, this will boost his ego (he's probably beaten down by the flirting she's done over the years) as well as let her know she's not getting to you and you're not playing her game.
When she does it again, tell her flat out, in front of her husband, that kind of suggestive talk makes you feel uncomfortable. This way she will feel embarrassed and stop and the husband will know you do not agree with it. It may be hard to do, but it is to the point and it will be effective.
Walk away.. Why do you meet those people.. or else confront him.. and tell both of them.. Tell the woman in front of her husband if she is really flirting with you .'' Lady, I have a girlfriend.. please stop flirting with me.. you have a husband.. '' or just if you have to deal with her at all treat her absolutely in a professional way.. by giving her polite replies.. what kind of husband does she have anyhow.. she must want a provokation.. I would not let her have that.. she is the kind of woman who would have enjoyed it 2 centuries ago if you and her husband would have fought a duel over her.. so make it plain that you are not interested without insulting her.. so don't say she is not attractive.. the best thing is to say nothing.. and stay out of their way if you can help it.. ignore them.. both.. if he doesn 't see what his wife is doing.. and blames you.. just stay away.. that is the best way to deal with it..
what a ***** honestly! do what the first answer said.
Lose all contact with the couple for a while. Ignore their calls, don't visit with them, avoid them all together. She will get the picture and the husband will realize that you truly have no interest in his wife.
Stop hanging out with her.
When she flirts with you ignore her and talk to her husband. Don't give her any eye contact anymore.
OOOH! I bet that's a bit wierd!
If you pull her to the side and tell you that you think the way she is behaving in front of her husband is making you uncomfortable and quite honeslty embarrasing to her spouse, I would guarentee that she'd steer clear of you for a while!
Talk to him. What a beeyatch.
Stay away from her. If she heads your way, head the other way.
Ask him right in front of her, I am flattered but is she this friendly with everyone.
tell him you have no interest in his wife and ask her not to bother you any more. i think she is just trying to make her husband jealous at your expense. i hate big flirts. if i was her husband and saw this i would get up and leave her where ever she was.This married woman keeps flirting with me right in front of her husband?
Well for starters I would send her the message as clearly as you can. If she makes a flirtatious comment to you, do not smile at her or give her any look to encourage her. In fact if you give her somewhat of a disappointed look and then look away she may get the message. If she touches you in anyway, pull away. Show her in every way possible that you are not interested in her. If the husband sees this, then his anger should turn to his wife and not you.
Tell the lady politely in front of the husband that you are not interested in dealing with her. If you are in a relationship then you need to let the lady know also that you are involved with someone that you don't want to mess up your relationship.
Say something like ';Well, I'm flattered, but you seem to be married to a great guy right here'; or ';I know since you're with a great guy like him that you're just flirting with me';. Especially if you say it lightheartedly, this will boost his ego (he's probably beaten down by the flirting she's done over the years) as well as let her know she's not getting to you and you're not playing her game.
When she does it again, tell her flat out, in front of her husband, that kind of suggestive talk makes you feel uncomfortable. This way she will feel embarrassed and stop and the husband will know you do not agree with it. It may be hard to do, but it is to the point and it will be effective.
Walk away.. Why do you meet those people.. or else confront him.. and tell both of them.. Tell the woman in front of her husband if she is really flirting with you .'' Lady, I have a girlfriend.. please stop flirting with me.. you have a husband.. '' or just if you have to deal with her at all treat her absolutely in a professional way.. by giving her polite replies.. what kind of husband does she have anyhow.. she must want a provokation.. I would not let her have that.. she is the kind of woman who would have enjoyed it 2 centuries ago if you and her husband would have fought a duel over her.. so make it plain that you are not interested without insulting her.. so don't say she is not attractive.. the best thing is to say nothing.. and stay out of their way if you can help it.. ignore them.. both.. if he doesn 't see what his wife is doing.. and blames you.. just stay away.. that is the best way to deal with it..
what a ***** honestly! do what the first answer said.
Lose all contact with the couple for a while. Ignore their calls, don't visit with them, avoid them all together. She will get the picture and the husband will realize that you truly have no interest in his wife.
Stop hanging out with her.
When she flirts with you ignore her and talk to her husband. Don't give her any eye contact anymore.
OOOH! I bet that's a bit wierd!
If you pull her to the side and tell you that you think the way she is behaving in front of her husband is making you uncomfortable and quite honeslty embarrasing to her spouse, I would guarentee that she'd steer clear of you for a while!
Talk to him. What a beeyatch.
Stay away from her. If she heads your way, head the other way.
Ask him right in front of her, I am flattered but is she this friendly with everyone.
How do I teach my husband manners?
He has burped and farted probably 50 times in the last 2 hours...some of which he leans toward me to do.
Is there hope for him?
He said he stopped using manners when he got married.
Should I punch him in his mouth or hold out sex?How do I teach my husband manners?
Hold out on him lol...Tell him he is so damn disgusting that you can't imagine being intimate with a pig...It would work if my wife said that to me...lol...How do I teach my husband manners?
Welcome to the wonderful world of AL BUNDY!!!! buy a gas mask...That's a good clue for him....
';BLUE EYES HAS LEFT THE THEATRE!!!!!';
You married him..he's ALL yours now.
He sounds like a pig
to each their own
give him back his money gold-digger
i love you honey
Is there hope for him?
He said he stopped using manners when he got married.
Should I punch him in his mouth or hold out sex?How do I teach my husband manners?
Hold out on him lol...Tell him he is so damn disgusting that you can't imagine being intimate with a pig...It would work if my wife said that to me...lol...How do I teach my husband manners?
Welcome to the wonderful world of AL BUNDY!!!! buy a gas mask...That's a good clue for him....
';BLUE EYES HAS LEFT THE THEATRE!!!!!';
You married him..he's ALL yours now.
He sounds like a pig
to each their own
give him back his money gold-digger
i love you honey
Do you think my cousin is rascist? I am hispanic and my husband is black ?
Basically my husband saw a comment on myspace that she sent out to her white husband and it was a watermelon baby bottle with a black baby with big lips and it said ';niggalac';. My husband is outraged! This is not the first time her and her white husband make racist remarks.What do you think? Is she wrong or is my husband over exaggerating? Do you think my cousin is rascist? I am hispanic and my husband is black ?
That's a pretty low blow, especially since she knew you would be able to see the picture. You husband is probably right to be mad, but make sure he doesn't do anything uncivilized; it will just give her an excuse to spread more hate. Tell him to be the bigger person and not to sink to her level. Do you think my cousin is rascist? I am hispanic and my husband is black ?
I'm going to be devil advocate here and suggest that you try not to be so sensitive.
I'm from England and grew up telling Englishman, Scotsman and Irishman jokes.
My Indian friend grew up telling Indian, Pakistani and Shiek jokes.
My black friend grew up telling white jokes.
None of us were trying to be prejudiced, but it could certainly be taken that way in today's political correctness.
Deal with it, and move on..... or does your husband like being a victim?
Very touchy! I understand your husbands frustration with the picture it seems a bit racist. Problem being is that some people dont really think through their decisions. Mention it to your cousin and wait for her reaction. Let her know that it hurt your feelings and wasn't appreciated!
That seems pretty racist to me. Even if it wasn't the first time, it'd still be wrong and very hurtful. I'd say cut off communication unless necessary but it is your personal situation so good luck! ^_^
That's a pretty low blow, especially since she knew you would be able to see the picture. You husband is probably right to be mad, but make sure he doesn't do anything uncivilized; it will just give her an excuse to spread more hate. Tell him to be the bigger person and not to sink to her level. Do you think my cousin is rascist? I am hispanic and my husband is black ?
I'm going to be devil advocate here and suggest that you try not to be so sensitive.
I'm from England and grew up telling Englishman, Scotsman and Irishman jokes.
My Indian friend grew up telling Indian, Pakistani and Shiek jokes.
My black friend grew up telling white jokes.
None of us were trying to be prejudiced, but it could certainly be taken that way in today's political correctness.
Deal with it, and move on..... or does your husband like being a victim?
Very touchy! I understand your husbands frustration with the picture it seems a bit racist. Problem being is that some people dont really think through their decisions. Mention it to your cousin and wait for her reaction. Let her know that it hurt your feelings and wasn't appreciated!
That seems pretty racist to me. Even if it wasn't the first time, it'd still be wrong and very hurtful. I'd say cut off communication unless necessary but it is your personal situation so good luck! ^_^
What should I get my husband for our 2nd anniversary? He is currently deployed to Afghanistan and I am lost. ?
I just sent him a box full of food and goodies plus pics of me and our daughter.What should I get my husband for our 2nd anniversary? He is currently deployed to Afghanistan and I am lost. ?
Will he be in Afghanistan for your anniversary or back home? I think you should do a number of things. You should make him a beautiful scrapbook with pictures of you and him throughout the year, with movie theater stubs (if you still have any), newspaper cartoon clippings, and box wrappers of his favorite foods...just a really artsy, scrap book, with your favorite song, poems, etc...
Then I think you should make him a movie (you can do this on your digital camera, camera phone, video camera, or web cam). Download the movie and send it to him to watch...doesn't have to be naughty can be something for him to watch of you...a dvd.
Then you could send him some of your panties sprayed with perfume... and pictures of you looking beautiful (not naked though)
And, maybe save up some money so that when he gets back after he's seen the family for a couple weeks you guys can take your daughter to stay with the grandparents or they can come visit for a week and then you and him go off on a romantic getaway for like three nights or so...just the two of you. It could even be in your town or the next town...get a hotel room, with strawberries, wine, music, bubble bath, a few candles, rose petals, plush towels, and just wash his back and give him a back rub...you guys could also take a ride in the park horse and cariage if it's offered where you live, and go out to eat and go to the movies...like dating and enjoying each other...bonding together...but he may just want to stay home after being gone for so long...maybe you can do some of that stuff at home...cook his favorite meal, rent a movie, etc...depending on your budget...good luck..you can have a lot of fun with this!!!What should I get my husband for our 2nd anniversary? He is currently deployed to Afghanistan and I am lost. ?
I wouldn't send anything special. My husband and I missed our first anniversary because of a deployment, so we decided to celebrate when he returned. If anything, I'd say send plenty of pics, and just ask him what he wants. Make a video for him. Strip and send the disc in a CD case so no one will know. OR make a sentimental video for him.
Will he be in Afghanistan for your anniversary or back home? I think you should do a number of things. You should make him a beautiful scrapbook with pictures of you and him throughout the year, with movie theater stubs (if you still have any), newspaper cartoon clippings, and box wrappers of his favorite foods...just a really artsy, scrap book, with your favorite song, poems, etc...
Then I think you should make him a movie (you can do this on your digital camera, camera phone, video camera, or web cam). Download the movie and send it to him to watch...doesn't have to be naughty can be something for him to watch of you...a dvd.
Then you could send him some of your panties sprayed with perfume... and pictures of you looking beautiful (not naked though)
And, maybe save up some money so that when he gets back after he's seen the family for a couple weeks you guys can take your daughter to stay with the grandparents or they can come visit for a week and then you and him go off on a romantic getaway for like three nights or so...just the two of you. It could even be in your town or the next town...get a hotel room, with strawberries, wine, music, bubble bath, a few candles, rose petals, plush towels, and just wash his back and give him a back rub...you guys could also take a ride in the park horse and cariage if it's offered where you live, and go out to eat and go to the movies...like dating and enjoying each other...bonding together...but he may just want to stay home after being gone for so long...maybe you can do some of that stuff at home...cook his favorite meal, rent a movie, etc...depending on your budget...good luck..you can have a lot of fun with this!!!What should I get my husband for our 2nd anniversary? He is currently deployed to Afghanistan and I am lost. ?
I wouldn't send anything special. My husband and I missed our first anniversary because of a deployment, so we decided to celebrate when he returned. If anything, I'd say send plenty of pics, and just ask him what he wants. Make a video for him. Strip and send the disc in a CD case so no one will know. OR make a sentimental video for him.
How do I clean the burn on my stainless steel stove? My husband left the burn on the stove. It left the mark.?
The mark look different color than the original look. I would like to remove the burn.
Thanks,
KPHow do I clean the burn on my stainless steel stove? My husband left the burn on the stove. It left the mark.?
IT CAN BE POLISHED OUT WITH SCOTCHBRITE PADS.How do I clean the burn on my stainless steel stove? My husband left the burn on the stove. It left the mark.?
Is it a burn or a discoloration?
Burn may be removed with any oven cleaner or some baking soda/water paste allowed to sit for awhile then wipe off and use some softscrub on a wet sponge.
If it is a discoloration, like colors of the rainbow, cannot be removed. The only thing I have seen to help a bit is a polish called FLITZ...not cheap, but works.
If you have polisher , polished gently .costume mask hot makeup
Thanks,
KPHow do I clean the burn on my stainless steel stove? My husband left the burn on the stove. It left the mark.?
IT CAN BE POLISHED OUT WITH SCOTCHBRITE PADS.How do I clean the burn on my stainless steel stove? My husband left the burn on the stove. It left the mark.?
Is it a burn or a discoloration?
Burn may be removed with any oven cleaner or some baking soda/water paste allowed to sit for awhile then wipe off and use some softscrub on a wet sponge.
If it is a discoloration, like colors of the rainbow, cannot be removed. The only thing I have seen to help a bit is a polish called FLITZ...not cheap, but works.
If you have polisher , polished gently .
What should I buy my husband for his birthday?
Any idea of sex, or anything involving sex is out of the question. that is a package he unwraps pretty often.
He likes sci-fi movie, Magic the Gathering. He reads comics. He LOVES wrestling. in fact he wrestles.
Any suggestions would be nice, but I am working on a 50 buck budget.What should I buy my husband for his birthday?
Does he have Sirius satellite radio? It's the best gift I've ever given my husband. Radio Shack had it on special around Father's Day and it only cost about $50 after the rebates. Of course, it's like $12 a month after that for the subscription, but my husband didn't mind. He loves it.What should I buy my husband for his birthday?
Give him some Sci-Fi movies and a pack of Magic cards.
Buy him a week's worth of silence...take yourself on a cruise.
why don't you get him a gift certificate that way he can by what ever he wants
A threesome
I got just the thing: A Magic 8 Ball: the 70s popular novelty toy today has several versions with even more funnier answers! Maybe some cool comic book themed ties....and some comic book or cartoon themed boxers or sleep bottoms.
Buy him a t-shirt with his favorite wrestler on it.
interesting movie on DVD
The book name '; The Art of Archery'; is good present and stay with him for ever.
Gift card for a massage it might be a little more than $50, but I always get my husband one for b-days etc. he really enjoys it, you could even get one for 1/2 hour massage it shouldn't be more than $50 bucks.
He likes sci-fi movie, Magic the Gathering. He reads comics. He LOVES wrestling. in fact he wrestles.
Any suggestions would be nice, but I am working on a 50 buck budget.What should I buy my husband for his birthday?
Does he have Sirius satellite radio? It's the best gift I've ever given my husband. Radio Shack had it on special around Father's Day and it only cost about $50 after the rebates. Of course, it's like $12 a month after that for the subscription, but my husband didn't mind. He loves it.What should I buy my husband for his birthday?
Give him some Sci-Fi movies and a pack of Magic cards.
Buy him a week's worth of silence...take yourself on a cruise.
why don't you get him a gift certificate that way he can by what ever he wants
A threesome
I got just the thing: A Magic 8 Ball: the 70s popular novelty toy today has several versions with even more funnier answers! Maybe some cool comic book themed ties....and some comic book or cartoon themed boxers or sleep bottoms.
Buy him a t-shirt with his favorite wrestler on it.
interesting movie on DVD
The book name '; The Art of Archery'; is good present and stay with him for ever.
Gift card for a massage it might be a little more than $50, but I always get my husband one for b-days etc. he really enjoys it, you could even get one for 1/2 hour massage it shouldn't be more than $50 bucks.
I want to put a video on youtube, should I tell my husband?
I know it sounds like a stupid question lol. The video isn't a personal video of family pictures or anything, I made a scrapblog of my favourite books and now I turned it into a video and I want to post it on youtube. Should I tell my husband first, or it doesn't really matter? I want to put a video on youtube, should I tell my husband?
you should tell him, out of respectI want to put a video on youtube, should I tell my husband?
OKey, i think you must tell him:)
http://www.video-to-flash.com/video_to_f鈥?/a>
as long as it isnt indecent i dont think it would really mattter but then again I dont know his personality so Id probably say something
PPPPLLLLLEEEEAAASSSSEEEE!
Just post it!
noo its ur decison
answer mine??
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
It does not matter if you tell your husband or not he would not care.
You should let him know you're posting it. Don't hide secrets from him, it'll backfire in the long run.
you should tell him, out of respectI want to put a video on youtube, should I tell my husband?
OKey, i think you must tell him:)
http://www.video-to-flash.com/video_to_f鈥?/a>
as long as it isnt indecent i dont think it would really mattter but then again I dont know his personality so Id probably say something
PPPPLLLLLEEEEAAASSSSEEEE!
Just post it!
noo its ur decison
answer mine??
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
It does not matter if you tell your husband or not he would not care.
You should let him know you're posting it. Don't hide secrets from him, it'll backfire in the long run.
How should i tell my husband im pregnant?
he is in NYC this week and i just found out im pregnant, and i want to tell him, but i don't know if i should tell him on the phone, or wait until he gets home....but then he will ask why i waited so long to tell him and i don't know....how did you tell your baby daddy you were pregnant?How should i tell my husband im pregnant?
i say buy a cute baby outfit and stick it on the bed the day he gets home... it makes it more personal and its an interesting way to get the emotions flowingHow should i tell my husband im pregnant?
Both times I found out I was pregnant we were out. The first time we were at Burger King and we were getting ready to go out drinking and I thought I would just double check because I had taken so many pregnancy tests in the past that I was sure that I wasn't. It came out positive. Thinking back, I'm really not sure why I had one with me at the time. We really wanted a baby. The second time was on the way home from a California trip. I didn't handle the plane ride very good, so I thought I would grab a test at a Target when we landed. I did it before I left the store. I was so excited that I showed him it was positive as soon as I got into the van. Neither on was very romantic. My husband wishes I would have put some thought into how I would tell him, but I was too excited.
my husband was 300 miles away perm. and I wouldnt have seen him for 2-3 weeks. He was also at work and I was so overwhelmed I told him I needed to talk to him asap in the morning. I was going to tell him via webcam but once I heard his voice I couldnt hold it in so yup it was over the phone. He ended up seeing me that week so he could go to the doctor's appt with me to confirm the pregnancy.
I woke him up out of a dead sleep and shoved the pee stick in his face, and asked very confusedly ';Michael,what does this mean?';
we are only 18 and it was the cutest thing when he sat there with a shocked expression :) (not scared, just shocked) If I was married and we were trying, I would do something really cute and meaningful. Is i t possible to have a cake or balloons delivered to where he is staying, that say ';congratulations, your gonna be a daddy!'; If not, then maybe you could just say, by next fathers day, your gonna be a dad :)
i just called my bf, not as soon as i found out, but a little later, he was at work, and was about to pass out when i told him. lol he was so happy. i couldnt wait to tell him, so i called, but its really up to you, if he asks why you waited so long you can say i wanted to tell you in person...
call and tell him right now! it'll make his day. congratulations!
i say buy a cute baby outfit and stick it on the bed the day he gets home... it makes it more personal and its an interesting way to get the emotions flowingHow should i tell my husband im pregnant?
Both times I found out I was pregnant we were out. The first time we were at Burger King and we were getting ready to go out drinking and I thought I would just double check because I had taken so many pregnancy tests in the past that I was sure that I wasn't. It came out positive. Thinking back, I'm really not sure why I had one with me at the time. We really wanted a baby. The second time was on the way home from a California trip. I didn't handle the plane ride very good, so I thought I would grab a test at a Target when we landed. I did it before I left the store. I was so excited that I showed him it was positive as soon as I got into the van. Neither on was very romantic. My husband wishes I would have put some thought into how I would tell him, but I was too excited.
my husband was 300 miles away perm. and I wouldnt have seen him for 2-3 weeks. He was also at work and I was so overwhelmed I told him I needed to talk to him asap in the morning. I was going to tell him via webcam but once I heard his voice I couldnt hold it in so yup it was over the phone. He ended up seeing me that week so he could go to the doctor's appt with me to confirm the pregnancy.
I woke him up out of a dead sleep and shoved the pee stick in his face, and asked very confusedly ';Michael,what does this mean?';
we are only 18 and it was the cutest thing when he sat there with a shocked expression :) (not scared, just shocked) If I was married and we were trying, I would do something really cute and meaningful. Is i t possible to have a cake or balloons delivered to where he is staying, that say ';congratulations, your gonna be a daddy!'; If not, then maybe you could just say, by next fathers day, your gonna be a dad :)
i just called my bf, not as soon as i found out, but a little later, he was at work, and was about to pass out when i told him. lol he was so happy. i couldnt wait to tell him, so i called, but its really up to you, if he asks why you waited so long you can say i wanted to tell you in person...
call and tell him right now! it'll make his day. congratulations!
How would I go about finding a girl to be with my husband and I at the same time?
Just ask somebody you know know that would like to do that.
Is choosing a life partner(husband) by ourself is sin? Is it same like looking at someone with lust?
Mathew 5 : 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Does it mean that love marriage is sin?Is choosing a life partner(husband) by ourself is sin? Is it same like looking at someone with lust?
You know in the beginning it was not like that at all , . It will hurt forever sorta like preschool did. Not that much in the heart has changed but to look is not to lust . A question asked can we learn to love , You can learn when you want to.That you can not stop in your heart.Is choosing a life partner(husband) by ourself is sin? Is it same like looking at someone with lust?
Do you not know what LUST is?
Intense or unrestrained sexual craving
What does that have to do with arranged marriages?
no if you are married and look at someone else with lust its a sin, not the person you are married to.
No it doesn't.
Does it mean that love marriage is sin?Is choosing a life partner(husband) by ourself is sin? Is it same like looking at someone with lust?
You know in the beginning it was not like that at all , . It will hurt forever sorta like preschool did. Not that much in the heart has changed but to look is not to lust . A question asked can we learn to love , You can learn when you want to.That you can not stop in your heart.Is choosing a life partner(husband) by ourself is sin? Is it same like looking at someone with lust?
Do you not know what LUST is?
Intense or unrestrained sexual craving
What does that have to do with arranged marriages?
no if you are married and look at someone else with lust its a sin, not the person you are married to.
No it doesn't.
Your reaction to what my husband did to me last night?
I was sitting at the kitchen table with our 3 year old daughter and we were painting. I was painting a craft for our house and my husband noticed that I hadn't put the dog up yet. He asked why I hadn't put the dog up yet then said ';Thanks for being so lazy and just sitting on your ***!'; (In a rude tone)
This after I cooked dinner, washed the dishes, cleaned the kitchen and made his lunch.
Your opinions please.Your reaction to what my husband did to me last night?
Speak to him later when all children are sleeping and remind him that how he treats you is how your daughter will seek to be treated some day. Ask him if he would want to kick the *ss of anyone who spoke to and treated her that way? Then hand him a mirror and tell him to start on himself bc his behavior dictates this more than anything else.
That being said, you, also, have an obligation to your daughter. If he can't stop this, do you want to teach her that she must accept being treated badly by her partner? Or do you want to teach her that she decides how she allows others to treat her and she can change it at any point? Your behavior--not your words--is what will teach this lesson. Remember that.
On a final note. You teach people how to treat you, and you can change the lesson plan anytime you need to. Good Luck!!Your reaction to what my husband did to me last night?
I think he is upset about something other than putting the dog up. You need to have an honest discussion with him about what is really bothering him. It is a warning that things are not as good as they could be between you, Or maybe he is upset about something or someone else and is just reacting to that. But if you can get him to stop and think about what the real problem is, then you can address it together and get it solved.
hi. having had similar experiences in my younger days, i soon learned that folk treat us the way we allow them to.
so tomorrow don't cook or clean for him and when he mentions it as he surely will you must say , oh ive been so busy sitting on my .... all day, hopefully he's not the violent type, but if he is then you dont need anyone to tell you what to do.
try a little harder to stand up for yourself, give your daughter reason to be proud and not to allow men to speak to her in that way just because ';daddy did to mummy';
one other thing that works for me is, when a person is rude to me , i raise my voice slightly and say EXCUSE ME they are so taken aback thet they usually say oh sorry that was a slip of the tounge.
good luck and remember NOBODY SHOULD BE AS IMPORTANT AS YOURSELF
That's between you and your husband. You know him. I don't know what it means to put the dog up, but maybe he's used to you doing it. I don't like the way he spoke to you, but perhaps you are used to that kind of language and attitude. Within a marriage, most women do all the things you do. It's not a big deal to be tallied. I would doubt this isn't the first time he has talked to you that way. I am guessing he works all day long? You two need to learn to compromise, and speak more lovingly to each other. And solve problems within your home.
well he shouldnt have been that hateful especially around your child, but it does sound like you were doing a leisure activity that you were enjoying. maybe there were things to get done that you should have done first then done your painting. if you had worked all day and gotten everything done you needed to then decided to sit down and do something you enjoy then that would be ok. just depends what all had gone on before you didn't take the dog out.
you could have said:
';I don't see you helping out today';
';why did you have to make such a rude degrading comment?';
';I don't see you helping our daughter';
';Oh well why don't you come over here and paint it for me';
or just not cook lunch for him anymore and after he asks why you didn't cook him lunch say because last time i did you weren't thankful for it.
that's pretty mean of him, sorry to hear it! if its possible for you to share the roles more in the house it might be more obvious for your husband to show more courtesy. he might have been really stressed about something else and taking it out on you but that's really not appropriate and especially not in front of your 3 year old.
why were you being so lazy and just sitting on your ***! haha no seriously is he always like that or did he have a bad day. I wouldn't make a big stink over it now you should have said something at the time but if it happens again ask him if he noticed all the things you did do maybe he didn't most me don't. lol
That is unacceptable behavior. He blew up over you 1. while you were with children (a big no - no) , 2. for no reason at all, and 3. after you had done a lot of tasks in the home for him.
He sounds snide and disrespectful.
If someone made my lunch, I would be thanking them gratuitously and not deriding them as lazy. He needs a reality check - and a touch of class.
well I can Say that I know what you are going through I have been putting up with it for 12 years...my husband and I are divorced but we live together because of financial purposes...he always calls me names and tells me how sorry I am and I work a 40 hours week and I have two days off and he has one week three days off and the next four days off...so good luck in whatever you decide to do...just keep your focus on your daughter she is the most important
That's when I respond with ';That was inappropriate - you are the adult - act like it.'; My husband rarely makes those kinds of comments - especially in front of our 8 year old - but I use that phrase and it seems to push the point across to him on those occasions when his brain has fallen out on the floor.
Frankly - I would have been beyond pissed off too!
Sounds like you are married to a real jerk. If that type thing continues kick his sorry *** to the curb. I have been married 55 years and it only took me a few mistakes like that to learn to become a human being and start treating her right. Give him an ultimatum and he will get the message. I hope it turns him around.
Good luck
Wow everyone write this negative things about that husband.
Do you even know if he was joking? sometime man don't think when they say something.
And sometimes man get too comfortable in the relationship that they forget to treat the wife with more respect then just talking to his buddies at a poker game.
Forgive him, and just talk to him. let him know that you didn't like what he had sayed. sometimes we are just dumb. :)
Tonight put the dog up (what ever that means) and don't do anything else. Help him understand that you will not except his rudeness or his disrespect. Do not holler, just make it clear.
Maybe he feels you don't carry your fair share of the work load, but that is no reason to be rude. If he has a problem then he needs to come to you and talk about it.
jp
I think he is very rude, disrespectful, unappreciative, stressed out %26amp; overworked. He's bitter. I think you need to understand that men get moody too.. just like we do. Sometimes they take their stress out on us.. which is wrong(I'm not excusing his behavior) You should try talking to him about why he's so bitter towards you. Let him know if he's in a bad mood or stressed out, it's not ok to take it out on you and he should show you more respect.
That definitely wasn't appropriate. He takes you for granted, and obviously doesn't respect you (or he would never talk to you that way).
I've chatted with several women online who have admitted to cheating on, or divorcing there husbands, for just these reasons.
You need to fire back at him. The more of that crap you take, the more he will continue to dish out.
Bored out of my mind today...if you want to IM for a few minutes.
yahoo messenger IM: blarneystone72
Well stop cooking dinner for him, washing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen and making his lunch. If he asks you why you're not doing your chores then say well you know i could but since i'm a lazy ***, i think im just going to sit here and relax
what an asshole! really, he sounds like a dick. BUT might be a good idea to check if he was just joking and maybe you took it serious. because us women have a tendency to overreact. we let our emotions take over. now if he was really just saying that than yeah, hes an asshole. if he was just kidding and you didn't pick it up then let it go.
What's wrong with him? You were just doing an activity with your daughter--it's not as if you were just laying around the house. Either way, it seems too little of a problem for him to burst out like that.
Tell him to do shitt once in a while! tell him that 1. no great language in front of your kid. 2. tell him what you just told us: you slaved over the house all ******** day! 3. leave him, he's just going to keep doing that. just thought you should know.
First,
that was extremely rude of him!
Never cuss infront of a child!
He should be thankful for the things you did do and the hard
work you've done.
And he could have asked nicely or have done it himself!
Was this an unusual isolated incident?
To give him the benefit of the doubt, I would assume he doesn't talk that way all the time....
Ask him tonight if something was bothering him. You noticed he was a bit 'edgy' last night....
He acted very inconsiderate.... But he could have been in a bad mood and probably said feeling grumpy..... If it bugged you alot you should talk to him... But I don't think he should of spoke to you like that in front of your daughter....
It was extremely rude and it wasn't appropriate in front of your daughter.
let him no he can not talk to you like that because pretty soon hes going to verbally abuse you even worse and you no what comes after that kind of abuse
wow thats sad! very disrespectful of him to do to you! go out and get you some be lazy, lie on your back, and enjoy some good pleasure! he's crazy!
Typical man.
Divorce him. He's an abusive pr**ck.
Seems jealous that you are spending time with the 3yr.old and he can't do anything by himself..selfish
Pretty damned sorry if you ask me, [guess you did]
Stay in the kitchen where you belong.costume mask hot makeup
This after I cooked dinner, washed the dishes, cleaned the kitchen and made his lunch.
Your opinions please.Your reaction to what my husband did to me last night?
Speak to him later when all children are sleeping and remind him that how he treats you is how your daughter will seek to be treated some day. Ask him if he would want to kick the *ss of anyone who spoke to and treated her that way? Then hand him a mirror and tell him to start on himself bc his behavior dictates this more than anything else.
That being said, you, also, have an obligation to your daughter. If he can't stop this, do you want to teach her that she must accept being treated badly by her partner? Or do you want to teach her that she decides how she allows others to treat her and she can change it at any point? Your behavior--not your words--is what will teach this lesson. Remember that.
On a final note. You teach people how to treat you, and you can change the lesson plan anytime you need to. Good Luck!!Your reaction to what my husband did to me last night?
I think he is upset about something other than putting the dog up. You need to have an honest discussion with him about what is really bothering him. It is a warning that things are not as good as they could be between you, Or maybe he is upset about something or someone else and is just reacting to that. But if you can get him to stop and think about what the real problem is, then you can address it together and get it solved.
hi. having had similar experiences in my younger days, i soon learned that folk treat us the way we allow them to.
so tomorrow don't cook or clean for him and when he mentions it as he surely will you must say , oh ive been so busy sitting on my .... all day, hopefully he's not the violent type, but if he is then you dont need anyone to tell you what to do.
try a little harder to stand up for yourself, give your daughter reason to be proud and not to allow men to speak to her in that way just because ';daddy did to mummy';
one other thing that works for me is, when a person is rude to me , i raise my voice slightly and say EXCUSE ME they are so taken aback thet they usually say oh sorry that was a slip of the tounge.
good luck and remember NOBODY SHOULD BE AS IMPORTANT AS YOURSELF
That's between you and your husband. You know him. I don't know what it means to put the dog up, but maybe he's used to you doing it. I don't like the way he spoke to you, but perhaps you are used to that kind of language and attitude. Within a marriage, most women do all the things you do. It's not a big deal to be tallied. I would doubt this isn't the first time he has talked to you that way. I am guessing he works all day long? You two need to learn to compromise, and speak more lovingly to each other. And solve problems within your home.
well he shouldnt have been that hateful especially around your child, but it does sound like you were doing a leisure activity that you were enjoying. maybe there were things to get done that you should have done first then done your painting. if you had worked all day and gotten everything done you needed to then decided to sit down and do something you enjoy then that would be ok. just depends what all had gone on before you didn't take the dog out.
you could have said:
';I don't see you helping out today';
';why did you have to make such a rude degrading comment?';
';I don't see you helping our daughter';
';Oh well why don't you come over here and paint it for me';
or just not cook lunch for him anymore and after he asks why you didn't cook him lunch say because last time i did you weren't thankful for it.
that's pretty mean of him, sorry to hear it! if its possible for you to share the roles more in the house it might be more obvious for your husband to show more courtesy. he might have been really stressed about something else and taking it out on you but that's really not appropriate and especially not in front of your 3 year old.
why were you being so lazy and just sitting on your ***! haha no seriously is he always like that or did he have a bad day. I wouldn't make a big stink over it now you should have said something at the time but if it happens again ask him if he noticed all the things you did do maybe he didn't most me don't. lol
That is unacceptable behavior. He blew up over you 1. while you were with children (a big no - no) , 2. for no reason at all, and 3. after you had done a lot of tasks in the home for him.
He sounds snide and disrespectful.
If someone made my lunch, I would be thanking them gratuitously and not deriding them as lazy. He needs a reality check - and a touch of class.
well I can Say that I know what you are going through I have been putting up with it for 12 years...my husband and I are divorced but we live together because of financial purposes...he always calls me names and tells me how sorry I am and I work a 40 hours week and I have two days off and he has one week three days off and the next four days off...so good luck in whatever you decide to do...just keep your focus on your daughter she is the most important
That's when I respond with ';That was inappropriate - you are the adult - act like it.'; My husband rarely makes those kinds of comments - especially in front of our 8 year old - but I use that phrase and it seems to push the point across to him on those occasions when his brain has fallen out on the floor.
Frankly - I would have been beyond pissed off too!
Sounds like you are married to a real jerk. If that type thing continues kick his sorry *** to the curb. I have been married 55 years and it only took me a few mistakes like that to learn to become a human being and start treating her right. Give him an ultimatum and he will get the message. I hope it turns him around.
Good luck
Wow everyone write this negative things about that husband.
Do you even know if he was joking? sometime man don't think when they say something.
And sometimes man get too comfortable in the relationship that they forget to treat the wife with more respect then just talking to his buddies at a poker game.
Forgive him, and just talk to him. let him know that you didn't like what he had sayed. sometimes we are just dumb. :)
Tonight put the dog up (what ever that means) and don't do anything else. Help him understand that you will not except his rudeness or his disrespect. Do not holler, just make it clear.
Maybe he feels you don't carry your fair share of the work load, but that is no reason to be rude. If he has a problem then he needs to come to you and talk about it.
jp
I think he is very rude, disrespectful, unappreciative, stressed out %26amp; overworked. He's bitter. I think you need to understand that men get moody too.. just like we do. Sometimes they take their stress out on us.. which is wrong(I'm not excusing his behavior) You should try talking to him about why he's so bitter towards you. Let him know if he's in a bad mood or stressed out, it's not ok to take it out on you and he should show you more respect.
That definitely wasn't appropriate. He takes you for granted, and obviously doesn't respect you (or he would never talk to you that way).
I've chatted with several women online who have admitted to cheating on, or divorcing there husbands, for just these reasons.
You need to fire back at him. The more of that crap you take, the more he will continue to dish out.
Bored out of my mind today...if you want to IM for a few minutes.
yahoo messenger IM: blarneystone72
Well stop cooking dinner for him, washing the dishes, cleaning the kitchen and making his lunch. If he asks you why you're not doing your chores then say well you know i could but since i'm a lazy ***, i think im just going to sit here and relax
what an asshole! really, he sounds like a dick. BUT might be a good idea to check if he was just joking and maybe you took it serious. because us women have a tendency to overreact. we let our emotions take over. now if he was really just saying that than yeah, hes an asshole. if he was just kidding and you didn't pick it up then let it go.
What's wrong with him? You were just doing an activity with your daughter--it's not as if you were just laying around the house. Either way, it seems too little of a problem for him to burst out like that.
Tell him to do shitt once in a while! tell him that 1. no great language in front of your kid. 2. tell him what you just told us: you slaved over the house all ******** day! 3. leave him, he's just going to keep doing that. just thought you should know.
First,
that was extremely rude of him!
Never cuss infront of a child!
He should be thankful for the things you did do and the hard
work you've done.
And he could have asked nicely or have done it himself!
Was this an unusual isolated incident?
To give him the benefit of the doubt, I would assume he doesn't talk that way all the time....
Ask him tonight if something was bothering him. You noticed he was a bit 'edgy' last night....
He acted very inconsiderate.... But he could have been in a bad mood and probably said feeling grumpy..... If it bugged you alot you should talk to him... But I don't think he should of spoke to you like that in front of your daughter....
It was extremely rude and it wasn't appropriate in front of your daughter.
let him no he can not talk to you like that because pretty soon hes going to verbally abuse you even worse and you no what comes after that kind of abuse
wow thats sad! very disrespectful of him to do to you! go out and get you some be lazy, lie on your back, and enjoy some good pleasure! he's crazy!
Typical man.
Divorce him. He's an abusive pr**ck.
Seems jealous that you are spending time with the 3yr.old and he can't do anything by himself..selfish
Pretty damned sorry if you ask me, [guess you did]
Stay in the kitchen where you belong.
If I foreclose, will my husband's credit be ruined, or just mine? What else should I be doing?
I have a rental property in my LLC, which only has my name on it. My husband, however is on the promissory note. I have removed my name from my personal home deed and have left only him on it. (my lawyer said it wouldn't matter if we divorced, I would still get half of the house) We have done these things at the advice of our real estate attorney to separate our business (LLC) as much as possible from our personal property in the event of foreclosure on our rental property.If I foreclose, will my husband's credit be ruined, or just mine? What else should I be doing?
Why would you want to have a foreclosure on a rental property? Or for most part any property? The home is in an LLC's name. Meaning the corporation would get bad credit. But the biggest mistake was you didn't place the loan in your LLC's name. Your husband will get bad credit and be foreclosed upon. The next time you and your husband want to purchase a home or refinance you might not get the rate you rightfully deserve because his credit will suffer.
My advice is to pay the mortgage on time even if your renters are not paying you on time. Pay bi-weekly if it is better for you. Paying bi-weekly will reduce the term of your loan by years. A 30 year will be paid down in 23 years.
If your payments are too high on the rental refinance or sell. Don't wait until it is too late.If I foreclose, will my husband's credit be ruined, or just mine? What else should I be doing?
You must be in a community property state because otherwise signing the house over to him means it is his to do with as he pleases, even give it away and you could do nothing.
They foreclose on the promissory note against your husband and assert their property interest against the LLC to show that they have paramount title in accordance to the mortgage.
Credit wise your LLC and your husband will take a hit. If you are in a community property state (10 of them) then you will have the opportunity to assert your 50% community property claim in court and your husband can not deed the property without your signature.
What's important is the promisary note. If you both signed as individuals, then you both promised to pay back. If the promisary note is written as a company and your husband has signed as an officer of the company that's diferent, the company would b the responsible party. In this case if the bank forecloses, they will take the asset pledged to guarantee the loan. If the bank cannot sell the property to cover loan and costs they may pursue other legal remedies. That is usually called a deficency judgement. The judgement would be against either the LLC if that's how the promisary note was signed or you individually if you gave your personal guarantee.
Why would you want to have a foreclosure on a rental property? Or for most part any property? The home is in an LLC's name. Meaning the corporation would get bad credit. But the biggest mistake was you didn't place the loan in your LLC's name. Your husband will get bad credit and be foreclosed upon. The next time you and your husband want to purchase a home or refinance you might not get the rate you rightfully deserve because his credit will suffer.
My advice is to pay the mortgage on time even if your renters are not paying you on time. Pay bi-weekly if it is better for you. Paying bi-weekly will reduce the term of your loan by years. A 30 year will be paid down in 23 years.
If your payments are too high on the rental refinance or sell. Don't wait until it is too late.If I foreclose, will my husband's credit be ruined, or just mine? What else should I be doing?
You must be in a community property state because otherwise signing the house over to him means it is his to do with as he pleases, even give it away and you could do nothing.
They foreclose on the promissory note against your husband and assert their property interest against the LLC to show that they have paramount title in accordance to the mortgage.
Credit wise your LLC and your husband will take a hit. If you are in a community property state (10 of them) then you will have the opportunity to assert your 50% community property claim in court and your husband can not deed the property without your signature.
What's important is the promisary note. If you both signed as individuals, then you both promised to pay back. If the promisary note is written as a company and your husband has signed as an officer of the company that's diferent, the company would b the responsible party. In this case if the bank forecloses, they will take the asset pledged to guarantee the loan. If the bank cannot sell the property to cover loan and costs they may pursue other legal remedies. That is usually called a deficency judgement. The judgement would be against either the LLC if that's how the promisary note was signed or you individually if you gave your personal guarantee.
Did you take your partner/husband along to your booking in appointment?
I didn't think it was necessary to invite my boyfriend along to this appointment. I thought he would get bored with all the form filling in! I also thought it was a good time to ask the midwife any questions in private.
However researching this on the internet many websites suggest taking your partner so they feel included as well as being able to answer any questions about their family history.
What are your thoughts/experiences on this?Did you take your partner/husband along to your booking in appointment?
I completely agree with you. Even I found my booking in appointment boring and a bit of a dissapointment. My boyfriend is coming along to my scan 2moz which we are both excited about, but like I said if your happy to go on your own and he's happy with it then you'll be fine. Save him taking time off work for the more exciting appointments!
As for family history, I was sent the green notes to fill in before hand. He didn't really have a clue so I phoned his mom who told me about a few things. Just check with him or his mom about any problems with his immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles and 1st cousins). It won't be a problem him not being there as I still couldn't fill in some things even after asking him and his mom and the midwife said it didn't matter as you can always tell them when you find out!
Anyway....hope all goes well for you!Did you take your partner/husband along to your booking in appointment?
My husband only really came to the scans with me, the booking in appointment is'nt really important, all they do is fill in forms, and test your wee and take blood.
He came to one midwives appointment pretty late on and enjoyed listening to the baby.
Hi yes my partner came, its important to get all health questions on both sides of family, mine and his, and he also came along as its the only appointment he'll be able to attend due to going to Afghan.
I would say its important for him to go.
I agree with you. Form filling and you get to ask all your daft questions/ voice your fears in private.
He came for the scans because there was something to see!
I went.
I think you should have given him an option. When I make an appointment I tell my husband I have a doctor's appointment on this day at this time and he tells me ok I'm going to go or no it's ok. Either way he feels like he has a choice and feels like I'm including him in the preparing for our baby. For some people it might be different. But my husband really wants to be included in everything..
its better for him to go along to answer any medical history questions that your not sure about
my hubby didnt come 2 mine as i felt the same as u. but he did come 2 every single other appointment. whether it was midwife, hospital or doctors
My husband wanted to go but I don't think the very first appointment is a big deal.
I asked if he wanted to go but explained that it wouldn't be anything exciting. He didn't come to that one but did come to the scans and other appointments (with the heartbeats an stuff).
Just ask, if he doesn't want to go don't be offended but make sure u ask about his family history, if he can think of anything that should be mentioned.
I suggest taking him along w/you. My husband missed one appointment and he regrets it to this day. Remember just because they aren't carrying the baby doesn't mean they don't want to be involved. If he is your boyfriend don't be embarrassed to ask those questions, unless of course it is about abuse. Don't you want him to know how and why you are feeling and going thru. I am pretty sure at the stage you are at you will be able to hear the heart beat.
ask him if he would like to go. if not dont force the issue.
I have three kids, what the heck is a booking in appointment?
I did, and I'm glad that I did. It is a lot of form filling in but also a lot of discussion which you'd both benefit from. If you do feel like you want to speak to the midwife in private though, probably better he doesn't go. I suppose it depends on how close you are and what sort of relationship you have.
I took my baby's dad to all of my appointments including my booking appointment but my midwife actually took me in myself to weigh me and just to have a private chat before bring my partner in
good luck
I didn't even think about it, I wanted him to come with me and he was more than willing to go :) It was a beautiful and exciting experience to see our baby together on the ultrasound and there's a lot of information that if you don't remember, he will! LOL. Your doctor might ask you things you don't want him to know, but we are really close, no secrets, nothing...so I didn't care to bring him.
Your baby might even move on the ultrasound! ...at my second appointment I was 12.5 weeks and my baby was moving like crazy, but my boyfriend wasn't able to go to my second appointment. He would have loved to see our baby move! :)
Bring him to your appointment...it's nice to live the experience together and be able to answer all questions your doctor might have for both of you. If you don't feel comfortable with him being there because you have private things to ask or answer to your doctor, then don't bring him to this appointment, bring him to the next and warn your doctor that when he comes along any private questions it'd be better if they can call you or whatever...
Take care and good luck!
i didnt take my partner as he was in prison, stupid git now he has nothing to do with me im 32 weeks pregnant, i took my mum,
They will want to take his family history too so its a good idea to take him for this first one. Also if he is willing to go with you its a good idea to keephim interested and involved! Later midwife visits woul dbe more boring and quick and will be a better opportunity for you to go alone.
They will probably be able to pick up the baby's heartbeat too so you can llo forward to that!
I don't feel the need to take my boyfriend to every appointment with me, and it would mean he would have to arrange to take time off work to accomodate me. He's been present at both my scans, and he asks after every appointment, but I don't feel like he needs to do any more.
It is totally up to you and your relationship. Ask him! : )
I see where you are coming from, as I kinda felt the same way. Also, with my first pregnancy, I had questions that I wanted to ask in private...things that would totally gross him out. Anyhow, I would just ask him...tell him that you don't think it is necessary, but that he is more than welcome if he wants to come, and no hard feelings either way. Some men are more sensitive than others, and would get their feelings hurt if they thought you didn't want them to go.
Well my boyfriend took me along to the appointment as he happened to have the time off, but he wasn't in with me when I was going through all the paperwork with the midwife. I think it was fairly boring for him really! As the booking in is just going through some medical history %26amp; filling in a lot of forms its not really necessary for him to be there, the same goes for the antenatal check up's unless he really wants to come. I get bored enough sitting around waiting for my turn as the clinic always seems to run late!
Scans are the best for your partner to go along to, they are the most interesting part of antenatal care!
However researching this on the internet many websites suggest taking your partner so they feel included as well as being able to answer any questions about their family history.
What are your thoughts/experiences on this?Did you take your partner/husband along to your booking in appointment?
I completely agree with you. Even I found my booking in appointment boring and a bit of a dissapointment. My boyfriend is coming along to my scan 2moz which we are both excited about, but like I said if your happy to go on your own and he's happy with it then you'll be fine. Save him taking time off work for the more exciting appointments!
As for family history, I was sent the green notes to fill in before hand. He didn't really have a clue so I phoned his mom who told me about a few things. Just check with him or his mom about any problems with his immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles and 1st cousins). It won't be a problem him not being there as I still couldn't fill in some things even after asking him and his mom and the midwife said it didn't matter as you can always tell them when you find out!
Anyway....hope all goes well for you!Did you take your partner/husband along to your booking in appointment?
My husband only really came to the scans with me, the booking in appointment is'nt really important, all they do is fill in forms, and test your wee and take blood.
He came to one midwives appointment pretty late on and enjoyed listening to the baby.
Hi yes my partner came, its important to get all health questions on both sides of family, mine and his, and he also came along as its the only appointment he'll be able to attend due to going to Afghan.
I would say its important for him to go.
I agree with you. Form filling and you get to ask all your daft questions/ voice your fears in private.
He came for the scans because there was something to see!
I went.
I think you should have given him an option. When I make an appointment I tell my husband I have a doctor's appointment on this day at this time and he tells me ok I'm going to go or no it's ok. Either way he feels like he has a choice and feels like I'm including him in the preparing for our baby. For some people it might be different. But my husband really wants to be included in everything..
its better for him to go along to answer any medical history questions that your not sure about
my hubby didnt come 2 mine as i felt the same as u. but he did come 2 every single other appointment. whether it was midwife, hospital or doctors
My husband wanted to go but I don't think the very first appointment is a big deal.
I asked if he wanted to go but explained that it wouldn't be anything exciting. He didn't come to that one but did come to the scans and other appointments (with the heartbeats an stuff).
Just ask, if he doesn't want to go don't be offended but make sure u ask about his family history, if he can think of anything that should be mentioned.
I suggest taking him along w/you. My husband missed one appointment and he regrets it to this day. Remember just because they aren't carrying the baby doesn't mean they don't want to be involved. If he is your boyfriend don't be embarrassed to ask those questions, unless of course it is about abuse. Don't you want him to know how and why you are feeling and going thru. I am pretty sure at the stage you are at you will be able to hear the heart beat.
ask him if he would like to go. if not dont force the issue.
I have three kids, what the heck is a booking in appointment?
I did, and I'm glad that I did. It is a lot of form filling in but also a lot of discussion which you'd both benefit from. If you do feel like you want to speak to the midwife in private though, probably better he doesn't go. I suppose it depends on how close you are and what sort of relationship you have.
I took my baby's dad to all of my appointments including my booking appointment but my midwife actually took me in myself to weigh me and just to have a private chat before bring my partner in
good luck
I didn't even think about it, I wanted him to come with me and he was more than willing to go :) It was a beautiful and exciting experience to see our baby together on the ultrasound and there's a lot of information that if you don't remember, he will! LOL. Your doctor might ask you things you don't want him to know, but we are really close, no secrets, nothing...so I didn't care to bring him.
Your baby might even move on the ultrasound! ...at my second appointment I was 12.5 weeks and my baby was moving like crazy, but my boyfriend wasn't able to go to my second appointment. He would have loved to see our baby move! :)
Bring him to your appointment...it's nice to live the experience together and be able to answer all questions your doctor might have for both of you. If you don't feel comfortable with him being there because you have private things to ask or answer to your doctor, then don't bring him to this appointment, bring him to the next and warn your doctor that when he comes along any private questions it'd be better if they can call you or whatever...
Take care and good luck!
i didnt take my partner as he was in prison, stupid git now he has nothing to do with me im 32 weeks pregnant, i took my mum,
They will want to take his family history too so its a good idea to take him for this first one. Also if he is willing to go with you its a good idea to keephim interested and involved! Later midwife visits woul dbe more boring and quick and will be a better opportunity for you to go alone.
They will probably be able to pick up the baby's heartbeat too so you can llo forward to that!
I don't feel the need to take my boyfriend to every appointment with me, and it would mean he would have to arrange to take time off work to accomodate me. He's been present at both my scans, and he asks after every appointment, but I don't feel like he needs to do any more.
It is totally up to you and your relationship. Ask him! : )
I see where you are coming from, as I kinda felt the same way. Also, with my first pregnancy, I had questions that I wanted to ask in private...things that would totally gross him out. Anyhow, I would just ask him...tell him that you don't think it is necessary, but that he is more than welcome if he wants to come, and no hard feelings either way. Some men are more sensitive than others, and would get their feelings hurt if they thought you didn't want them to go.
Well my boyfriend took me along to the appointment as he happened to have the time off, but he wasn't in with me when I was going through all the paperwork with the midwife. I think it was fairly boring for him really! As the booking in is just going through some medical history %26amp; filling in a lot of forms its not really necessary for him to be there, the same goes for the antenatal check up's unless he really wants to come. I get bored enough sitting around waiting for my turn as the clinic always seems to run late!
Scans are the best for your partner to go along to, they are the most interesting part of antenatal care!
How can I get my husband out of a cult when all my arguments against the organisation fall on deaf ears?
My husband is a member of a Korean cult, which he does not believe to be a cult. I have a degree in psychology and know a cult when I see one. Unfortunately, nothing I say can change his mind and I feel like I'm loosing him to them. He truly believes, just like all those other poor members who have sacrificed everything for the organisation, that he is helping people. I'm out of ideas on what to do next.How can I get my husband out of a cult when all my arguments against the organisation fall on deaf ears?
Is this the Moonies?
Contact Steven Hassan's website, and order the book, ';Releasing the Bonds';. You might also contact him for advice, as he was a Moonie at one time.
You might also try asking him what a cult is, and to study into what cults are and how they work; that it would be a good thing for him to do, even if he believes he is not in a cult.
.How can I get my husband out of a cult when all my arguments against the organisation fall on deaf ears?
I feel for you, I've seen two people close to me swallowed up by religious cults.
Try and physically remove him from their company for a short time, holiday etc, sometimes the shock of coming 'up for air' can do it.
Be careful as your 'interference' can actually spark an attack on you, cults/religions are like a hive mind and see you as a threat unless you are absorbed into their number.
Cult support groups abound.
Good luck. Here are some help groups:
http://www.cultinformation.org.uk/home.h鈥?/a>
http://www.cultfaq.org/cultfaq-counselin鈥?/a>
I haven't' used either of them so check their veracity first.
Above all DON'T be brainwashed, they will (including your husband) assault your character and self-esteem. They will make you feel as if you are 'evil' or 'less than' for not joining them. After they have made you feel as if you are either
a. Missing out on a great chance to be 'completed' as a human, or enormously succesful/fulfilled
or
b. Currently suffering emptiness and general bad stuff because you aren't one of them.
Then you will be expected to hand your life over to them.
Get away. Protect yourself.
Just because you have a degree in Psychology does not mean that you are objective or even fair for that matter. Each person has their mind set on their own beliefs and some individuals who use Psychology as a profession to manipulate others into thinking that it is all in their heads if they are stereotyped, etc.,also exist. If you love this person. Look into what he believes and then decide. Maybe you two are not meant to be. You can not force someone to change. They need to want to do that for themselves. A degree? Really? You should have been able to figure this out, unless you didn't want to.
Prayer.
If that is not an option for you, Intervention from his former friends and family.
If that doesn't work, leaving him would be of great benefit to you AND might open his eyes.
Peace.
edit: Assuming you are referring to the Moonies, most of them disappear and are not heard from again. They willingly sever all ties with their previous life to serve the religion. The fact he is still around, means he is hoping to sway you into his way of thinking. Run through the three steps above...the last of which is you leaving for your own well being. God hates divorce, but allows it for unequally yoked individuals. You are not bound by your marriage vows...to this lost individual. You are to be commended for staying as long as you have trying to save the man you love.
Tell him you want to join also. Then tell him you want to give everything to the organization and that both of you should move to Korea and spread the teachings of the cult. Then after about 3 months when both of you are completely broke and standing on a street corner in a small town in Korea you tell him you are pregnant. It will be a nice vacation for both of you and he will come back to reality. Just be sure you have hidden enough money to get you back to the USA!
If you had a degree in Psychology then you would have known your arguments would have fallen on deaf ears. The primary thing in cults is brainwashing.
I would leave if it is that bad.
Your husband needs to put your needs before those of his cult.
You have to give him a clear choice - you or them.
Otherwise you will end up a door mat.
you can not force some one to do some thing they do not want to do unless you can find some one who deprograms people who have been in cults.
sounds like religion in general..like u know when someone proves them wrong it goes on deaf ears.... anyways i think you should confront is *** about it.
More details about cult maybe a name please so we know you are not a troll.
He's a loser. Cut and run.
Otherwise there will be 2 losers.
Divorce his ***.
it seems like paternity?
why'd you marry him is the biggest question.
Pray
Is he a Mason?
Let me guess, the Moonies?
Which one? you want help post it!
Korean cult?
Do they worship Kim Chi?
Fermented cabbage in the Korean red pepper chili sauce, love the stuff. Worthy of worship.
I know what your talking about correct me if I am wrong but here is some info. I found this older article http://www.rickross.com/reference/ubf/ub鈥?/a> and the current website http://www.ubf.org/
Not sure why or how the moonies came up in some posts, most likely because you didnt explain too much.
Anyway, sorry to hear this is happening to you. And it is scary because it sounds like this cult is hiding behind christianity. This is why I dont like christianity... it somehow finds its way into corruption.... and yes, all are cults in my opinion.... any group or organization that demands strict rules and procedures as well as belief systems of anyone is a cult..... all are bad news.
This is exactly how Waco Texas happened with Koresh and Jim Jones in Jonestown where thousands of people committed mass suicide for their beliefs.... so you have every reason to be concerned.
Unfortunately this cult is probably so well hidden into christianity there are probably members right here on YA. So whatever you do, dont be talking to anyone or giving your personal info..... you never know.
I think your only choice is to leave the marriage and save yourself before you end up poor and devasted...... I am sure by now your ostraszied from your family and friends and if your not.. run to them immediately. Dont join for love..... you said your educated in pyschology.... use it..... you know this is bad for your head.
And your right... nobody is getting helped but those who are at the top of the food chain... guarantee they take most of the money, have homes in the Caymans.. yachts.. and laugh at the peons like your husband. Your wise to not believe..... so get out.... before its too late for you.
Good luck with this.... hope it all works out for you.
You need to pray about it, for if you do not have any belief yourself you can not say another is wrong.
Is this the Moonies?
Contact Steven Hassan's website, and order the book, ';Releasing the Bonds';. You might also contact him for advice, as he was a Moonie at one time.
You might also try asking him what a cult is, and to study into what cults are and how they work; that it would be a good thing for him to do, even if he believes he is not in a cult.
.How can I get my husband out of a cult when all my arguments against the organisation fall on deaf ears?
I feel for you, I've seen two people close to me swallowed up by religious cults.
Try and physically remove him from their company for a short time, holiday etc, sometimes the shock of coming 'up for air' can do it.
Be careful as your 'interference' can actually spark an attack on you, cults/religions are like a hive mind and see you as a threat unless you are absorbed into their number.
Cult support groups abound.
Good luck. Here are some help groups:
http://www.cultinformation.org.uk/home.h鈥?/a>
http://www.cultfaq.org/cultfaq-counselin鈥?/a>
I haven't' used either of them so check their veracity first.
Above all DON'T be brainwashed, they will (including your husband) assault your character and self-esteem. They will make you feel as if you are 'evil' or 'less than' for not joining them. After they have made you feel as if you are either
a. Missing out on a great chance to be 'completed' as a human, or enormously succesful/fulfilled
or
b. Currently suffering emptiness and general bad stuff because you aren't one of them.
Then you will be expected to hand your life over to them.
Get away. Protect yourself.
Just because you have a degree in Psychology does not mean that you are objective or even fair for that matter. Each person has their mind set on their own beliefs and some individuals who use Psychology as a profession to manipulate others into thinking that it is all in their heads if they are stereotyped, etc.,also exist. If you love this person. Look into what he believes and then decide. Maybe you two are not meant to be. You can not force someone to change. They need to want to do that for themselves. A degree? Really? You should have been able to figure this out, unless you didn't want to.
Prayer.
If that is not an option for you, Intervention from his former friends and family.
If that doesn't work, leaving him would be of great benefit to you AND might open his eyes.
Peace.
edit: Assuming you are referring to the Moonies, most of them disappear and are not heard from again. They willingly sever all ties with their previous life to serve the religion. The fact he is still around, means he is hoping to sway you into his way of thinking. Run through the three steps above...the last of which is you leaving for your own well being. God hates divorce, but allows it for unequally yoked individuals. You are not bound by your marriage vows...to this lost individual. You are to be commended for staying as long as you have trying to save the man you love.
Tell him you want to join also. Then tell him you want to give everything to the organization and that both of you should move to Korea and spread the teachings of the cult. Then after about 3 months when both of you are completely broke and standing on a street corner in a small town in Korea you tell him you are pregnant. It will be a nice vacation for both of you and he will come back to reality. Just be sure you have hidden enough money to get you back to the USA!
If you had a degree in Psychology then you would have known your arguments would have fallen on deaf ears. The primary thing in cults is brainwashing.
I would leave if it is that bad.
Your husband needs to put your needs before those of his cult.
You have to give him a clear choice - you or them.
Otherwise you will end up a door mat.
you can not force some one to do some thing they do not want to do unless you can find some one who deprograms people who have been in cults.
sounds like religion in general..like u know when someone proves them wrong it goes on deaf ears.... anyways i think you should confront is *** about it.
More details about cult maybe a name please so we know you are not a troll.
He's a loser. Cut and run.
Otherwise there will be 2 losers.
Divorce his ***.
it seems like paternity?
why'd you marry him is the biggest question.
Pray
Is he a Mason?
Let me guess, the Moonies?
Which one? you want help post it!
Korean cult?
Do they worship Kim Chi?
Fermented cabbage in the Korean red pepper chili sauce, love the stuff. Worthy of worship.
I know what your talking about correct me if I am wrong but here is some info. I found this older article http://www.rickross.com/reference/ubf/ub鈥?/a> and the current website http://www.ubf.org/
Not sure why or how the moonies came up in some posts, most likely because you didnt explain too much.
Anyway, sorry to hear this is happening to you. And it is scary because it sounds like this cult is hiding behind christianity. This is why I dont like christianity... it somehow finds its way into corruption.... and yes, all are cults in my opinion.... any group or organization that demands strict rules and procedures as well as belief systems of anyone is a cult..... all are bad news.
This is exactly how Waco Texas happened with Koresh and Jim Jones in Jonestown where thousands of people committed mass suicide for their beliefs.... so you have every reason to be concerned.
Unfortunately this cult is probably so well hidden into christianity there are probably members right here on YA. So whatever you do, dont be talking to anyone or giving your personal info..... you never know.
I think your only choice is to leave the marriage and save yourself before you end up poor and devasted...... I am sure by now your ostraszied from your family and friends and if your not.. run to them immediately. Dont join for love..... you said your educated in pyschology.... use it..... you know this is bad for your head.
And your right... nobody is getting helped but those who are at the top of the food chain... guarantee they take most of the money, have homes in the Caymans.. yachts.. and laugh at the peons like your husband. Your wise to not believe..... so get out.... before its too late for you.
Good luck with this.... hope it all works out for you.
You need to pray about it, for if you do not have any belief yourself you can not say another is wrong.
How must Alonso Guerrero, first husband of Her Royal Hotness Princess Letizia feel?
I mean, here's a professional writer and commoner who knows every intimate (literally) detail about the future Queen of Spain. That's some power.How must Alonso Guerrero, first husband of Her Royal Hotness Princess Letizia feel?
He seems like a decent man: Professor at a university, quiet, (married?)
Nowadays, knowing someone (even a future queen) intimately is no big deal. People are accepting the facts that a 30-year old would have some kind of relationship prior to marriage. Letizia was a divorcee, that's a little different since most royal brides are unmarried, but you just have to move on.
Now we should all be worried about her weight. She was thin when she got married, but now she's gaunt!How must Alonso Guerrero, first husband of Her Royal Hotness Princess Letizia feel?
How does he feel?
I'd say a slight caress across most of her body!
who wants me?
He seems like a decent man: Professor at a university, quiet, (married?)
Nowadays, knowing someone (even a future queen) intimately is no big deal. People are accepting the facts that a 30-year old would have some kind of relationship prior to marriage. Letizia was a divorcee, that's a little different since most royal brides are unmarried, but you just have to move on.
Now we should all be worried about her weight. She was thin when she got married, but now she's gaunt!How must Alonso Guerrero, first husband of Her Royal Hotness Princess Letizia feel?
How does he feel?
I'd say a slight caress across most of her body!
who wants me?
What to wear to my Husband's five year high school reunion?
Hey everyone, here's the deal. My husband grew up in a little town north of Kansas City. We met in St. Louis two and a half years ago, got married, and had a baby. Now his five year high school reunion is coming up and we are going back to the town he grew up in. I see this as my chance to impress everyone he knew all his life. I have just lost 55 pounds and am going to probably lose at least 10 more before the reunion on the 21st of July. They are having the party in the evening at a marina at their towns lake. Apparently it's a pretty big thing there. So my question is what do I wear. I want to make an impression, but at the same time I don't want to look like a city girl who had no idea what she was thinking when she got ready. So I come to you for my advice. Anything and everything goes. I want to feel like I am something to be proud of when I walk in with my husband. He already thinks I am, and that is great. The perfect look will make it even better for me. Thanks!What to wear to my Husband's five year high school reunion?
I'd go with something classic, like a nice little black dress and nice heels. Nothing too over-the-top, with conservative jewelry. Who cares if they think you're some city girl, LOL. Dress to impress is what I say!What to wear to my Husband's five year high school reunion?
A nice summer dress. Nothing too short, but not too long either. You want it to come down almost to your knees. Wear flat shoes, a nice necklace, and a cute pair of your favorite earrings. It will show off your body without being ';slutty'; and you'll turn all the guys heads'. Have fun.
Something like this, perhaps?
http://www.simplydresses.com/popups/bigg鈥?/a>
a pretty dress and high heels have fun!
is there a theme?
if not i think you should just
wear something basic
such as a little black dress.
and instead of impressing them
with your looks impress 'em
mostly with your personality
and your career [unless your a house mother]
I personally think personality is
what matters most.
good luck at your husband's reunion!
IMO, you don't know these people so you shouldn't feel any real need to dress up to impress them. They don't have any preconceived notions about you.. How about the little black dress? Pair it with a nice pair of heels and a nice trench coat if it gets cold out (??)
ok a little black halter dress!and classic gold earings,gold belt,gold shoes,gold purse and gold wring, and a gold necklace!or instead or gold accesories have them in ur favorite color!
Alright. i think a cute, but classy knee length dress, some great shoes(possibly some wedges that tie around the ankle), and a cute handbag.
Wear something that you think is gorgeous, in a fabric that feels wonderful against your skin. Wear the highest heels you can stand, boots if you feel comfortable and the weather allows. Wear your hair loose. Wear dark lipstick and soft eye makeup. Wear long earrings. Don't wear a really low neckline or really short skirt, it's too obvious. If you feel sexy, you'll look sexy and what could be better.
Remember, don't worry about what they or say, they're just jealous anyway.
And, if you're a city girl, be proud. I am. Have fun.
What's the dress code? casual, semi-formal,formal?
Wear something in YOUR favorite bright color. [No black - there will be lots of black!]
A pretty dress that shows off cleavage or legs, with strappy heels;
for more casual, wear a jean skirt and a cute [ flattering, not necessarily trendy ] fitted top with peeptoe wedges.
Both attractive and sexy without being slutty.
I'd go with something classic, like a nice little black dress and nice heels. Nothing too over-the-top, with conservative jewelry. Who cares if they think you're some city girl, LOL. Dress to impress is what I say!What to wear to my Husband's five year high school reunion?
A nice summer dress. Nothing too short, but not too long either. You want it to come down almost to your knees. Wear flat shoes, a nice necklace, and a cute pair of your favorite earrings. It will show off your body without being ';slutty'; and you'll turn all the guys heads'. Have fun.
Something like this, perhaps?
http://www.simplydresses.com/popups/bigg鈥?/a>
a pretty dress and high heels have fun!
is there a theme?
if not i think you should just
wear something basic
such as a little black dress.
and instead of impressing them
with your looks impress 'em
mostly with your personality
and your career [unless your a house mother]
I personally think personality is
what matters most.
good luck at your husband's reunion!
IMO, you don't know these people so you shouldn't feel any real need to dress up to impress them. They don't have any preconceived notions about you.. How about the little black dress? Pair it with a nice pair of heels and a nice trench coat if it gets cold out (??)
ok a little black halter dress!and classic gold earings,gold belt,gold shoes,gold purse and gold wring, and a gold necklace!or instead or gold accesories have them in ur favorite color!
Alright. i think a cute, but classy knee length dress, some great shoes(possibly some wedges that tie around the ankle), and a cute handbag.
Wear something that you think is gorgeous, in a fabric that feels wonderful against your skin. Wear the highest heels you can stand, boots if you feel comfortable and the weather allows. Wear your hair loose. Wear dark lipstick and soft eye makeup. Wear long earrings. Don't wear a really low neckline or really short skirt, it's too obvious. If you feel sexy, you'll look sexy and what could be better.
Remember, don't worry about what they or say, they're just jealous anyway.
And, if you're a city girl, be proud. I am. Have fun.
What's the dress code? casual, semi-formal,formal?
Wear something in YOUR favorite bright color. [No black - there will be lots of black!]
A pretty dress that shows off cleavage or legs, with strappy heels;
for more casual, wear a jean skirt and a cute [ flattering, not necessarily trendy ] fitted top with peeptoe wedges.
Both attractive and sexy without being slutty.
My husband is going to have radiofrequency procedure on his back?
starting at L3 4 5,S1. has anyone had success with this,he's not sure he wants to go through this.My husband is going to have radiofrequency procedure on his back?
I'm about to have my left side RF procedure this week; having my right RF previously done earlier this month. I had my first set done early 2004 %26amp; have had it done every year since then. It helps me so much! I have DDD, scoliosis, sciatica, %26amp; bunches of other stuff, %26amp; the RF actually does help me, especially with the sciatica. My PMS doc does my lumbar-facet area, %26amp; I get anywhere from 4-6 small holes in me, which has never scarred. But, the nerves do grow back; for me, anywhere from 6 to 10 mos., depending on how active you are. From what I understand, the nerves can take up to about 2 weeks to die. I take it easy for at least a few days, but, I'm a very slow healer, with a very bad back. I also find that heat helps me much more than the ice cold packs. They give you ice right away to help decrease the swelling. Use an ice pak every few hours the first day, then the next day, switch over to heat if it's more comfortable for him. My husband takes just the one day off for me, then goes back to work the next day, %26amp; I'm fine on my own. A little slow moving at times, but fine! You don't feel anything funky going on inside of you, either. ;-) It's an absolutely tremendous relief for me, and I'd much rather do the RFs than have back surgery; less recuperation time, and not as painful! Hope this helps you, and good luck to y'all! ;-)costume mask blackhead treatment
I'm about to have my left side RF procedure this week; having my right RF previously done earlier this month. I had my first set done early 2004 %26amp; have had it done every year since then. It helps me so much! I have DDD, scoliosis, sciatica, %26amp; bunches of other stuff, %26amp; the RF actually does help me, especially with the sciatica. My PMS doc does my lumbar-facet area, %26amp; I get anywhere from 4-6 small holes in me, which has never scarred. But, the nerves do grow back; for me, anywhere from 6 to 10 mos., depending on how active you are. From what I understand, the nerves can take up to about 2 weeks to die. I take it easy for at least a few days, but, I'm a very slow healer, with a very bad back. I also find that heat helps me much more than the ice cold packs. They give you ice right away to help decrease the swelling. Use an ice pak every few hours the first day, then the next day, switch over to heat if it's more comfortable for him. My husband takes just the one day off for me, then goes back to work the next day, %26amp; I'm fine on my own. A little slow moving at times, but fine! You don't feel anything funky going on inside of you, either. ;-) It's an absolutely tremendous relief for me, and I'd much rather do the RFs than have back surgery; less recuperation time, and not as painful! Hope this helps you, and good luck to y'all! ;-)
What would you do if you found a letter that your wife wrote to her ex husband?
the letter said that she loved him and was going to give him the house number and to call when i was at work since he is in prison for drugs the last 25 years. i have been married for 7 years and i do everything for my family and always put myself last. thats just me and thats who i am, she does not appreciate anything i do for her. she calls me names and blames me all the time, please help. what should i do?What would you do if you found a letter that your wife wrote to her ex husband?
If she is pursuing a relationship with anyone, especially her ex-husband, that is crossing a major boundary in my opinion. You did not know about this letter, so there is something knowingly indecent, on her behalf, about the letter.
If she's blaming you so often, ask her for reasons why. If they aren't valid, she's just pushing her blame, or guilt perhaps, on you. You really should get marital help, or walk away from this mess.What would you do if you found a letter that your wife wrote to her ex husband?
I think you should talk to her about it---after all the guy being in prison and being her ex husband doesn't mean that she wants him to fall off the face of the earth. You don't give much to go on, such as were there children involved or how long they were together or what..I have been divorced and my current husband has been divorced and as much as we dislike the hell we went through while being married---neither of us wishes the worst would happen to our ex's---at one time there was enough love to change us into the people that we are today, and for that, we can both be proud that we had been were we were in our past...There is always things going on in other people's minds that you will never know about until you ask..If you love the woman you are married to TALK TO HER NOT THE INTERNET.
Open communication within couple is one of the most important things the relationship will survive. TALK NOT SHOUT! Though your actions speak everything of your love to your family, you still need the words to justify your actions, especially with your wife. Talk to her and you will find the answer. Good luck.
I would file for a divorce. Then I would pack everything and move out. Don't forget to leave the letter she wrote to her ex-husband and a note from you, telling her that you always give her everything she wants. It appears that she deserves her ex-husband more then she deserve you.
prepare for the divorce. Set some money away somehow to pay an attorney and get set up in a place to live..take credit cards away from her and cancel them or at least have your name taken off of them and put an ad in the paper that you are not responsible for anything she spends after a specific date.
confront her! don't wait any longer.
remember in a relationship there should always be Love, Trust, Respect and Loyalty.
without one of those everything starts falling apart, not to mention but have an intimate relationship too.
how would she like it if u where talking to ur ex... think about that.
think about urself and ur kids.
im sorry but it time to put your self first, if she want to be with someone
else then give her the freedom to do so, it sound like she does not
respect you and what you do for her so may it time to find someone
that will appreciate you...
because she knows she's in the wrong and probably feel guilty. You sound like an aw some guy and any woman would be pleased to have you. I would suggest sitting her down and stress to her your feelings tor wards her and the name calling, because it's not necessary. I wish you good luck
If you let this continue this will end badly....for you.
Some women just cling to the worst types, I'm sorry.
Good luck
Confront her and then decide what you are going to do.
walk away. she will either wise up or not.
get out of it move to the beach and focus on you don't be codependent
She sure sounds like a real ';winner';! I would let her know you found that letter %26amp; ask her what she plans on doing. You DO NOT have to accept the unacceptable or anything she's doing against you. There is NO reason to put yourself last. You ARE IMPORTANT %26amp; far BETTER than she is. I would tell her you are NOT going to settle for what she intends on doing w/her ex. IF he calls from jail, 9 times out of 10 it w/be ';collect calls';. Of course you are NOT going to pay for these calls. I would tell her she either makes up her mind it's you or it's him. She CANNOT have both worlds nor should you have to stand for it. Actually, I wouldn't want to have any parts of her. After finding out what you just did, I'd tell her to pack her things %26amp; get out of YOUR home. You do NOT have to be second best to some scum such as she's ';chosen'; over you. I would NOT support her in any way at all. Just tell her you no longer want her in your life. You do not live like this %26amp; should NOT be forced to have any parts of it. I don't k now if you have any children, but IF you DO, they should also NOT be involved w/a mother such as she is. You should get FULL CUSTODY %26amp; I feel if the truth be known as to what she's doing, you shouldn't have any problems w/full custody of them. I don't feel a judge would think much of a wife/mother involved w/an ex who is in jail for that length of time for drugs. PLEASE for ONCE put yourself FIRST! She does NOT deserve you %26amp; your kindness, your kind heartedness. Get her out of your life for good as she is NOT trustworthy. You can put her in the past %26amp; leave her there. Start a whole new beginning for yourself. You did NOT marry the rite person, but there IS a rite one out there just for you. You WILL meet someone who deserves you %26amp; will give you the love you deserve. Please start on this immediately as she's only going to start using you. Get you life straightened out as far as she goes. Say what you mean, mean what you say...DO IT...I do wish you the very best...:)
If she is pursuing a relationship with anyone, especially her ex-husband, that is crossing a major boundary in my opinion. You did not know about this letter, so there is something knowingly indecent, on her behalf, about the letter.
If she's blaming you so often, ask her for reasons why. If they aren't valid, she's just pushing her blame, or guilt perhaps, on you. You really should get marital help, or walk away from this mess.What would you do if you found a letter that your wife wrote to her ex husband?
I think you should talk to her about it---after all the guy being in prison and being her ex husband doesn't mean that she wants him to fall off the face of the earth. You don't give much to go on, such as were there children involved or how long they were together or what..I have been divorced and my current husband has been divorced and as much as we dislike the hell we went through while being married---neither of us wishes the worst would happen to our ex's---at one time there was enough love to change us into the people that we are today, and for that, we can both be proud that we had been were we were in our past...There is always things going on in other people's minds that you will never know about until you ask..If you love the woman you are married to TALK TO HER NOT THE INTERNET.
Open communication within couple is one of the most important things the relationship will survive. TALK NOT SHOUT! Though your actions speak everything of your love to your family, you still need the words to justify your actions, especially with your wife. Talk to her and you will find the answer. Good luck.
I would file for a divorce. Then I would pack everything and move out. Don't forget to leave the letter she wrote to her ex-husband and a note from you, telling her that you always give her everything she wants. It appears that she deserves her ex-husband more then she deserve you.
prepare for the divorce. Set some money away somehow to pay an attorney and get set up in a place to live..take credit cards away from her and cancel them or at least have your name taken off of them and put an ad in the paper that you are not responsible for anything she spends after a specific date.
confront her! don't wait any longer.
remember in a relationship there should always be Love, Trust, Respect and Loyalty.
without one of those everything starts falling apart, not to mention but have an intimate relationship too.
how would she like it if u where talking to ur ex... think about that.
think about urself and ur kids.
im sorry but it time to put your self first, if she want to be with someone
else then give her the freedom to do so, it sound like she does not
respect you and what you do for her so may it time to find someone
that will appreciate you...
because she knows she's in the wrong and probably feel guilty. You sound like an aw some guy and any woman would be pleased to have you. I would suggest sitting her down and stress to her your feelings tor wards her and the name calling, because it's not necessary. I wish you good luck
If you let this continue this will end badly....for you.
Some women just cling to the worst types, I'm sorry.
Good luck
Confront her and then decide what you are going to do.
walk away. she will either wise up or not.
get out of it move to the beach and focus on you don't be codependent
She sure sounds like a real ';winner';! I would let her know you found that letter %26amp; ask her what she plans on doing. You DO NOT have to accept the unacceptable or anything she's doing against you. There is NO reason to put yourself last. You ARE IMPORTANT %26amp; far BETTER than she is. I would tell her you are NOT going to settle for what she intends on doing w/her ex. IF he calls from jail, 9 times out of 10 it w/be ';collect calls';. Of course you are NOT going to pay for these calls. I would tell her she either makes up her mind it's you or it's him. She CANNOT have both worlds nor should you have to stand for it. Actually, I wouldn't want to have any parts of her. After finding out what you just did, I'd tell her to pack her things %26amp; get out of YOUR home. You do NOT have to be second best to some scum such as she's ';chosen'; over you. I would NOT support her in any way at all. Just tell her you no longer want her in your life. You do not live like this %26amp; should NOT be forced to have any parts of it. I don't k now if you have any children, but IF you DO, they should also NOT be involved w/a mother such as she is. You should get FULL CUSTODY %26amp; I feel if the truth be known as to what she's doing, you shouldn't have any problems w/full custody of them. I don't feel a judge would think much of a wife/mother involved w/an ex who is in jail for that length of time for drugs. PLEASE for ONCE put yourself FIRST! She does NOT deserve you %26amp; your kindness, your kind heartedness. Get her out of your life for good as she is NOT trustworthy. You can put her in the past %26amp; leave her there. Start a whole new beginning for yourself. You did NOT marry the rite person, but there IS a rite one out there just for you. You WILL meet someone who deserves you %26amp; will give you the love you deserve. Please start on this immediately as she's only going to start using you. Get you life straightened out as far as she goes. Say what you mean, mean what you say...DO IT...I do wish you the very best...:)
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