Often when I watch a video with my husband he won't pause the movie for me so I can go to the bathroom b/c he says it ruins the mood of the film. However, I like to eat popcorn and drink something during the movie so it makes me have to go but since he won't pause it, I have to use an adult diaper. Even when I haven't drank anything during the movie I usually have to go and he says other people shouldn't have to suffer for me. It was really embarassing for me tonight because we had company and he asked if I had my diaper on in front of them and I am only 20 years old. He says he doesn't mind if I wear a diaper but if I pee I he won't let me sit in his lap anymore. I'm just getting so worn out by this that I have often watched movies with Jessica instead without my husband just so we can pause it and do what we need to do.How can I get my husband to pause the dvd for me when I need to go to the bathroom?
Ok lets say you are not joking and if you are not then just punch him in the freaking mouth and tell him its for being the ****** that he is.How can I get my husband to pause the dvd for me when I need to go to the bathroom?
If this is NOT a joke...
I would pick up the remote myself and PAUSE the movie and take the remote with me to the bathroom (make sure that you wash your hands before retuning to the couch) and then hit ';PLAY'; and continue to watch the movie...Tell him that while he is waiting for you he can go grab a drink out of the refrigerator...If it was me in this situation, I wouldn't put up with that immature attitude.
If i knew my husband was going to put on an adult diaper I would not pause it...just so i could laugh at him...You need to get up and pause it yourself..or threaten to remove the dvd and take it with you if he does not pause it...then he will likely pause it so that you guys will not have to completely restart the dvd. If this does not work you MUST WITHHOLD SEX OR START OFFERING UP BJ'S IN EXCHANGE FOR THE PAUSE!
If you are 20 then you should be able to go before the movie and hold it for the 2 hours it takes to watch a movie. If you can't hold it for 2 hrs then there is something wrong with you. I am with your husband you should hold it or miss the movie.
You're kidding, right? You're 20 and you wear an adult diaper because your husband won't pause a dvd for you? A) leave your husband B) miss part of the movie and go pee and C) I can't believe what you're saying at all. Does your husband hit you too?
it takes a secure person to wear a diaper but its not right so get back at him by slipping laxatives in his food or drink next time you watch a movie and see if his rule still applies lol
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Go to the bathroom quickly! It is not like you are missing anything really important in the two minutes it might take you. Don't wear a diaper I mean why? If you don't like it, when you walk by the tv, turn it off or something but don't degreat your self sheesh
Next time, tell him your diaper is full, then pull it off and playfully put it over his head. Do it while watching Titanic, right as the ship is going down, that way you'll keep the mood going for your husband.
I would not permit my husband to make me wear diapers. That's childish. If he doesn't stop the DVD for you and you have to pee, do it right in front of him or while sitting on his lap. That should teach him to be more considerate.
Hit him in the head with something hard and pause it yourself. Meg
Take the remote with you to the bathroom. Neen
Lay down the law. Pause in the middle of things he likes. Joe (special guest)
Okay...
Get rid of the diapers.
Tell your husband your not wearing diapers for him!
He has to pause the movie for you or thats not a good husband.
Why do you take getting as an inferior???
you've got to be kidding !! if this is really true, just take the remote and pause it yourself and take it with you to the bathroom. tell him to grow up and quit being such a controlling PIG!
hes sellfish and clearly doesnt deserve you. just do this. next time hes in the mood tell him that youre not in the mood. after a while he'll wonder why you never wanna do it
sounds like he has control over you, are you an adult or child? if you ask these ?'s you know the answer. pretty lady leave this jerk or reap his wrath cause its only gonna get worse. I'm so sorry. thanks. xoxo
Lay the remote on the floor...kick him in the balls...make sure his knee falls upon the pause button... he won't be able to push play because he will have both hands on his balls....he should stay that way until you get back at least
Start missing the parts of the movie and just go. As you are walking away tell him he is cut off from any and all other pleasures.
1) Try a Porta Potty;
2) Try a 'New' Husband....!!
take the remote and pause it and walk to the bathroom
grab the remote and press pause and if he takes it back then slap him with the remote
Turn the movie off or tell him he's being a dick and needs to be more sensitive
Tell him you will divorce with him. Let's see if he will pees if you say that. ;)
Tell him you'll divorce him if he doesn't pause it!
aww i'm sorry:( he shouldn't be treating you like that!!!
maybe try going to the bathroom before the movie?
Sit on his lap and then go.
LMAO LOLOLOL adult diaper that's hilarious.
Lmaoo, Diaper? That's funny!
It aint Happelin,,,sorry honey
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLLO
*monocle drops from eye
Your husband sounds like a jerk.
um, take the remote
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
I want to buy my husband a decent set of golf clubs without spending more than $200, any suggestions?
He is just starting off, but I am convinced, he'll lose interest, so I really don't want to spend too much. I would love any ideas on decent sets in that price range.I want to buy my husband a decent set of golf clubs without spending more than $200, any suggestions?
Go to Costco I think they still sell the set by Jack Nicklaus it comes with everything he needs including the bag , I am almost sure it was around $200 , that is actually a Great Set for him to get started on , also you can try Ebay or a store called Play It Again Sports , they specifically sell used equipment.
Good Luck , He is a Lucky Guy !!!!I want to buy my husband a decent set of golf clubs without spending more than $200, any suggestions?
I Have not played since I was a Kid. Well except for Tiger Woods Golf on my computer. 04-08 seasons. I do have a couple of friends who do play golf and have read through some golf magazines. Golf equipment is varied based on the individual golfer. Size, Height, Weight, right or left handed. Based on your knowledge of your husband you are right not to spend very much money on his first set of clubs. I if I were you Google up Golf clubs on the Internet and post your question to a few manufactures. I am sure that some one will give you some good suggestions. I know this may come as a shock but some of these clubs can cost up to several hundred dollars each. Do not be detered by this I am sure that you will be able to find something in your price range. A full set of clubs numbers 14. 6 or 7 clubs may be enough to start with. Also there are a lot of clubs that are a lot less expensive. GOOD LUCK BOB
You are having to go with used clubs to stay in that price range. Go to your local golf shop and tell the people there what you want. They will show you whats available. Make sure that you are telling them he is just starting out, b/c you will want to get him a set of ';forgiving'; golf clubs. Look for these names: Adams, Callaway, Ping, King Cobra, Cleveland or Taylor made in a ';Beginners'; club and you will do good. It will not be a whole set (It will not have the driver, 3wood or putter. Those will cost extra, but he can find deals on that.
If you want to get everything, (Driver and woods) you might want to look at complete sets for sale through Golfsmiths web site. They have there own clubs, which are not as good as the major manufacuers, however are very good for the beginner. Go tho Golfsmith.com and check it out
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Go to globalgolf.com they have new and used sets of irons and woods. If you would rather talk to someone in the know about these things, go to a large golf emporium (golfgalaxy, golfdom, etc.) that deals in used clubs as well as new. Talk to a sales rep there and they will point you in a much better direction.
My dad bought a good set at King Par, I don't know if that's a local chain or if it's nationwide, but he got an entire set brand-new for $150. I think it was on sale, but there'll probably be some good sales at any time.
I know this site has quite a few sets of used golf clubs for sale. You might want to check it out :)
You definitely won't find any brand new clubs that are decent without spending 500 or more. My suggestion is going to ebay or craigslist.
for a beginner, clubs are clubs.. go check out wal mart's.. but i would suggest looking on craigslist or ebay and getting him some used clubs in decent condition
There are no decent sets in that price range. Maybe e-bay. If you want a top tier set new, youre looking at at least $800 to $900.
Jack Nicklaus
Look for used equipment. New in that price range you won't find much.
no full sets for that much
They will have 2 be secondhand
craigslist
buy a used set
Go to Costco I think they still sell the set by Jack Nicklaus it comes with everything he needs including the bag , I am almost sure it was around $200 , that is actually a Great Set for him to get started on , also you can try Ebay or a store called Play It Again Sports , they specifically sell used equipment.
Good Luck , He is a Lucky Guy !!!!I want to buy my husband a decent set of golf clubs without spending more than $200, any suggestions?
I Have not played since I was a Kid. Well except for Tiger Woods Golf on my computer. 04-08 seasons. I do have a couple of friends who do play golf and have read through some golf magazines. Golf equipment is varied based on the individual golfer. Size, Height, Weight, right or left handed. Based on your knowledge of your husband you are right not to spend very much money on his first set of clubs. I if I were you Google up Golf clubs on the Internet and post your question to a few manufactures. I am sure that some one will give you some good suggestions. I know this may come as a shock but some of these clubs can cost up to several hundred dollars each. Do not be detered by this I am sure that you will be able to find something in your price range. A full set of clubs numbers 14. 6 or 7 clubs may be enough to start with. Also there are a lot of clubs that are a lot less expensive. GOOD LUCK BOB
You are having to go with used clubs to stay in that price range. Go to your local golf shop and tell the people there what you want. They will show you whats available. Make sure that you are telling them he is just starting out, b/c you will want to get him a set of ';forgiving'; golf clubs. Look for these names: Adams, Callaway, Ping, King Cobra, Cleveland or Taylor made in a ';Beginners'; club and you will do good. It will not be a whole set (It will not have the driver, 3wood or putter. Those will cost extra, but he can find deals on that.
If you want to get everything, (Driver and woods) you might want to look at complete sets for sale through Golfsmiths web site. They have there own clubs, which are not as good as the major manufacuers, however are very good for the beginner. Go tho Golfsmith.com and check it out
BTW%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt; ';Good Wife';
Go to globalgolf.com they have new and used sets of irons and woods. If you would rather talk to someone in the know about these things, go to a large golf emporium (golfgalaxy, golfdom, etc.) that deals in used clubs as well as new. Talk to a sales rep there and they will point you in a much better direction.
My dad bought a good set at King Par, I don't know if that's a local chain or if it's nationwide, but he got an entire set brand-new for $150. I think it was on sale, but there'll probably be some good sales at any time.
I know this site has quite a few sets of used golf clubs for sale. You might want to check it out :)
You definitely won't find any brand new clubs that are decent without spending 500 or more. My suggestion is going to ebay or craigslist.
for a beginner, clubs are clubs.. go check out wal mart's.. but i would suggest looking on craigslist or ebay and getting him some used clubs in decent condition
There are no decent sets in that price range. Maybe e-bay. If you want a top tier set new, youre looking at at least $800 to $900.
Jack Nicklaus
Look for used equipment. New in that price range you won't find much.
no full sets for that much
They will have 2 be secondhand
craigslist
buy a used set
What should I get my husband for our 1yr Anniversary?
We are both young we are both 22 yrs old. He loves dance, but I am so confused. Someone please help!!What should I get my husband for our 1yr Anniversary?
Then take him an unforgettable place where you two can dance.What should I get my husband for our 1yr Anniversary?
How about a CD of some of his favorite tunes to dance to?
For our 1st wedding anniversary we went to a nice restaurant and we also exchanged special card (think of it as a Hallmark moment). Other anniversaries I have cooked very special dinners to surprise my husband.
1st anniversary is paper - so tickets to his favorite sporting event or concert would be good.
I always enjoy getting a box of finger cots and a 6-pack of Capri-suns.
buy a stripper pole and dance for him : )~costume mask blackhead treatment
Then take him an unforgettable place where you two can dance.What should I get my husband for our 1yr Anniversary?
How about a CD of some of his favorite tunes to dance to?
For our 1st wedding anniversary we went to a nice restaurant and we also exchanged special card (think of it as a Hallmark moment). Other anniversaries I have cooked very special dinners to surprise my husband.
1st anniversary is paper - so tickets to his favorite sporting event or concert would be good.
I always enjoy getting a box of finger cots and a 6-pack of Capri-suns.
buy a stripper pole and dance for him : )~
How can I get my husband to stop letting our 9 year old watch Family Guy?
I've tried every argument imaginable and I don't think it is age appropriate but he says oh its just a cartoon....what can I DO?How can I get my husband to stop letting our 9 year old watch Family Guy?
Take your daughter into another room when it comes on and have some personal time with her. Play a game, color, do each other's hair/nails/etc. Just remove her from the situation.How can I get my husband to stop letting our 9 year old watch Family Guy?
I am so shocked that your husband thinks that it is ok. You need to tell him that not only is it not age appropriate, but also kids relate to cartoons more so your son is going to pick up the unappropriate things in the show a lot faster. There is a reason that this ';cartoon'; does not come on until 9 at night. Tell your husband that if he wants to watch it then he need to DVR it and watch it after your son goes to bed. Or just wait until your son starts making the jokes that are in the show and then show your husband the effect it is having on him. Good Luck with that.
No where near age appropriate, especially the last couple years. The old man is a pedophile, the daughter and mom prostitute them selves, stewie wants to kill the mom... And your son is old enough that he understands most of the references and inuendo.
I have no idea what to do. If he honestly dont think there is anything wrong with him seeing it. If you can just flat out set your foot down? Change the password on the tv and dont tell what it is?
I mean, yeah it is just a cartoon, but its not child appropriate. Ask him why he thinks the references in the show really are ok. Point out specifics, like the pld man being a pedophile. Or like the daughter being a prostitute. Go get a recent season on dvd and point out specific scenes if you have to. And see what he says when put on the spot about specific references and inuendo
Well he needs to listen to you. Perhaps it is time for a parenting talk. He needs to understand that he is exposing his child to things he/she might spread to his/her classmates and therefore get him/her in trouble in school.
Althougth I do believe a nine year old should be able to handle the show. You just dont have to explain the things they dont get. Most of the jokes are too over their heads anyway.
Perhaps when dad is watching family guy it is homework time!
Whats wrong with Family Guy? Dads tend to let their sons watch things a bit more mature. Its kind of like a bonding thing. Something we need to do together. Even if the mom doesn't like it. Its a guy thing. I am guilty of it. I also have sole custody of my kids and very involved with my kids. I would let my daughter watch it but she doesn't care for it. So I am not just some sexist.
put that parental lock thing on it... where YOU only know the password..then you have the power! and as much as i LOVE family guy... it is not very appropriate for a nine year old AT ALL!... though they mite not understand everything going on... its not the greatest influence.
Have the cable shut off or block that show with parental controls that only you have the password for. I don't think anyone needs to watch that show, especially not a 9 year old.
Whoa your husband is a dick... no offense but is he a Christian?? if he is tell him it is blaspemous if not i have nop advice
Have the cable turned off until he agrees to stop letting your 9 year old watch it.
Just be glad it isn't South Park! OMG. I know a guy that lets his FIVE YEAR-OLD watch that garbage.
hold out on sex until he stops letting your 9 year old watch it.
i agree with the first answer
If they laugh at the ';inappropriate'; jokes then have them do something else. Chances are that they don't understand it and it has no effect on them.
Also, not letting them watch something makes them want to watch it ten times more.
Everytime she watches it, Tell her not too, And then if she keeps doing it, Punish her.
Take your daughter into another room when it comes on and have some personal time with her. Play a game, color, do each other's hair/nails/etc. Just remove her from the situation.How can I get my husband to stop letting our 9 year old watch Family Guy?
I am so shocked that your husband thinks that it is ok. You need to tell him that not only is it not age appropriate, but also kids relate to cartoons more so your son is going to pick up the unappropriate things in the show a lot faster. There is a reason that this ';cartoon'; does not come on until 9 at night. Tell your husband that if he wants to watch it then he need to DVR it and watch it after your son goes to bed. Or just wait until your son starts making the jokes that are in the show and then show your husband the effect it is having on him. Good Luck with that.
No where near age appropriate, especially the last couple years. The old man is a pedophile, the daughter and mom prostitute them selves, stewie wants to kill the mom... And your son is old enough that he understands most of the references and inuendo.
I have no idea what to do. If he honestly dont think there is anything wrong with him seeing it. If you can just flat out set your foot down? Change the password on the tv and dont tell what it is?
I mean, yeah it is just a cartoon, but its not child appropriate. Ask him why he thinks the references in the show really are ok. Point out specifics, like the pld man being a pedophile. Or like the daughter being a prostitute. Go get a recent season on dvd and point out specific scenes if you have to. And see what he says when put on the spot about specific references and inuendo
Well he needs to listen to you. Perhaps it is time for a parenting talk. He needs to understand that he is exposing his child to things he/she might spread to his/her classmates and therefore get him/her in trouble in school.
Althougth I do believe a nine year old should be able to handle the show. You just dont have to explain the things they dont get. Most of the jokes are too over their heads anyway.
Perhaps when dad is watching family guy it is homework time!
Whats wrong with Family Guy? Dads tend to let their sons watch things a bit more mature. Its kind of like a bonding thing. Something we need to do together. Even if the mom doesn't like it. Its a guy thing. I am guilty of it. I also have sole custody of my kids and very involved with my kids. I would let my daughter watch it but she doesn't care for it. So I am not just some sexist.
put that parental lock thing on it... where YOU only know the password..then you have the power! and as much as i LOVE family guy... it is not very appropriate for a nine year old AT ALL!... though they mite not understand everything going on... its not the greatest influence.
Have the cable shut off or block that show with parental controls that only you have the password for. I don't think anyone needs to watch that show, especially not a 9 year old.
Whoa your husband is a dick... no offense but is he a Christian?? if he is tell him it is blaspemous if not i have nop advice
Have the cable turned off until he agrees to stop letting your 9 year old watch it.
Just be glad it isn't South Park! OMG. I know a guy that lets his FIVE YEAR-OLD watch that garbage.
hold out on sex until he stops letting your 9 year old watch it.
i agree with the first answer
If they laugh at the ';inappropriate'; jokes then have them do something else. Chances are that they don't understand it and it has no effect on them.
Also, not letting them watch something makes them want to watch it ten times more.
Everytime she watches it, Tell her not too, And then if she keeps doing it, Punish her.
In case of death of husband how is his property distributed, if he does not have a will/nominee?
Does the share also goes to dependant parents or it just gets transferred to his widow? Please tell in reference to Indian Law.In case of death of husband how is his property distributed, if he does not have a will/nominee?
It depends on the probate laws of your state. When a person dies intestate (without a will) the courts will determine how much goes to whom.
I would assume that your Tribal Council or Tribal Court will determine this for an Indian nation.In case of death of husband how is his property distributed, if he does not have a will/nominee?
It is very difficult to answer.it depends upon the class of heirs survived him. I assume the deceased was Hindu and he left widow and mother. In such a case it goes equally to his widow and mother. An advocate dealing with succession law alone can give the answer provided you gave full particulars, such as religion, all the heirs etc. There is a table dealing with class of heirs, for example son is a class No. 1 heir,whether the property is joint family property or self acquired etc also has to be considered
I know when my father passed my sister %26amp; I were his only children %26amp; got everything since he didn't have a will. If my mother had not been divorced she would have gotten some too but they still gave her a social security check for her (till I was 16), me %26amp; my sister. Im still having conflicts now cause his bros %26amp; sis' all shared some land my grandpa gave them in his will before he passed in which my dad's name was on it so we were his heirs %26amp; they want our part! Good Luck cause things like this tear families apart!
It goes to the widow, if there is none, it goes to their parents, if there are no parents, it goes to the kids, if there are no kids, it goes to next of kin.
If there is a wife, it goes to her. It does not go to the children or his parents. The wife supersedes any other person, given that there is no will.
Some Indian inheritence laws are in this article.
Hope it helps.
http://www.globalpropertyguide.com/Asia/鈥?/a>
It seems it's shared by family members.
All right relatives have rights in property. Allow all to share.
Sounds like the beginning of a Law and Order episode. Watch ya back lady!
it will go to the next of kin.
Get a lawyer.
Here in the u.S. the court decides who gets what if anything
after you kill him you will know all the details
It depends on the probate laws of your state. When a person dies intestate (without a will) the courts will determine how much goes to whom.
I would assume that your Tribal Council or Tribal Court will determine this for an Indian nation.In case of death of husband how is his property distributed, if he does not have a will/nominee?
It is very difficult to answer.it depends upon the class of heirs survived him. I assume the deceased was Hindu and he left widow and mother. In such a case it goes equally to his widow and mother. An advocate dealing with succession law alone can give the answer provided you gave full particulars, such as religion, all the heirs etc. There is a table dealing with class of heirs, for example son is a class No. 1 heir,whether the property is joint family property or self acquired etc also has to be considered
I know when my father passed my sister %26amp; I were his only children %26amp; got everything since he didn't have a will. If my mother had not been divorced she would have gotten some too but they still gave her a social security check for her (till I was 16), me %26amp; my sister. Im still having conflicts now cause his bros %26amp; sis' all shared some land my grandpa gave them in his will before he passed in which my dad's name was on it so we were his heirs %26amp; they want our part! Good Luck cause things like this tear families apart!
It goes to the widow, if there is none, it goes to their parents, if there are no parents, it goes to the kids, if there are no kids, it goes to next of kin.
If there is a wife, it goes to her. It does not go to the children or his parents. The wife supersedes any other person, given that there is no will.
Some Indian inheritence laws are in this article.
Hope it helps.
http://www.globalpropertyguide.com/Asia/鈥?/a>
It seems it's shared by family members.
All right relatives have rights in property. Allow all to share.
Sounds like the beginning of a Law and Order episode. Watch ya back lady!
it will go to the next of kin.
Get a lawyer.
Here in the u.S. the court decides who gets what if anything
after you kill him you will know all the details
Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?
He has not met any of these women in person and he insists that it is harmless - just fun... what do you think?Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?
It's cheating...my ex wife did it to me. It hurts just as bad as a physical affair. Erotic chats should be with his wife. If it bothers you, then there is nothing harmless about it.Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?
Well it appears based on the other responses that the definition of cheating is having erotic chats. So it really doesn't matter whether he's having the chats online, in the office, at the grocery store or at a cocktail party. If that is true there's a lot a people cheating out there. And it ain't just men.
I hate to seem harsh...But I don't think you are taking this serious now but in time he will get bored with talking to these woman...He will then start meeting them or worse. If you are his one and true love why isn't he talking dirty to you at night? Instead, he is taking his free time looking and searching to talk dirty and have mental affairs with other women? Yes, this is a form of cheating...First the mind then the body...Start using your brain and not your heart on this one. Stop this if you can or I promise you...You will be crying later on when you find out your husband is out meeting other women behind your back.
Good luck!
its funny how the internet works , private boxes , or messeges , well they are more intimate than a corner booth in a bar room , anything can be said , boundries crossed without hesitation , infatuation which leads to addiction , take a drink , like it , take two drinks like it more , drink the whole bottle , buy some more , get it in your minds people , yes its this new age of cheating ,
its cheating with out the sexual contact. what happens with cases like this can lead into a ';emotional affair'; google it if you are interested.
of course he thinks its fun, b/c he isnt thinking about your feelings. now if the tables were turned, i bet he would be feeling the way you do.
get him off the b@@dy pc and concerntrating on the real things in his life. i.e YOU.
He is belittling you by doing this. take charge of the situation inject some more fun into your lives ';together';.
I would just distract him, the chat room become an addiction.
Good luck
I don't believe it's cheating but it is very hurtful and disrespectful. He needs to grow up and consider what it is doing to you.
Yes, it is cheating. If you are not doing it now, you will eventually because it temptation to the mind.
Do you really have to ask? Yes, it is cheating. Why would he say it is ';harmless';? Can't he see how it is hurting you and how it is affecting your marriage?
probably....but flirting is wrong also....and my question to you have you ever flirted with a guy you saw at store, even if it was eye flirt? thats cheating too
It might not be physical cheating but he's obviously yanking on his weiner thinking about it. Nasty.
I see it as cheating. This is how cheating starts. With just talking and carrying on, about what we could do if I wasn't married.
Oh yes, it's cheating. You don't know if he's meeting these women or not. If he's thinking it, he's probably doing it.
If my wife was doing that, I would call it cheating.
its cheating
yes it is cheating
he's planning to cheat.
been there done that...its awful!! dont let him talk you into doing it too
It's cheating...my ex wife did it to me. It hurts just as bad as a physical affair. Erotic chats should be with his wife. If it bothers you, then there is nothing harmless about it.Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?
Well it appears based on the other responses that the definition of cheating is having erotic chats. So it really doesn't matter whether he's having the chats online, in the office, at the grocery store or at a cocktail party. If that is true there's a lot a people cheating out there. And it ain't just men.
I hate to seem harsh...But I don't think you are taking this serious now but in time he will get bored with talking to these woman...He will then start meeting them or worse. If you are his one and true love why isn't he talking dirty to you at night? Instead, he is taking his free time looking and searching to talk dirty and have mental affairs with other women? Yes, this is a form of cheating...First the mind then the body...Start using your brain and not your heart on this one. Stop this if you can or I promise you...You will be crying later on when you find out your husband is out meeting other women behind your back.
Good luck!
its funny how the internet works , private boxes , or messeges , well they are more intimate than a corner booth in a bar room , anything can be said , boundries crossed without hesitation , infatuation which leads to addiction , take a drink , like it , take two drinks like it more , drink the whole bottle , buy some more , get it in your minds people , yes its this new age of cheating ,
its cheating with out the sexual contact. what happens with cases like this can lead into a ';emotional affair'; google it if you are interested.
of course he thinks its fun, b/c he isnt thinking about your feelings. now if the tables were turned, i bet he would be feeling the way you do.
get him off the b@@dy pc and concerntrating on the real things in his life. i.e YOU.
He is belittling you by doing this. take charge of the situation inject some more fun into your lives ';together';.
I would just distract him, the chat room become an addiction.
Good luck
I don't believe it's cheating but it is very hurtful and disrespectful. He needs to grow up and consider what it is doing to you.
Yes, it is cheating. If you are not doing it now, you will eventually because it temptation to the mind.
Do you really have to ask? Yes, it is cheating. Why would he say it is ';harmless';? Can't he see how it is hurting you and how it is affecting your marriage?
probably....but flirting is wrong also....and my question to you have you ever flirted with a guy you saw at store, even if it was eye flirt? thats cheating too
It might not be physical cheating but he's obviously yanking on his weiner thinking about it. Nasty.
I see it as cheating. This is how cheating starts. With just talking and carrying on, about what we could do if I wasn't married.
Oh yes, it's cheating. You don't know if he's meeting these women or not. If he's thinking it, he's probably doing it.
If my wife was doing that, I would call it cheating.
its cheating
yes it is cheating
he's planning to cheat.
been there done that...its awful!! dont let him talk you into doing it too
I need help finding my Husband an ideal gift?
I love my husband with all my heart and I wish to make his birthday extra special. We have traveled the world, but we now live in the Congo and work for CAFOD he is an eye Specialist . He is very dedicated and is busy with cataract operations until May. I want to take him on Holiday, somewhere special. Out of Africa, maybe to Northern Europe or America. Can anyone recommend somewhere special it is his 40th.I need help finding my Husband an ideal gift?
I'd recommend Iceland, go between Sept and November for a chance of catching the aurora borealis (the Northern Lights), stunning. It's a stunning country.I need help finding my Husband an ideal gift?
hookers are a good gift to give
I'd recommend Iceland, go between Sept and November for a chance of catching the aurora borealis (the Northern Lights), stunning. It's a stunning country.I need help finding my Husband an ideal gift?
hookers are a good gift to give
What would you do about a college female that likes your pastor, husband?
and keeps sending him nice messages like:
I hope you enjoyed New Year's Day and your first day of retirement. How exciting. I hope your trip to New Orleans was everything you wished it to be! The weather sounds nice. Coffee shop? That sounds nice. I love coffee shops especially Starbucks. Well, I hope your retirement goes well.
He's just been ignoring her.What would you do about a college female that likes your pastor, husband?
Obviously ignoring her isn't working! He needs to set a boundary with her and tell her that although it is nice that she wants to be friends, it is inappropriate for many reasons, mainly because he is a married pastor.
Question: Why does she have his number anyhow? If it is because she wanted support, as pastor's are expected to provide to their congregation, he should encourage another church member to contact her and 'take over'. Otherwise, I would say he is enjoying the attention too much. Also, how does she know where he went and when he went there if he didn't tell her himself? I would say he isn't taking enough credit for this situation. It doesn't sound like he's ignoring her very well if she knows everything he has been doing lately! Good luck!What would you do about a college female that likes your pastor, husband?
Well, if your husband is ignoring her as you say he is, I would simply do the same. It won't do any good to be jealous and get worked up about it if there is no apparent reason to become that way; it just puts a strain on your relationship with him.
However, if you really have a sincere feeling about this girl's intentions, then you should probably confront him (definitely in an adult-to-adult manner, accusing him right off the bat won't help). See what is really going on, and if you deeply suspect that something may be (or may be starting) to take place between them, confront the girl, in the same manner.
I know because I was in the same position as you a few months ago. I'm married to a pastor/missionary as well and we live in a college town. There was a girl I was concerned about who seemed to really have an interest in my husband. I talked it over with him and I concluded that he sincerely loved me and God and wouldn't do anything to put those relationships at risk. I had no need to confront the girl and I was able to eventually put my mind at rest knowing he was mine and mine only.
I hope you enjoyed New Year's Day and your first day of retirement. How exciting. I hope your trip to New Orleans was everything you wished it to be! The weather sounds nice. Coffee shop? That sounds nice. I love coffee shops especially Starbucks. Well, I hope your retirement goes well.
He's just been ignoring her.What would you do about a college female that likes your pastor, husband?
Obviously ignoring her isn't working! He needs to set a boundary with her and tell her that although it is nice that she wants to be friends, it is inappropriate for many reasons, mainly because he is a married pastor.
Question: Why does she have his number anyhow? If it is because she wanted support, as pastor's are expected to provide to their congregation, he should encourage another church member to contact her and 'take over'. Otherwise, I would say he is enjoying the attention too much. Also, how does she know where he went and when he went there if he didn't tell her himself? I would say he isn't taking enough credit for this situation. It doesn't sound like he's ignoring her very well if she knows everything he has been doing lately! Good luck!What would you do about a college female that likes your pastor, husband?
Well, if your husband is ignoring her as you say he is, I would simply do the same. It won't do any good to be jealous and get worked up about it if there is no apparent reason to become that way; it just puts a strain on your relationship with him.
However, if you really have a sincere feeling about this girl's intentions, then you should probably confront him (definitely in an adult-to-adult manner, accusing him right off the bat won't help). See what is really going on, and if you deeply suspect that something may be (or may be starting) to take place between them, confront the girl, in the same manner.
I know because I was in the same position as you a few months ago. I'm married to a pastor/missionary as well and we live in a college town. There was a girl I was concerned about who seemed to really have an interest in my husband. I talked it over with him and I concluded that he sincerely loved me and God and wouldn't do anything to put those relationships at risk. I had no need to confront the girl and I was able to eventually put my mind at rest knowing he was mine and mine only.
What can I get my husband for our 4 year wedding anniversary?
Scrapbook, weekend getaway (can be as cheap/expensive as you like, beach, bed%26amp;breakfast, etc.), something engraved (like a watch), a nice dinner/evening, anything personal and from the heart!What can I get my husband for our 4 year wedding anniversary?
My boyfriend and I went on a vacation to Mexico for our 4 year anniversary. I would suggest a romantic vacation somewhere tropical.costume mask blackhead treatment
My boyfriend and I went on a vacation to Mexico for our 4 year anniversary. I would suggest a romantic vacation somewhere tropical.
Men, Can I get some tips for trying new positions with my husband?
I want to give him a surprise tonight. Something different. Can anyone help?Men, Can I get some tips for trying new positions with my husband?
We would have to known what your ';normal'; or ';usual'; positions are to suggest new ones!
I enjoy ';reverse cowgirl';! The view is awesome!Men, Can I get some tips for trying new positions with my husband?
Sleeping doggy style. Its like doggy but you are not on your knees, you are flat and he is on top of your back giving it to you from behind.
I will get suspended again if I answer. I will email you :)
Do the superman, my guy loves it. :DD
You want to surprise him, Take him from behind.
Having dinner ready when he got home would be a nice start. ;-)
So you want for us to get our account suspended by throwing us this trick question huh?
try anal but use a lot of lube!!
can i just show you?
go to cosmo online.. they have great tricks.
We would have to known what your ';normal'; or ';usual'; positions are to suggest new ones!
I enjoy ';reverse cowgirl';! The view is awesome!Men, Can I get some tips for trying new positions with my husband?
Sleeping doggy style. Its like doggy but you are not on your knees, you are flat and he is on top of your back giving it to you from behind.
I will get suspended again if I answer. I will email you :)
Do the superman, my guy loves it. :DD
You want to surprise him, Take him from behind.
Having dinner ready when he got home would be a nice start. ;-)
So you want for us to get our account suspended by throwing us this trick question huh?
try anal but use a lot of lube!!
can i just show you?
go to cosmo online.. they have great tricks.
How to get a local passport , I already have a UAE National husband?
Im married to a UAE National and I want to apply a local passport. Weve been together for 10years and we already have one daughter, but until now i dont have a local passport. How can apply?How to get a local passport , I already have a UAE National husband?
Have you applied for citizenship ? without this you cant apply for a local passport.
Have you applied for citizenship ? without this you cant apply for a local passport.
Is there any kind of supplement that I can slip in my husband's protein shakes to help increase his libido?
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Was it wrong to make Christmas vacation plans without even asking my husband? ?
My husband and I haven't been on good terms for a while. I planned a vacation that did not include him. It's only my two young daughters and my older sister. I haven't seen my dad in a few years and have never met his new wife of five years. I thought it'd be nice for me and my girls to be able to get away for a while and away from my husband's constant micro-managing and criticism. I have already mentioned separation to him so it's not like he doesn't know how I feel. Was it wrong to make Christmas vacation plans without even asking my husband? ?
under normal circumstances you would pre-plan with your husband of course....seems like there's alot going on here though.
If you are spending his money to do it or taking his (the both of yours together) children somewhere..then you should inform him of any plans.
Was it wrong to make Christmas vacation plans without even asking my husband? ?
If it means that your husband cannot see his kids on christmas, then yes I would consider that the wrong thing to do. You should really make sure it is ok with him, I know my dad would have been devastated if he didn't at least see us the day after christmas once he and my mum were seperated
Well I think you should tell him and if he wants to come change the arrangements. If things are so bad you cant or wont fix the relationship you need the time away to get your head together and work out what your next step will be.Tell him either way.
I think you should of told him. You guys arent separated yet. But I think more so its christmas so its kind of a family holiday.
yes, you should ask him 1st.
under normal circumstances you would pre-plan with your husband of course....seems like there's alot going on here though.
If you are spending his money to do it or taking his (the both of yours together) children somewhere..then you should inform him of any plans.
Was it wrong to make Christmas vacation plans without even asking my husband? ?
If it means that your husband cannot see his kids on christmas, then yes I would consider that the wrong thing to do. You should really make sure it is ok with him, I know my dad would have been devastated if he didn't at least see us the day after christmas once he and my mum were seperated
Well I think you should tell him and if he wants to come change the arrangements. If things are so bad you cant or wont fix the relationship you need the time away to get your head together and work out what your next step will be.Tell him either way.
I think you should of told him. You guys arent separated yet. But I think more so its christmas so its kind of a family holiday.
yes, you should ask him 1st.
Will the Navy allow my husband to PCS overseas first then have our family join him later?
My husband is leaving for Guam in 4 months for a 3 year accompanied tour. Because of some difficulties in our relationship, he is considering going alone, then having our son and me join him later down the road (2 - 6 months). Does the Navy allow this? If so, will they pay to move half of our household to Guam, then later pay to move the rest?Will the Navy allow my husband to PCS overseas first then have our family join him later?
If he goes to Guam on accompanied orders then you will no longer get BAH. If he lives in housing it is automatically stopped, if he lives out in town then it is OHA and that is based on the rent he is paying per month, nothing more. utilities are then paid with a separate allowance. you would also not qualify for Family Separation when you are apart because you want to. The military will allow 90 days of HHG in storage but usually you are limited to 1 HHG shipment, 1 UAB (Unaccompanied Baggage up to 1000 lbs) and 1 storage (usually paid for by the military if it is authorized). You can join him at a later date but it needs to be approved and you will have to pay for housing for yourelf while he is there out of your own pocket.Will the Navy allow my husband to PCS overseas first then have our family join him later?
The Navy will permit you to join your husband later; however, your household effects will be shipped all at one time (not separate shipments).
Guam is 14 miles long and 3 miles wide. You can see that there is not much room to ';maneuver';. If you are currently having family difficulties, these difficulties may be exacerbated by being ';hemmed in'; on such a small tropic paradise. You should try to resolve your problems before moving.
Guam is tropical with moderate temperature year around. There are modern facilities throughout the island and it has now become a popular tourist spot.
The beaches are superb with clean, clean water. Scuba diving is excellent. There are a couple of flying clubs and lessons are much cheaper than on the mainland.
If you want to study, the University of Guam offers course in almost all disciplines.
Good luck and ENJOY!
Unless something's changed, he'll get one paid move of household goods. You will be able to move with the goods later, but there's a time limit (6 or 12 months, I think). If you currently live in Navy housing, you will have to move anyway, whether to Guam or some other home. I knew some guys who did their entire tour alone while their family stayed put. But they were usually homeowners, and the guy was planning on getting out at the end of the tour. Good luck.
This is a question you need to have resolved through official channels. Opinions expressed here are useless drivel for your purposes.
Have your husband inquire. I was under the impression that when a person moved, often the SM moved first, followed by the family, but things change....
You need an answer, however, not somebody's opinion.
If he goes to Guam on accompanied orders then you will no longer get BAH. If he lives in housing it is automatically stopped, if he lives out in town then it is OHA and that is based on the rent he is paying per month, nothing more. utilities are then paid with a separate allowance. you would also not qualify for Family Separation when you are apart because you want to. The military will allow 90 days of HHG in storage but usually you are limited to 1 HHG shipment, 1 UAB (Unaccompanied Baggage up to 1000 lbs) and 1 storage (usually paid for by the military if it is authorized). You can join him at a later date but it needs to be approved and you will have to pay for housing for yourelf while he is there out of your own pocket.Will the Navy allow my husband to PCS overseas first then have our family join him later?
The Navy will permit you to join your husband later; however, your household effects will be shipped all at one time (not separate shipments).
Guam is 14 miles long and 3 miles wide. You can see that there is not much room to ';maneuver';. If you are currently having family difficulties, these difficulties may be exacerbated by being ';hemmed in'; on such a small tropic paradise. You should try to resolve your problems before moving.
Guam is tropical with moderate temperature year around. There are modern facilities throughout the island and it has now become a popular tourist spot.
The beaches are superb with clean, clean water. Scuba diving is excellent. There are a couple of flying clubs and lessons are much cheaper than on the mainland.
If you want to study, the University of Guam offers course in almost all disciplines.
Good luck and ENJOY!
Unless something's changed, he'll get one paid move of household goods. You will be able to move with the goods later, but there's a time limit (6 or 12 months, I think). If you currently live in Navy housing, you will have to move anyway, whether to Guam or some other home. I knew some guys who did their entire tour alone while their family stayed put. But they were usually homeowners, and the guy was planning on getting out at the end of the tour. Good luck.
This is a question you need to have resolved through official channels. Opinions expressed here are useless drivel for your purposes.
Have your husband inquire. I was under the impression that when a person moved, often the SM moved first, followed by the family, but things change....
You need an answer, however, not somebody's opinion.
If I'll stop paying my credit bills will it affect my current job or my husband?
I have a part time job and I have alot of credit bills...All my paycheck goes to my bills.....Will it affect my current job or my husbands history? I'll just close my bank account so they wont get my money and just take cash from my job...Do you think its possible?If I'll stop paying my credit bills will it affect my current job or my husband?
They will come after you. Debt just doesn't disappear.If I'll stop paying my credit bills will it affect my current job or my husband?
I got to the point where you are and thought I'd just throw in the towel. I ended up going delinquent on my largest payment. After 2 months of missed payments as well as me calling the creditor endlessly, we were able to negotiate a 0% interest/lesser payment option. My credit is messed up as a result of not paying for two months, however I now am at 0% and have the chance of paying this off. If you just avoid it, it may be a temporary fix in your financial situation, but in the long run, it can and will hurt you.
If the cards are in your name alone and you don't pay, it won't hurt your husband's credit. If you do decide not to pay, it is good that you move your money to a different bank to avoid automatic drafts. Be prepared for endless calls to your home and letters to be sent to your home.
Not to frighten you further, but if/when you decide not to pay, creditors can go as far as garnishing your wages (taking a portion of your paycheck), or sending you to court where a judge mandates that you pay them all or a percentage of the payment.
I would do all I could to avoid ';not paying';. If you have no other choice however, I do understand.
First of All, don't listen to one of those ads that says Yea, I saved $5000.00 by hiring this company to get rid of my credit card debt.
What a scam, and the law should lock them up. If you can't pay your credit card debt, how in the world do they think you can pay them.
When you got a credit card application and you signed on the bottom line. You promised to pay them, and if you didn't the penalties were clearly stated on the form. I know you may have needed a magnifying glass to see them but they were there. The contract you signed was
in most probability a unsecured credit card. What that means is they can't take your home or your kids. But what they can do, is make your life miserable. Depending on the state, they can attach your pay check. They will ruin your credit. You won't be able to get a car, a house or anything on credit. If you close your current bank account, you won't even be able to open a new bank account. What I would Suggest is this.
1. call the credit card company and explain your situation.
2. See if they have counsels on staff.
3. Make sure you tell them ';you want to pay them';
4. See if they will take a reduced payment plan for a while.
5. Stop using the card
6. Ask if they will reduce the interest Rate for a 6 month period.
7. Pick up another couple days work and dedicate all that to paying the debt.
Try all that first, because you never know you may need credit next yer or the next.
HUH?! You just decided that you no longer have any obligation to pay for the things you bought? WOW! Why didn't we all think of that. Just DON'T PAY!!
You're kidding right?
You will ruin your credit and likely get sued. The amount due will go up and some day you will have to pay it.
This has nothing to do with your job. You made a promisr to pay, so pay. If you don't earn enought, then you need to find a better job of get an education. If you can't pay your bills, then reduce them. Get rid of theinternet, cable, cell phones, etc.
You can't just walk away from your obligations. If you are an adult you will have to act like one.
Will it affect your job? Most likely not. The only way I would see that happening is if you work in a job that requires security clearance or handling a large amount of money, and even then they would have to pull your credit report before they knew what was happening.
Will it affect your husband's credit? Absolutely not, unless he is a joint account holder on any of the debts.
If the account are joint/co-signed, they can come after your husband...otherwise no...
As to affecting your current job...probably not...unless you work at a bank and they require an excellent credit history.costume mask blackhead treatment
They will come after you. Debt just doesn't disappear.If I'll stop paying my credit bills will it affect my current job or my husband?
I got to the point where you are and thought I'd just throw in the towel. I ended up going delinquent on my largest payment. After 2 months of missed payments as well as me calling the creditor endlessly, we were able to negotiate a 0% interest/lesser payment option. My credit is messed up as a result of not paying for two months, however I now am at 0% and have the chance of paying this off. If you just avoid it, it may be a temporary fix in your financial situation, but in the long run, it can and will hurt you.
If the cards are in your name alone and you don't pay, it won't hurt your husband's credit. If you do decide not to pay, it is good that you move your money to a different bank to avoid automatic drafts. Be prepared for endless calls to your home and letters to be sent to your home.
Not to frighten you further, but if/when you decide not to pay, creditors can go as far as garnishing your wages (taking a portion of your paycheck), or sending you to court where a judge mandates that you pay them all or a percentage of the payment.
I would do all I could to avoid ';not paying';. If you have no other choice however, I do understand.
First of All, don't listen to one of those ads that says Yea, I saved $5000.00 by hiring this company to get rid of my credit card debt.
What a scam, and the law should lock them up. If you can't pay your credit card debt, how in the world do they think you can pay them.
When you got a credit card application and you signed on the bottom line. You promised to pay them, and if you didn't the penalties were clearly stated on the form. I know you may have needed a magnifying glass to see them but they were there. The contract you signed was
in most probability a unsecured credit card. What that means is they can't take your home or your kids. But what they can do, is make your life miserable. Depending on the state, they can attach your pay check. They will ruin your credit. You won't be able to get a car, a house or anything on credit. If you close your current bank account, you won't even be able to open a new bank account. What I would Suggest is this.
1. call the credit card company and explain your situation.
2. See if they have counsels on staff.
3. Make sure you tell them ';you want to pay them';
4. See if they will take a reduced payment plan for a while.
5. Stop using the card
6. Ask if they will reduce the interest Rate for a 6 month period.
7. Pick up another couple days work and dedicate all that to paying the debt.
Try all that first, because you never know you may need credit next yer or the next.
HUH?! You just decided that you no longer have any obligation to pay for the things you bought? WOW! Why didn't we all think of that. Just DON'T PAY!!
You're kidding right?
You will ruin your credit and likely get sued. The amount due will go up and some day you will have to pay it.
This has nothing to do with your job. You made a promisr to pay, so pay. If you don't earn enought, then you need to find a better job of get an education. If you can't pay your bills, then reduce them. Get rid of theinternet, cable, cell phones, etc.
You can't just walk away from your obligations. If you are an adult you will have to act like one.
Will it affect your job? Most likely not. The only way I would see that happening is if you work in a job that requires security clearance or handling a large amount of money, and even then they would have to pull your credit report before they knew what was happening.
Will it affect your husband's credit? Absolutely not, unless he is a joint account holder on any of the debts.
If the account are joint/co-signed, they can come after your husband...otherwise no...
As to affecting your current job...probably not...unless you work at a bank and they require an excellent credit history.
My husband and I are wanting to buy a piece of land and build a small brick home?
on it. However, we have no idea how to go about it. What is a good price per square foot? What do i look up in the phone book to find someone who builds houses? What questions do i ask them? thanksMy husband and I are wanting to buy a piece of land and build a small brick home?
I would look at land prices around the area and see what they are. The price per sq. ft. depends largely ont he area. You could contact a realtor for that if you would like or do the footwork yourself. For a home builder ask friends, family and co-workers in the area who they used. Ask home owners in the area you want to build who they had.
Ask the builder how much he charges per sq. ft., that is the biggie. Referral I think is the best way and go to new open houses and see what you like and a builder might just stick out to you.My husband and I are wanting to buy a piece of land and build a small brick home?
To find a piece of land, you should contact a local Realtor who specializes in land transactions. Then, get in touch with couple of general contractors. They should give you an estimate of building cost. One thing to keep in mind is that land's zoning must allow residential homes, because some areas are limited to farm or industrial uses. Good luck.
I would look at land prices around the area and see what they are. The price per sq. ft. depends largely ont he area. You could contact a realtor for that if you would like or do the footwork yourself. For a home builder ask friends, family and co-workers in the area who they used. Ask home owners in the area you want to build who they had.
Ask the builder how much he charges per sq. ft., that is the biggie. Referral I think is the best way and go to new open houses and see what you like and a builder might just stick out to you.My husband and I are wanting to buy a piece of land and build a small brick home?
To find a piece of land, you should contact a local Realtor who specializes in land transactions. Then, get in touch with couple of general contractors. They should give you an estimate of building cost. One thing to keep in mind is that land's zoning must allow residential homes, because some areas are limited to farm or industrial uses. Good luck.
My husband's company is in Habbegadi Road, Electronic City. What is the nearest residential area?
My husband's company is in Habbegadi Road, Electronic City, Hosur Road. What is the nearest residential area with a good CBSE school and decent 2BHK flats with car parking with reasonable rents? Is J.P. Nagar a good choice? How about Kodichikkanihalli and Bannerghatta Road? Please help.My husband's company is in Habbegadi Road, Electronic City. What is the nearest residential area?
banneraghatta road is good but the traffic is nightmare. bangalore traffic is nightmare any way.
You get good flats in JP nagar area as well as adjacent Jayanagar area. there are good schools like Kumarans.
goodluck to you
banneraghatta road is good but the traffic is nightmare. bangalore traffic is nightmare any way.
You get good flats in JP nagar area as well as adjacent Jayanagar area. there are good schools like Kumarans.
goodluck to you
Can we go down and live with my husband at AIT Training?
So, I have been hearing a little rumor and wondering if it is true. My husband it going to be in AIT Training for 37 weeks ughh at Fort Bliss, TX can me and my daughter go to?
Will be have a house together, how do the living arrangements workout?
Do we have to wait until he is past a certain point to come down?
I can ask his Recruiter but he is a little uninformed about things.Can we go down and live with my husband at AIT Training?
he must get permission. chances are it will be granted,although possibly not right away. as for housing..maybe, maybe not it will depend on whether or not any is available on base.
at any time during his training he could be made to return to the barracks.. this is especially true if he is ever late, or fails a test or otherwise is doing poorly in school.Can we go down and live with my husband at AIT Training?
Typically for extended AIT, it is allowed for the military member to be accompanied. If accompanied then they can put in for post housing - but it may not be worth the wait if it is too long, you may be better off getting off-post housing. And depending on the post, off-post housing might be better than on-post at a trainee's rank.
Yes, ANY individual can be made to move into the barracks (not just AIT students) if they continue to mess up, but most places do not like to do that as barracks space is limited anyway.
Also, since you have kids, if they are school age you should check out the schools for the area you might be living (Best Places). That way you can make sure they are decent (Great Schools) areas %26amp; schools.
If it's over 6 months, he should put in for housing. When he gets it, you can move there.
Will be have a house together, how do the living arrangements workout?
Do we have to wait until he is past a certain point to come down?
I can ask his Recruiter but he is a little uninformed about things.Can we go down and live with my husband at AIT Training?
he must get permission. chances are it will be granted,although possibly not right away. as for housing..maybe, maybe not it will depend on whether or not any is available on base.
at any time during his training he could be made to return to the barracks.. this is especially true if he is ever late, or fails a test or otherwise is doing poorly in school.Can we go down and live with my husband at AIT Training?
Typically for extended AIT, it is allowed for the military member to be accompanied. If accompanied then they can put in for post housing - but it may not be worth the wait if it is too long, you may be better off getting off-post housing. And depending on the post, off-post housing might be better than on-post at a trainee's rank.
Yes, ANY individual can be made to move into the barracks (not just AIT students) if they continue to mess up, but most places do not like to do that as barracks space is limited anyway.
Also, since you have kids, if they are school age you should check out the schools for the area you might be living (Best Places). That way you can make sure they are decent (Great Schools) areas %26amp; schools.
If it's over 6 months, he should put in for housing. When he gets it, you can move there.
Any husband and wife fight over the election?
I wonder any family was in that situation? How did they settle the arguement since the election is over? If not, did they get a divorce or what?Any husband and wife fight over the election?
My wife is complaining about Obama being elected. I cannnot get her to understand that McCain would be just as bad.
:-oAny husband and wife fight over the election?
Don't know of any THAT bad.
I am a Democrat. My husband comes from a solid Republican background. I am happy to say he is VERY pleased with our new president-elect.
We've had many fascinating discussions about the pros and cons of each party. We've learned a great deal dialoguing about politics.
It works for us. Communication is the answer.
famous hubby %26amp; wife are James Carville %26amp; Mary Maitlin they both managed campaigns %26amp; James has been on CNN often so look for him if you don't know who he is.
My hubby %26amp; I are both dems. We have been married 32 years %26amp; are so different by our belief is the same %26amp; that is to love people above all else.
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That guy with the pig avatar, haha he then posted a question asking if he could go in the voting booth with his wife and kid to make sure they vote right!
Nope,we don't fight.That is silly.
My wife is complaining about Obama being elected. I cannnot get her to understand that McCain would be just as bad.
:-oAny husband and wife fight over the election?
Don't know of any THAT bad.
I am a Democrat. My husband comes from a solid Republican background. I am happy to say he is VERY pleased with our new president-elect.
We've had many fascinating discussions about the pros and cons of each party. We've learned a great deal dialoguing about politics.
It works for us. Communication is the answer.
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That guy with the pig avatar, haha he then posted a question asking if he could go in the voting booth with his wife and kid to make sure they vote right!
Nope,we don't fight.That is silly.
My husband thinks he should be able to choose whether or not we receive EAS messages on our cable TV?
My husband is watching Comcast On Demand and there are several tornado warnings and severe thunderstorm warnings we are getting every 10 minutes or so. He thinks he should be able to choose whether or not he wants to see the Emergency Alert System warnings. I'm trying to explain to him that it's for our own safety, but he keeps complaining about it. ';I didn't ask for EAS on demand!'; is what he keeps saying.My husband thinks he should be able to choose whether or not we receive EAS messages on our cable TV?
And of course, if he could turn off the alerts, he'd refuse to accept any taxpayer funded help from the police, fire department, national guard etc when he was caught unawares by a tornado that the EAS was trying to warn him off, right?
RichardMy husband thinks he should be able to choose whether or not we receive EAS messages on our cable TV?
You kind of have control. You can buy/rent the DVD and watch that. No EAS messages with those.
And of course, if he could turn off the alerts, he'd refuse to accept any taxpayer funded help from the police, fire department, national guard etc when he was caught unawares by a tornado that the EAS was trying to warn him off, right?
RichardMy husband thinks he should be able to choose whether or not we receive EAS messages on our cable TV?
You kind of have control. You can buy/rent the DVD and watch that. No EAS messages with those.
What other areas can a 92M Be stationed at. Trying to get to Texas w/my husband who is also military?
Finding Job locations for 92M.What other areas can a 92M Be stationed at. Trying to get to Texas w/my husband who is also military?
92M Mortuary affairs specialist. Even though I've never met someone with this MOS at my duty station I'd imagine they would be needed at every single post. But nonetheless If you are married to him, no matter what service you will be qualified for dual military and depending on both of your commands you should be able to get stationed together. 90% of the time it is no problem for a married couple to get stationed together but I have known people who've had problems and had to go on an unaccompanied tour.
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92M Mortuary affairs specialist. Even though I've never met someone with this MOS at my duty station I'd imagine they would be needed at every single post. But nonetheless If you are married to him, no matter what service you will be qualified for dual military and depending on both of your commands you should be able to get stationed together. 90% of the time it is no problem for a married couple to get stationed together but I have known people who've had problems and had to go on an unaccompanied tour.
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My husband doesnt talk to me, but talks to others?
My husband doesn't ever seem to want to get to know me. He rarely asks me any questions or tries to dig any deeper into me.
But then he will sit down with the neighbors in the hot tub and talk to them while he totally ignores me.
If I tell him I feel ignored, he will get upset. So I just dont say anything, but its very lonely feeling. What can i say to him so that he will understand how I feel? Or will he never get it?My husband doesnt talk to me, but talks to others?
He will never get it. You must give someone else your full attention. That might wake him up, but then is he really worth it ? - I think notMy husband doesnt talk to me, but talks to others?
He doesn't feel the need to impress you anymore because you're his life partner...but he's mistaken!
Get hobbies and start spending more time doing new things and things you enjoy than spending that time with him. Don't even share what you're doing either....even if he asks what you were doing, say ';oh..nothing'; and leave it at that. Be very short with him but cordial. It's hard to do, but it's worth it. He needs to see what it feels like to be ';alone'; like you feel alone. Before long, he won't be able to take it! If he isn't bothered by you being away so much and not having anything to do with him, then it's time to split up because he'll never see the light. If he cherishes you like you should be, you'll start seeing some major changes in his selfish ego-driven behavior.
I'm so sorry. That's terrible. You need to stand up and say to him, ';Why don't you talk to me?';, ';What happened?';, ';What did I do?';, ';Are you upset with me? Is there anything I can do?'; You CANNOT let someone walk over you. I let that happened to me and I regret never taking a stand. If you're shy (like me) then do little things that make him happy? For example make coffee for him in the morning? Bring a picnic lunch to work? I hate to say it but you might have to WIN him over AGAIN. If that doesn't work, then you may just have to thrown in the towel. You don't want to spend 20, 50, even 80 years of your PRECIOUS life with a man like that.
He has a lot to prove to the neighbors/friends/acquaintance's... he has nothing to prove to you because (no offense)... the deal is sealed!
My hubby was like that, then I started giving him the silent treatment, and it worked. A lot of men don't want to be ';chased';, and it could be that your hubby is one of those.
Do your own thing, don't stand around waiting for him to strike up a conversation or ';dig';, just go about your business... and he'll start wondering why you've stopped asking/talking.
your husband does this wowwwwwww dont you guys know each other quite a bit. why dont you just tell him about yourself without him asking him about you. tell him funny stories about your life. then maybe he will tell you his. but if anything dont you think before you married the guy you should have known each other first?
any ways if this keeps going on be angry with him if you are not happy with him. and then see if he cares about what you want and your needs.if not i would seriously consider divorce.
That's sad. Almost like living separate lives. Sounds like he's harboring some sort of resentment. How is he when he talks to the neighbors? Is he truly being himself or is he unrecognizable? Which one is the real him? The social guy with the neighbors or the recluse with you?
He sounds like a pig.
If he can't even take the time or patience to listen to you when you have a problem in your marriage, then it's clear he really isn't cut out for the married life.
He sounds like a jerk sweetie. He should be interested in talking to you, he is your husband. He gets ';'upset'; when you express how you feel? That is a serious problem. I wouldn't put up with that.
you can try to make a unnormal actions or haviors to attract him,check the reaction of him.
some time joke with him is very good.
He's controlling. He is also killing the love in you.
please read a book call the ';Five Love Languages'; It saved my marriage and maybe it will help you too.
He is into himself.Will not change unless he wants to.
u shouldnt have married him, then.
he might not be the right man for u and thats wierd make sure hes not cheating on u
But then he will sit down with the neighbors in the hot tub and talk to them while he totally ignores me.
If I tell him I feel ignored, he will get upset. So I just dont say anything, but its very lonely feeling. What can i say to him so that he will understand how I feel? Or will he never get it?My husband doesnt talk to me, but talks to others?
He will never get it. You must give someone else your full attention. That might wake him up, but then is he really worth it ? - I think notMy husband doesnt talk to me, but talks to others?
He doesn't feel the need to impress you anymore because you're his life partner...but he's mistaken!
Get hobbies and start spending more time doing new things and things you enjoy than spending that time with him. Don't even share what you're doing either....even if he asks what you were doing, say ';oh..nothing'; and leave it at that. Be very short with him but cordial. It's hard to do, but it's worth it. He needs to see what it feels like to be ';alone'; like you feel alone. Before long, he won't be able to take it! If he isn't bothered by you being away so much and not having anything to do with him, then it's time to split up because he'll never see the light. If he cherishes you like you should be, you'll start seeing some major changes in his selfish ego-driven behavior.
I'm so sorry. That's terrible. You need to stand up and say to him, ';Why don't you talk to me?';, ';What happened?';, ';What did I do?';, ';Are you upset with me? Is there anything I can do?'; You CANNOT let someone walk over you. I let that happened to me and I regret never taking a stand. If you're shy (like me) then do little things that make him happy? For example make coffee for him in the morning? Bring a picnic lunch to work? I hate to say it but you might have to WIN him over AGAIN. If that doesn't work, then you may just have to thrown in the towel. You don't want to spend 20, 50, even 80 years of your PRECIOUS life with a man like that.
He has a lot to prove to the neighbors/friends/acquaintance's... he has nothing to prove to you because (no offense)... the deal is sealed!
My hubby was like that, then I started giving him the silent treatment, and it worked. A lot of men don't want to be ';chased';, and it could be that your hubby is one of those.
Do your own thing, don't stand around waiting for him to strike up a conversation or ';dig';, just go about your business... and he'll start wondering why you've stopped asking/talking.
your husband does this wowwwwwww dont you guys know each other quite a bit. why dont you just tell him about yourself without him asking him about you. tell him funny stories about your life. then maybe he will tell you his. but if anything dont you think before you married the guy you should have known each other first?
any ways if this keeps going on be angry with him if you are not happy with him. and then see if he cares about what you want and your needs.if not i would seriously consider divorce.
That's sad. Almost like living separate lives. Sounds like he's harboring some sort of resentment. How is he when he talks to the neighbors? Is he truly being himself or is he unrecognizable? Which one is the real him? The social guy with the neighbors or the recluse with you?
He sounds like a pig.
If he can't even take the time or patience to listen to you when you have a problem in your marriage, then it's clear he really isn't cut out for the married life.
He sounds like a jerk sweetie. He should be interested in talking to you, he is your husband. He gets ';'upset'; when you express how you feel? That is a serious problem. I wouldn't put up with that.
you can try to make a unnormal actions or haviors to attract him,check the reaction of him.
some time joke with him is very good.
He's controlling. He is also killing the love in you.
please read a book call the ';Five Love Languages'; It saved my marriage and maybe it will help you too.
He is into himself.Will not change unless he wants to.
u shouldnt have married him, then.
he might not be the right man for u and thats wierd make sure hes not cheating on u
My husband and I owed taxes this year, quite a bit more than the tax refund that everyone is getting. My?
question is, why did we get a partial refund directly deposited to our account when we haven't even started paying on the taxes? Should we be worried that the IRS will take it back out of our account?My husband and I owed taxes this year, quite a bit more than the tax refund that everyone is getting. My?
The IRS will not take it back out of your account, but as another person mentioned, you should immediately call and follow the instructions the representative gives you.My husband and I owed taxes this year, quite a bit more than the tax refund that everyone is getting. My?
If you have received a refund from the IRS and you also have a balance due you may have what is called an ';erroneous refund';. This is rare but it does happen. You should call the IRS at 1-800-829-1040 between 7 a.m.- 7.p.m. M-F. Ask for ';Advanced Accounts';. Allow 20 minutes for the call. Be sure to stress that it is an IRS error or you may actually be billed for interest charges on the amount deposited from the deposit date to the payback date. If it appears that you have reached an entry level employee diplomatically ask if their team leader (like a roving supervisor) is available.
The IRS will not take it back out of your account, but as another person mentioned, you should immediately call and follow the instructions the representative gives you.My husband and I owed taxes this year, quite a bit more than the tax refund that everyone is getting. My?
If you have received a refund from the IRS and you also have a balance due you may have what is called an ';erroneous refund';. This is rare but it does happen. You should call the IRS at 1-800-829-1040 between 7 a.m.- 7.p.m. M-F. Ask for ';Advanced Accounts';. Allow 20 minutes for the call. Be sure to stress that it is an IRS error or you may actually be billed for interest charges on the amount deposited from the deposit date to the payback date. If it appears that you have reached an entry level employee diplomatically ask if their team leader (like a roving supervisor) is available.
My husband is deploying can I break my lease?
I rented an apartment before my husband and I got married. He is now deploying and I wanted to get out of the lease. The only problem is the landlord never added my husband onto the lease therefore it's only my maiden name on there. He has lived there the entire duration I've lived there and now we're legally married. Can I break the lease with the excuse that my legal husband is deploying?My husband is deploying can I break my lease?
I have, but check with the laws in your state.
Our landlord was cool, we lived in a military town.
Good Luck!My husband is deploying can I break my lease?
I think it may be very hard to get out of your lease because your husbands name wasn't on the lease when you first moved in. Usually the apartment manager asks who is living in the apartment with you and for their names to be on the list especially if they help pay for your rent. Then if something happened you could say you couldn't pay for the apartment anymore due to job changes. I would read your contract and talk to a lawyer to see what you can do. My husband got his commander to write a note that his job required a transfer and since your married it may work. I would definitely get it in writing and talk to a lawyer and your landlord.
First, is he deploying or being stationed somewhere else and you are going with?
If you are going with him, and are his wife, then his orders are your orders. There is a clause in most leases and even if there isn't, it can still be applied, regarding ';The soldiers/sailors act';. It states that if you are military and have orders to leave, you can break a contract/lease without penalties. Now that you are married, as long as you show him your husband's orders and your marriage license, he has to let you out of your lease. But...that is only if you are going with him I believe.
PS-You really should have updated your marital status with your landlord after you got married and informed him of the situation then.
You should be able to. There is enough documentation saying that he is your husband and he does have orders that can be produced to show that he is being deployed. Any self respecting landlord should not give you a problem with it.
Was the land lord supposed to add your husband to the lease and never did it? or did you just not get to it? If he was supposed to and never got around to it, you shouldn't have a problem and he has documentation that you asked to have him put on it if anything legal ever comes out of this.
no, you are still responsible for that lease. Talk to your landlord and see what your options are. It may be that you will have to pay a fine or something in order to get out of the lease. You must remember that a lease is a contract between you and the landlord, and it is legally binding.
that would be hard due to he is not on current lease best option is to try to get him on before he leaves if possible or if he has paid from his account like with a check or cashier account especially if it were his only you might have a leg to stand on but with him not on the lease might be hard. we are in some patriotic times right know if you have not left on a bad note maybe explaining this to the landlord they might be sympathetic
You need to look at the wording in your lease. My guess is no, they will tell you it was your responsibility to advise them of the changes in your household. However, go talk to them, under the circumstances they may actually be reasonable. You may want to consider sub-letting.
Good Luck
Red
I guess it all depends on the niceness of your landlord. Tell him/her your situation. I had the same exact situation with my wife
(USMC) twice at two different apartment complexes And both said it was ok for me to break the lease but I will not receive my deposit.
Hmmmm....maybe.
You should really go and talk to your landlord. If his name was on the lease then it would be no problem. You may have to show documentation of your marriage. Were you not married when you moved in?
I hope you are able to break the lease!
Well, its a legal document for a reason. It's not the landlords mistake or change of life, it was yours. Have you discussed it with the landlord, sometimes they are reasonable.
Just talk to you landlord and explain your situation. They may be able to arrange a payment schedule that's significanly lower until the balance is paid off.
Put him on the lease before he leaves. Give them a copy of his orders. That should be sufficient enough.
talk to your landlord he might be very understanding of your situation
My wife just didn't pay the rent at all. Just say you don't have it.
I have, but check with the laws in your state.
Our landlord was cool, we lived in a military town.
Good Luck!My husband is deploying can I break my lease?
I think it may be very hard to get out of your lease because your husbands name wasn't on the lease when you first moved in. Usually the apartment manager asks who is living in the apartment with you and for their names to be on the list especially if they help pay for your rent. Then if something happened you could say you couldn't pay for the apartment anymore due to job changes. I would read your contract and talk to a lawyer to see what you can do. My husband got his commander to write a note that his job required a transfer and since your married it may work. I would definitely get it in writing and talk to a lawyer and your landlord.
First, is he deploying or being stationed somewhere else and you are going with?
If you are going with him, and are his wife, then his orders are your orders. There is a clause in most leases and even if there isn't, it can still be applied, regarding ';The soldiers/sailors act';. It states that if you are military and have orders to leave, you can break a contract/lease without penalties. Now that you are married, as long as you show him your husband's orders and your marriage license, he has to let you out of your lease. But...that is only if you are going with him I believe.
PS-You really should have updated your marital status with your landlord after you got married and informed him of the situation then.
You should be able to. There is enough documentation saying that he is your husband and he does have orders that can be produced to show that he is being deployed. Any self respecting landlord should not give you a problem with it.
Was the land lord supposed to add your husband to the lease and never did it? or did you just not get to it? If he was supposed to and never got around to it, you shouldn't have a problem and he has documentation that you asked to have him put on it if anything legal ever comes out of this.
no, you are still responsible for that lease. Talk to your landlord and see what your options are. It may be that you will have to pay a fine or something in order to get out of the lease. You must remember that a lease is a contract between you and the landlord, and it is legally binding.
that would be hard due to he is not on current lease best option is to try to get him on before he leaves if possible or if he has paid from his account like with a check or cashier account especially if it were his only you might have a leg to stand on but with him not on the lease might be hard. we are in some patriotic times right know if you have not left on a bad note maybe explaining this to the landlord they might be sympathetic
You need to look at the wording in your lease. My guess is no, they will tell you it was your responsibility to advise them of the changes in your household. However, go talk to them, under the circumstances they may actually be reasonable. You may want to consider sub-letting.
Good Luck
Red
I guess it all depends on the niceness of your landlord. Tell him/her your situation. I had the same exact situation with my wife
(USMC) twice at two different apartment complexes And both said it was ok for me to break the lease but I will not receive my deposit.
Hmmmm....maybe.
You should really go and talk to your landlord. If his name was on the lease then it would be no problem. You may have to show documentation of your marriage. Were you not married when you moved in?
I hope you are able to break the lease!
Well, its a legal document for a reason. It's not the landlords mistake or change of life, it was yours. Have you discussed it with the landlord, sometimes they are reasonable.
Just talk to you landlord and explain your situation. They may be able to arrange a payment schedule that's significanly lower until the balance is paid off.
Put him on the lease before he leaves. Give them a copy of his orders. That should be sufficient enough.
talk to your landlord he might be very understanding of your situation
My wife just didn't pay the rent at all. Just say you don't have it.
Should a woman feel she has to have sex with her husband anytime he wants?
I don't think so. But then men want to get all emotional and say that we then use sex as a weapon and are holding out on them to emotionally damage them. Why do men say and think that if his wife doesn't want to have sex that she is then purposefully hurting him? That is a very selfish way to think.Should a woman feel she has to have sex with her husband anytime he wants?
Yes. But many men think it.
I would say that first of all, you need to only MARRY an emotionally mature man.
Beyond that it is my opinion that if you DON'T refuse him very much then he is a better husband.
Instead of thinking of sex with your husband as a chore or a duty think of it as a fun time you get alone with him. If you enjoy sex as much as I do, then this is not difficult.
I tell my friends ';just do it and enjoy it'; not to be old fashioned but also with the reminder that a good husband also does many things that he doesn't necessarily want to do either, at times he doesn't want to.
Make sure you let him know that if he takes you away from the dishes or something that they may not get done until when you can. But I am sure he won't mind.
But if you are with someone really mature and loving, he will understand if you are really sick or really tired or something.
Try not to let anything make you too tired for that special time with your husband. If he is really good, you will want very much to make him and you happy that way.
There was a time when I had surgery after one of my miscarriages and my husband waited and didn't cheat either. I had fun thinking of ways to satisfy him when I could and when I was too ill he would rub my back.Should a woman feel she has to have sex with her husband anytime he wants?
Great question.
I really can understand if a woman doesn't want to have sex because she is tired from work, didnt' sleep, feels medically ill. A woman of course doesn't have to have sex ALL the time on her husband's beckoned call.
But if this is persistent, and the women NEVER has sex with her husband, I believe that is a large problem. In fact, that is probably grounds for the man to leave her for somebody else, because in a case like that, she is obviously trying to control her man and alter his behavior, maybe like making him buy her things in exchange for sex (which she controls, as the man usually never refuses).
Sex is not only beneficial for the man, but also beneficial for the woman too, so I don't understand why some women view sex as a favor for her husband.
I've never understood the ';withholding sex as a punishment'; thing - either you want sex, or you don't. And if you deny it to hurt someone, you would be punishing yourself. Pretty pointless, I would say. If a woman is angry at her husband for some reaso and she doesn't want sex, isn't that understandable?
You can't buy love through sex - and having sex whenever your husband wants, despite your own inclinations, means your marriage is based on sex. Which is a pretty shaky foundation, I think. Marriges need love and trust, affection and communication to survive.
And a bit of sex to leaven it all up.
I think a woman should be able to be upfront about when she does and doesn't want to have sex. But I also think that within a relationship, especially a marriage, you are responsible for meeting your partner's needs, including sexual needs. I think if two people are in a relationship they just need to be able to compromise with some things, because neither party can have everything they want.
No, a woman should never feel she has to have sex anytime her husband wants.
But if she does, and doesn't let on that she may not really want to have sex here and now, she keeps her husband happy. And the rewards to the wife are great. Not materialistic rewards, but in keeping her husband happy, it keeps them secure and closer. Isn't that what a marriage should be?
Sex is really really important to a guy. Keep him happy and he'll keep you happy.
Well it is not fair for a woman to marry a man, and then turn him away day after day, because of some feminist inspired issues. The Bible says in marriage the man's body is her body, and her body is his body. They become one flesh. Paul said it is good to marry, to prevent fornication. Paul or Peter said that.
The Bible also says that a man should nourish his wife, just as he nourishes and loves every member of his own body. And to be willing to die for her, so that she might live.
Yes and No. Marriage is about meeting each other's needs. Men (generally) have a much stronger sexual need than woman do. Imagen if your husband suddenly stopped talking to you. You would probably be pissed off because most woman like to talk and vent about things. If you didn't want to have sex with him, he would probably feel rejected by you.
On the other hand, men need to be understanding that woman don't always want to have sex and it's not about rejection. It's just not one of our stronger needs.
All in all, a sexless marriage is not normal!! I don't care what anybody says! If my husband stops having sex with me, I'm going to think something is very wrong!
A husband and a wife are united to one another, and live as one flesh. It is right for each of them to give into the other's sexual desires, because they are united in matrimony.
The only times this submissive (for both parties) attitude should be ignored is if there are health problems that sex would complicate, or if sex is replacing all the other wonderful parts of marriage.
I don't think we should have sex when ever ';HE'; wants to! I just got out of my 14 year relationship with my boyfriend/ex-husband. That was a hell of a ride. He always wanted sex when it worked into his schedule. When I would want to have sex with him he always played the ';IM TIRED'; card. So I felt like he wasnt into me anymore. So I lived without it for a long time. Now I have a great boyfriend that gives back and I do the same for him. He makes it about both of us not just him and how or what he wants out of it.
no she shouldn't and neither should a man, men usually have higher sex drives then us so this usually isn't an issue, it has to be a mutual thing if a man jumps to the conclusion your withholding as a punishment when you're not then there is not a mutual understanding there are other issues there why you don't want to have sex and he doesn't understand through lack of communication, and in long term relationships where sex becomes a routine its likely you wont talk about it alot,
if there's issues hampering your sex life sort them out, but never have sex with him if you don't want to,its emotional damage to you if you lie there resenting the fact you have to have sex or feeling uncomfortable this will only add to the existing issue
Mr. Flawless has never had a problem with women withholding sex from him. You see, when you are sexually irresistible as Mr. Perfect is, the women come to you in droves wanting to have sex. The situation has gotten so bad that I The Flawless One is the one that has to turn them down and they are so emotionally distraught they are eating their Ben %26amp; Jerry's praline ice cream wearing their fat sweatpants and watching Fried Green Tomatoes crying themselves to sleep at night soaking up the pillow with all their tears.
WEll, I think it is better if you satisfy your partner's sexual needs as far as possible. it isn't very kind to say 'no' to sex if you have no particularl reason for saying 'no'. If you're ill or in pain or exceptionally tired, then that's different. But if you are just not in the mood, I thinkk it is kinder to comply. I occasionally don't feel like it particularly, but I usually find that I get in the mood once we get warmed up anyway.
Not anytime he wants it.. its perfectly ok to not be in the mood. Marriage is sometimes a compromise on things though, and sometimes I have had sex with my husband when I was not completely in the mood. That does not happen much though :)
I'm not into the whole withholding sex thing, I think that is ridiculous
No. There is nothing in the marriage vows that say, I promise to love him in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy and to give him sex whenever he wants...I do.
As far as I'm concerned a wife has no DUTIES towards her husband or husbands towards their wives.
NO!
On the other hand, if you demand exclusivity, you might want to find a way to service his needs.
Intercourse is not the only way to service a man or woman's needs.
The same demand can be made on his to service you when needed even when he is tired since you can use tools and toys
To the best of her ability, yes. I think it's good to try to accomodate the husband as much as posssible in his needs. Keep him happy ... Of course, not at causing pain to herself, but as much as is reasonable. ...
No. Both partners should want to have sex when they both feel like it. I would never withhold sex as punishment, and anyone who does is too passive-aggressive for the good of their relationship.
Because we can't imagine anyone not wanting to have sex. To us, that's IMPOSSIBLE. As far as we (men) know, the reasons for not wanting to have sex is to hold out as a payback, or loss of interest in us.
Have him read this page, and talk to him about it. It's your body. Do what You want.
Because women DO use sex as a weapon.
A sexless relationship is not psychologically healthy. A relationship where it's ';I'll have sex with you but only if you do _____'; is even MORE unhealthy.
I don't think that women are obligated to do so. For me if I don't feel right with him (like if I feel distant from him), I can't be physical with him. On the other hand better me than somebody else.
Try it the other way around. I can't get sex from my husband whenever I want and it does get frustrating. I will get a little mad at him for turning me down.
Not ';any time '; but if the ';Not tonight ,I've got a headache'; start to out number the '; Come to Mama'; you've got problems.
After you've fetched him his cold beer, yes.
Joe has the right answer. ';Because we can't imagine anyone not wanting to have sex. To us, that's IMPOSSIBLE';
The controlling influence in female sexuality is in the brain. Mood can radically affect a woman's sexual interest or responsiveness. For many women they need to feel good in order to feel in the mood.
This difference in the sexes leads to men believing that when a woman says no, this is not because she does not want sex at this time but has denied it as some sort of punishment.
Attitudes and laws have only changed in recent history to accept that rape within marriage was possible, before this it was accepted that a wife's duty was to supply sex on demand. It takes longer to change attitudes than laws and there are still men who consider sex on demand as their right.
Should a woman feel she has to have sex on demand? No and if she lives with a decent man he will accept that her wishes and feelings are as important as his own. With regards to the withholding of sex causing emotional damage this should be treated with the same contempt as any emotional blackmail.
Societies attitudes towards women has changed dramatically over the last 50 years and it is natural that many parents who were bought up with the attitudes and beliefs of their parents (your grandparents) that these ideas are old fashioned in today's world.
A woman today has the right to choose whether she wants to have sex and has the law to support her in this even if she is married. Many rape statutes used to preclude spousal prosecution, including estranged or even legally separated couples. This only changed completely in the US in 1993 and in Britain in 1991 so it is hardly surprising that many men and women still believe as your mother does.
Yes. But many men think it.
I would say that first of all, you need to only MARRY an emotionally mature man.
Beyond that it is my opinion that if you DON'T refuse him very much then he is a better husband.
Instead of thinking of sex with your husband as a chore or a duty think of it as a fun time you get alone with him. If you enjoy sex as much as I do, then this is not difficult.
I tell my friends ';just do it and enjoy it'; not to be old fashioned but also with the reminder that a good husband also does many things that he doesn't necessarily want to do either, at times he doesn't want to.
Make sure you let him know that if he takes you away from the dishes or something that they may not get done until when you can. But I am sure he won't mind.
But if you are with someone really mature and loving, he will understand if you are really sick or really tired or something.
Try not to let anything make you too tired for that special time with your husband. If he is really good, you will want very much to make him and you happy that way.
There was a time when I had surgery after one of my miscarriages and my husband waited and didn't cheat either. I had fun thinking of ways to satisfy him when I could and when I was too ill he would rub my back.Should a woman feel she has to have sex with her husband anytime he wants?
Great question.
I really can understand if a woman doesn't want to have sex because she is tired from work, didnt' sleep, feels medically ill. A woman of course doesn't have to have sex ALL the time on her husband's beckoned call.
But if this is persistent, and the women NEVER has sex with her husband, I believe that is a large problem. In fact, that is probably grounds for the man to leave her for somebody else, because in a case like that, she is obviously trying to control her man and alter his behavior, maybe like making him buy her things in exchange for sex (which she controls, as the man usually never refuses).
Sex is not only beneficial for the man, but also beneficial for the woman too, so I don't understand why some women view sex as a favor for her husband.
I've never understood the ';withholding sex as a punishment'; thing - either you want sex, or you don't. And if you deny it to hurt someone, you would be punishing yourself. Pretty pointless, I would say. If a woman is angry at her husband for some reaso and she doesn't want sex, isn't that understandable?
You can't buy love through sex - and having sex whenever your husband wants, despite your own inclinations, means your marriage is based on sex. Which is a pretty shaky foundation, I think. Marriges need love and trust, affection and communication to survive.
And a bit of sex to leaven it all up.
I think a woman should be able to be upfront about when she does and doesn't want to have sex. But I also think that within a relationship, especially a marriage, you are responsible for meeting your partner's needs, including sexual needs. I think if two people are in a relationship they just need to be able to compromise with some things, because neither party can have everything they want.
No, a woman should never feel she has to have sex anytime her husband wants.
But if she does, and doesn't let on that she may not really want to have sex here and now, she keeps her husband happy. And the rewards to the wife are great. Not materialistic rewards, but in keeping her husband happy, it keeps them secure and closer. Isn't that what a marriage should be?
Sex is really really important to a guy. Keep him happy and he'll keep you happy.
Well it is not fair for a woman to marry a man, and then turn him away day after day, because of some feminist inspired issues. The Bible says in marriage the man's body is her body, and her body is his body. They become one flesh. Paul said it is good to marry, to prevent fornication. Paul or Peter said that.
The Bible also says that a man should nourish his wife, just as he nourishes and loves every member of his own body. And to be willing to die for her, so that she might live.
Yes and No. Marriage is about meeting each other's needs. Men (generally) have a much stronger sexual need than woman do. Imagen if your husband suddenly stopped talking to you. You would probably be pissed off because most woman like to talk and vent about things. If you didn't want to have sex with him, he would probably feel rejected by you.
On the other hand, men need to be understanding that woman don't always want to have sex and it's not about rejection. It's just not one of our stronger needs.
All in all, a sexless marriage is not normal!! I don't care what anybody says! If my husband stops having sex with me, I'm going to think something is very wrong!
A husband and a wife are united to one another, and live as one flesh. It is right for each of them to give into the other's sexual desires, because they are united in matrimony.
The only times this submissive (for both parties) attitude should be ignored is if there are health problems that sex would complicate, or if sex is replacing all the other wonderful parts of marriage.
I don't think we should have sex when ever ';HE'; wants to! I just got out of my 14 year relationship with my boyfriend/ex-husband. That was a hell of a ride. He always wanted sex when it worked into his schedule. When I would want to have sex with him he always played the ';IM TIRED'; card. So I felt like he wasnt into me anymore. So I lived without it for a long time. Now I have a great boyfriend that gives back and I do the same for him. He makes it about both of us not just him and how or what he wants out of it.
no she shouldn't and neither should a man, men usually have higher sex drives then us so this usually isn't an issue, it has to be a mutual thing if a man jumps to the conclusion your withholding as a punishment when you're not then there is not a mutual understanding there are other issues there why you don't want to have sex and he doesn't understand through lack of communication, and in long term relationships where sex becomes a routine its likely you wont talk about it alot,
if there's issues hampering your sex life sort them out, but never have sex with him if you don't want to,its emotional damage to you if you lie there resenting the fact you have to have sex or feeling uncomfortable this will only add to the existing issue
Mr. Flawless has never had a problem with women withholding sex from him. You see, when you are sexually irresistible as Mr. Perfect is, the women come to you in droves wanting to have sex. The situation has gotten so bad that I The Flawless One is the one that has to turn them down and they are so emotionally distraught they are eating their Ben %26amp; Jerry's praline ice cream wearing their fat sweatpants and watching Fried Green Tomatoes crying themselves to sleep at night soaking up the pillow with all their tears.
WEll, I think it is better if you satisfy your partner's sexual needs as far as possible. it isn't very kind to say 'no' to sex if you have no particularl reason for saying 'no'. If you're ill or in pain or exceptionally tired, then that's different. But if you are just not in the mood, I thinkk it is kinder to comply. I occasionally don't feel like it particularly, but I usually find that I get in the mood once we get warmed up anyway.
Not anytime he wants it.. its perfectly ok to not be in the mood. Marriage is sometimes a compromise on things though, and sometimes I have had sex with my husband when I was not completely in the mood. That does not happen much though :)
I'm not into the whole withholding sex thing, I think that is ridiculous
No. There is nothing in the marriage vows that say, I promise to love him in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy and to give him sex whenever he wants...I do.
As far as I'm concerned a wife has no DUTIES towards her husband or husbands towards their wives.
NO!
On the other hand, if you demand exclusivity, you might want to find a way to service his needs.
Intercourse is not the only way to service a man or woman's needs.
The same demand can be made on his to service you when needed even when he is tired since you can use tools and toys
To the best of her ability, yes. I think it's good to try to accomodate the husband as much as posssible in his needs. Keep him happy ... Of course, not at causing pain to herself, but as much as is reasonable. ...
No. Both partners should want to have sex when they both feel like it. I would never withhold sex as punishment, and anyone who does is too passive-aggressive for the good of their relationship.
Because we can't imagine anyone not wanting to have sex. To us, that's IMPOSSIBLE. As far as we (men) know, the reasons for not wanting to have sex is to hold out as a payback, or loss of interest in us.
Have him read this page, and talk to him about it. It's your body. Do what You want.
Because women DO use sex as a weapon.
A sexless relationship is not psychologically healthy. A relationship where it's ';I'll have sex with you but only if you do _____'; is even MORE unhealthy.
I don't think that women are obligated to do so. For me if I don't feel right with him (like if I feel distant from him), I can't be physical with him. On the other hand better me than somebody else.
Try it the other way around. I can't get sex from my husband whenever I want and it does get frustrating. I will get a little mad at him for turning me down.
Not ';any time '; but if the ';Not tonight ,I've got a headache'; start to out number the '; Come to Mama'; you've got problems.
After you've fetched him his cold beer, yes.
Joe has the right answer. ';Because we can't imagine anyone not wanting to have sex. To us, that's IMPOSSIBLE';
The controlling influence in female sexuality is in the brain. Mood can radically affect a woman's sexual interest or responsiveness. For many women they need to feel good in order to feel in the mood.
This difference in the sexes leads to men believing that when a woman says no, this is not because she does not want sex at this time but has denied it as some sort of punishment.
Attitudes and laws have only changed in recent history to accept that rape within marriage was possible, before this it was accepted that a wife's duty was to supply sex on demand. It takes longer to change attitudes than laws and there are still men who consider sex on demand as their right.
Should a woman feel she has to have sex on demand? No and if she lives with a decent man he will accept that her wishes and feelings are as important as his own. With regards to the withholding of sex causing emotional damage this should be treated with the same contempt as any emotional blackmail.
Societies attitudes towards women has changed dramatically over the last 50 years and it is natural that many parents who were bought up with the attitudes and beliefs of their parents (your grandparents) that these ideas are old fashioned in today's world.
A woman today has the right to choose whether she wants to have sex and has the law to support her in this even if she is married. Many rape statutes used to preclude spousal prosecution, including estranged or even legally separated couples. This only changed completely in the US in 1993 and in Britain in 1991 so it is hardly surprising that many men and women still believe as your mother does.
What would be the best attire to wear for both my husband and I to wear to a graduation in San Diego in May?
We are from the midwest and I do not want to stick out as the ';tourists';. I need some suggestionsWhat would be the best attire to wear for both my husband and I to wear to a graduation in San Diego in May?
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and a pair of skinny jeans if your fashionable
and for your husband.
just a pair of nice black dress pants and a blue shirt with a black tie would be very aodrable/
uhm you could wear something like ----
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and a pair of skinny jeans if your fashionable
and for your husband.
just a pair of nice black dress pants and a blue shirt with a black tie would be very aodrable/
When I get my wisdom teeth pulled should I have my husband take off a couple of days from work?
Im a stay at home mom to a 2 yr old. Just wondering if I will be up for the challengeWhen I get my wisdom teeth pulled should I have my husband take off a couple of days from work?
If your husband can take off two days without losing any pay, then I recommend that he take off the day of your surgery and the day after.
My wisdom teeth were surgically extracted and I had to have a ride home from the dentist and, after that, I spent the rest of the day sitting on the couch with my head spinning in circles while heading to the bathroom to spit blood and change the gauze every hour or so.
I can't even imagine if I had had to watch out for a 2-yr old during that day.When I get my wisdom teeth pulled should I have my husband take off a couple of days from work?
I would probably say yes because my brother is 21 and had his pulled out like a week ago, and he felt very sick and couldnt chew anything but mashed potatoes and needed things constantly. My mom had to go to his house and take care of him while his wife went to work. So its probably a better idea if he could stay home a few days to take care of you. Good Luck with the surgery!!
I would definately have him stay at home the first day because you'll be groggy from the anestisea and probably sleep for a while after coming home. there will also be alot of drainage and stuff. The second day you would probably be fine but if he can request any two days off and its not a big deal, he might as well just in case.
that would depend on how impacted your wisdom teeth are and how much trauma the dentist causes when extracting teeth. even if extractions are easy, it is not a bad idea to have your husband stay home and spend some time with your 2 year old and also get some rest you deserve. good luck with your extractions.
Nah, it's not really a big deal, unless you get dry sockets.
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If your husband can take off two days without losing any pay, then I recommend that he take off the day of your surgery and the day after.
My wisdom teeth were surgically extracted and I had to have a ride home from the dentist and, after that, I spent the rest of the day sitting on the couch with my head spinning in circles while heading to the bathroom to spit blood and change the gauze every hour or so.
I can't even imagine if I had had to watch out for a 2-yr old during that day.When I get my wisdom teeth pulled should I have my husband take off a couple of days from work?
I would probably say yes because my brother is 21 and had his pulled out like a week ago, and he felt very sick and couldnt chew anything but mashed potatoes and needed things constantly. My mom had to go to his house and take care of him while his wife went to work. So its probably a better idea if he could stay home a few days to take care of you. Good Luck with the surgery!!
I would definately have him stay at home the first day because you'll be groggy from the anestisea and probably sleep for a while after coming home. there will also be alot of drainage and stuff. The second day you would probably be fine but if he can request any two days off and its not a big deal, he might as well just in case.
that would depend on how impacted your wisdom teeth are and how much trauma the dentist causes when extracting teeth. even if extractions are easy, it is not a bad idea to have your husband stay home and spend some time with your 2 year old and also get some rest you deserve. good luck with your extractions.
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Should she leave her husband for her girlfriend?
I have a friend that has been unhappily married for 6 six years and they have two young daughters. Her marriage sucks and recently she met a woman who she has fallen in love with (the love between the women is mutual). She's told her husband and he's being very patient in hopes that this is a phase she'll get over and return to him. Since she has children with her husband, she is more concerned about their feelings than anyone else's. Should she pursue her relationship with the woman or go back to her unhappy marriage for the sake of her kids?Should she leave her husband for her girlfriend?
deffiantly stay with the husband.. if her mother left for another women the kids would be devestated and a little embarassed and weirded out i think she should stick through it for the kidsShould she leave her husband for her girlfriend?
If the other woman has a history of breaking up marriages then she needs to steer clear. My mum left my dad for another woman and she's more unhappy now with her then she ever was with my dad (this woman had a history of breaking up marriages).
If she is unhappy in her marriage she should leave because of that not because she's met someone else.
She should do whatever makes her happy and if that being with this other woman then so be it.
You should never stay in an unhappy marriage for the kids.
Kids ain't stupid they know when there is tension in the home.
Its better for kids to be in a healthy and happy environment with 1 parent then being in an unhappy unhealthy enviroment with 2 parents.
She should be thinking of her children instead of being selfish. If she was so unhappy in her marriage then why did she have children. She needs to focus on them instead of herself. If she doesn't want to do that then the father should take FULL custody of them and let here to be with that woman.
Has the marriage only been 6 years... if so why did she get married did she already have the children? She needs to make sure she thinks about her vows and the future of her kids. What does this woman have to offer them... does she plan to marry her. What will she lose/gain in a divorce... what will happen to hubby?
Sounds like there are several questions that need answering before this one.
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Cheating in a marriage is shameful even if the other partner is ';patient';.
She should go back to her husband and beg his forgiveness. She is unhappy because she has let her eyes wonder.
You should be his friend instead of hers. She doesn't deserve a friend.
Staying married for the sake of the kids is not healthy for the kids or the parents. She needs to end the relationship with the other woman or with the husband.
Some people bond emotionally and think they are in love when in fact they are infatuated. This very well may be a case of infatuation.
After a short period of time, she may very well miss her marriage and the family unit.
If my mother left cause she was unhappy then that's her Choice as long she will come and visit me every couple days and tells me she still loves me.. but if i caught my mother leaving a man for a women then i would kick her A$$ myself.. Get right and stay right.. good luck to your friend..
Her husband is just hoping to get in on the action.
I suggest you tell your friend that cheating is wrong and then stay the heck out of it. This is a train wreck waiting to happen. Get out of the way.
I WOULD SAY MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND LET THIS FAMILY WORK OUT IT'S OWN PROBLEMS. STICKING YOUR NOSE IN JUST MAY RECOIL BACK AT YOU IN SOME SHAPE OR FORM. ARE THE FLOORS CLEAN IN YOUR HOUSE.????????????
IMO she should divorce and let the husband have full custody of the children.
Staying in an unhappy marriage is generally not good for the kids...
I don't think anyone should stay in a relationship because of children. It does more harm than good. As for her relationship with the other woman... That is her decision
That is TOTALLY her decision.
stop the lesbian crap
be a good role model for the kids
remember your vows
clean up your act
try counceling and deff stay with the husband for kids sake and her own
deffiantly stay with the husband.. if her mother left for another women the kids would be devestated and a little embarassed and weirded out i think she should stick through it for the kidsShould she leave her husband for her girlfriend?
If the other woman has a history of breaking up marriages then she needs to steer clear. My mum left my dad for another woman and she's more unhappy now with her then she ever was with my dad (this woman had a history of breaking up marriages).
If she is unhappy in her marriage she should leave because of that not because she's met someone else.
She should do whatever makes her happy and if that being with this other woman then so be it.
You should never stay in an unhappy marriage for the kids.
Kids ain't stupid they know when there is tension in the home.
Its better for kids to be in a healthy and happy environment with 1 parent then being in an unhappy unhealthy enviroment with 2 parents.
She should be thinking of her children instead of being selfish. If she was so unhappy in her marriage then why did she have children. She needs to focus on them instead of herself. If she doesn't want to do that then the father should take FULL custody of them and let here to be with that woman.
Has the marriage only been 6 years... if so why did she get married did she already have the children? She needs to make sure she thinks about her vows and the future of her kids. What does this woman have to offer them... does she plan to marry her. What will she lose/gain in a divorce... what will happen to hubby?
Sounds like there are several questions that need answering before this one.
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Cheating in a marriage is shameful even if the other partner is ';patient';.
She should go back to her husband and beg his forgiveness. She is unhappy because she has let her eyes wonder.
You should be his friend instead of hers. She doesn't deserve a friend.
Staying married for the sake of the kids is not healthy for the kids or the parents. She needs to end the relationship with the other woman or with the husband.
Some people bond emotionally and think they are in love when in fact they are infatuated. This very well may be a case of infatuation.
After a short period of time, she may very well miss her marriage and the family unit.
If my mother left cause she was unhappy then that's her Choice as long she will come and visit me every couple days and tells me she still loves me.. but if i caught my mother leaving a man for a women then i would kick her A$$ myself.. Get right and stay right.. good luck to your friend..
Her husband is just hoping to get in on the action.
I suggest you tell your friend that cheating is wrong and then stay the heck out of it. This is a train wreck waiting to happen. Get out of the way.
I WOULD SAY MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS AND LET THIS FAMILY WORK OUT IT'S OWN PROBLEMS. STICKING YOUR NOSE IN JUST MAY RECOIL BACK AT YOU IN SOME SHAPE OR FORM. ARE THE FLOORS CLEAN IN YOUR HOUSE.????????????
IMO she should divorce and let the husband have full custody of the children.
Staying in an unhappy marriage is generally not good for the kids...
I don't think anyone should stay in a relationship because of children. It does more harm than good. As for her relationship with the other woman... That is her decision
That is TOTALLY her decision.
stop the lesbian crap
be a good role model for the kids
remember your vows
clean up your act
try counceling and deff stay with the husband for kids sake and her own
Is it a good idea to take a position where my husband would be my boss?
Principal. Teacher. Husband. Wife. Good? Bad?Is it a good idea to take a position where my husband would be my boss?
divorce laneIs it a good idea to take a position where my husband would be my boss?
I think its a bad idea. For one thing he might start controlling you more at home. Thinking he has more control that hes your boss. Also most relationships that the husband and wife work together ends up in fights everyday, or divorce. I had a friend whose parents work together, every time I was visiting they were fighting. My friend said that it was an every day thing.
VERY BAD IDEA!!! The idea of having to go to your husband for permission would be horrible. And on top of that, you guys would get a lot of stuff just because people would think that he plays favorites with you just because you are his wife. Or if something happens at work between you two then it will be brought home. That is all the making for a disaster!! Avoid it as best as possible!
My husband was my boss. He owned the company and I was his right-arm.
He is not my ex-husband.....he is still the boss and I am still his right-arm.
It was really really ...and I insist really hard to reach that place where I see him as my boss and him as his employee only.
I have achieved something rarely done. We have been working as exs for 5 years now.
It works because I accept he is my boss and he has the final word.
ADD: If I could turn back time, I would not do it.
I think it depends on the type of couple you are. Some people say no, some say go for it. My boyfriend was my boss for lil over 4 years and nobody knew it. It was heard at first not to act like a loving couple when around others but was fun to tuck away and get a kiss here and there. After having to resist each other all day made it all that more fun when we got home.We're the type of couple that never seems to get tired of each other, we loved working together.
Other teachers = suspicious of your every move (both of you).
Sadly, NOT worth the hassle.
xoxoxoxo
Bad. Most work places dont like that situation either. Some wont even allow it.
If you both feel good about working to gather, I don't see that this should be a problem. If I were you I would go for it.
Bad idea. I would avoid it.
I would NOT make that move....
divorce laneIs it a good idea to take a position where my husband would be my boss?
I think its a bad idea. For one thing he might start controlling you more at home. Thinking he has more control that hes your boss. Also most relationships that the husband and wife work together ends up in fights everyday, or divorce. I had a friend whose parents work together, every time I was visiting they were fighting. My friend said that it was an every day thing.
VERY BAD IDEA!!! The idea of having to go to your husband for permission would be horrible. And on top of that, you guys would get a lot of stuff just because people would think that he plays favorites with you just because you are his wife. Or if something happens at work between you two then it will be brought home. That is all the making for a disaster!! Avoid it as best as possible!
My husband was my boss. He owned the company and I was his right-arm.
He is not my ex-husband.....he is still the boss and I am still his right-arm.
It was really really ...and I insist really hard to reach that place where I see him as my boss and him as his employee only.
I have achieved something rarely done. We have been working as exs for 5 years now.
It works because I accept he is my boss and he has the final word.
ADD: If I could turn back time, I would not do it.
I think it depends on the type of couple you are. Some people say no, some say go for it. My boyfriend was my boss for lil over 4 years and nobody knew it. It was heard at first not to act like a loving couple when around others but was fun to tuck away and get a kiss here and there. After having to resist each other all day made it all that more fun when we got home.We're the type of couple that never seems to get tired of each other, we loved working together.
Other teachers = suspicious of your every move (both of you).
Sadly, NOT worth the hassle.
xoxoxoxo
Bad. Most work places dont like that situation either. Some wont even allow it.
If you both feel good about working to gather, I don't see that this should be a problem. If I were you I would go for it.
Bad idea. I would avoid it.
I would NOT make that move....
Should I let my husband worry about all the finances?
I keep asking my husband to setup and appointment with a bankruptcy lawyer. He keeps putting it off or telling me that he can't find one. He also says he gets acid in his stomach talking about it and gets upset with me. My temporary job is ending this week. Should I just stop nagging him and let him deal with it?Should I let my husband worry about all the finances?
It sounds like your husband needs your support. Since the well being of your family is riding on this, and he has specifically told you that the issue is uncomfortable for him (physically and probably emotionally), step in and quietly get the ball rolling. Make an appointment with two lawyers or agencies conducting consultations and allow him to choose the one you will actually visit.
If he changes his mind, backs out, makes a conflicting dental appointment, etc. on the scheduled day, go without him and report the results of the consultation. Don't sign or agree to anything without him and bring home as much info as possible. In these financial times, you do not want to wait until all options are off the table to react.
Good luck!Should I let my husband worry about all the finances?
Well, there are other alternatives than just letting him worry about all the finances.
There is probably a good reason he's putting off visiting a bankruptcy lawyer, it's a huge step. Give him time to search for alternatives and rather than nagging him, get into his court and work with him to find some solutions. He's obviously exploring and will only take the giant leap when he absolutely has to.
If you worked together, you could start a home business right now and replace your temporary income, I know because I did it and my back was against the wall as well.
Keep your options open, work with him and be cooperative. You always get more production when two minds work together.
Wishing you all the very best.
Keep nagging him. Doesn't sound like your fiances are doing too good if you're considering bankruptcy. He says he gets acid in his stomach? If he's worrying him enough to cause him discomfort, then I'd take the initiive if he doesn't want to do it and find a lawyer yourself. That's what the yellow pages are for. You can also google any potential attorneys to see if anyone has any complaints against them or bad reviews. You can do that for everything else, so I assume it works the same with attorneys. There are complaint forums for everything.
No. In fact, you should have taken the bull by the horns and found a lawyer right away.
This sounds like the two of you are in denial - he for not being a good provider and you for expecting him to do everything. Neither is wise.
So you call a lawyer and make an appointment.
If he won't go - his acid stomach is acting up again, you go by yourself.
In fact, talk to the lawyer about a divorce - since this guy is obviously unable to act like a responsible adult.
nope, you should take the steps to deal with it. Sometimes the stress of such issues is just too much for a person, and instead of just dealing with it, they'll continue to avoid it. One of you needs to be the strong one and take charge. Nothing at all against him, but it seems like it's just too much for him right now. Being in a marriage means you lift each other up when each needs it; he needs you to do it now.
Why don't you do it? I do ALL the bills, phone calls, appointments, etc. Pretty much anything that doesn't require physical labor is my job. It would be nice if he helped from time to time. Since your job is ending soon, you'll have lots of time to do things like this....maybe take a little off his plate and find a bankruptcy lawyer yourself. Maybe if you have it handled, he'll be less stressed out.
I wouldn't. It's your life to and you need to know what's going on with the household money. If he gets upset, well, that's not in your control, but it is in his. It has to be discussed and does cause arguments, try to steer clear of that.
Nobody is smarter than the other, some people may be better at some things. However, you should at least know what going on.
No. It seems to me, he is in ';denial'; about what is really happening with your finances. If he gets ';acid in his stomach'; or if he can not answer a direct question, I would think something is up. Please call your family lawyer and investigate or go to the bank !
I think you should just find an accountant and let him or her decide what your next step should be. But you must stay involved, it's the only way you will be aware of where the money went or will go,
You don't know how to use the phone? You call a lawyer to find out about Bankruptcy. Marriage is a two way street. Don't leave all of the burden on him.
NO. I have very bad experiences with husbands looking after the money. No excuses, stop nagging him and do it yourself!! It's your finances as much as his.
no this is ur life and future too so if he keeps refusing to go and see one then do it urself. be assertive and stop depending on him so much afterall its ur problem too.
I would set it up myself since he can't seem to take care of it. If it needs to be done it needs to get done now.
It sounds like your husband needs your support. Since the well being of your family is riding on this, and he has specifically told you that the issue is uncomfortable for him (physically and probably emotionally), step in and quietly get the ball rolling. Make an appointment with two lawyers or agencies conducting consultations and allow him to choose the one you will actually visit.
If he changes his mind, backs out, makes a conflicting dental appointment, etc. on the scheduled day, go without him and report the results of the consultation. Don't sign or agree to anything without him and bring home as much info as possible. In these financial times, you do not want to wait until all options are off the table to react.
Good luck!Should I let my husband worry about all the finances?
Well, there are other alternatives than just letting him worry about all the finances.
There is probably a good reason he's putting off visiting a bankruptcy lawyer, it's a huge step. Give him time to search for alternatives and rather than nagging him, get into his court and work with him to find some solutions. He's obviously exploring and will only take the giant leap when he absolutely has to.
If you worked together, you could start a home business right now and replace your temporary income, I know because I did it and my back was against the wall as well.
Keep your options open, work with him and be cooperative. You always get more production when two minds work together.
Wishing you all the very best.
Keep nagging him. Doesn't sound like your fiances are doing too good if you're considering bankruptcy. He says he gets acid in his stomach? If he's worrying him enough to cause him discomfort, then I'd take the initiive if he doesn't want to do it and find a lawyer yourself. That's what the yellow pages are for. You can also google any potential attorneys to see if anyone has any complaints against them or bad reviews. You can do that for everything else, so I assume it works the same with attorneys. There are complaint forums for everything.
No. In fact, you should have taken the bull by the horns and found a lawyer right away.
This sounds like the two of you are in denial - he for not being a good provider and you for expecting him to do everything. Neither is wise.
So you call a lawyer and make an appointment.
If he won't go - his acid stomach is acting up again, you go by yourself.
In fact, talk to the lawyer about a divorce - since this guy is obviously unable to act like a responsible adult.
nope, you should take the steps to deal with it. Sometimes the stress of such issues is just too much for a person, and instead of just dealing with it, they'll continue to avoid it. One of you needs to be the strong one and take charge. Nothing at all against him, but it seems like it's just too much for him right now. Being in a marriage means you lift each other up when each needs it; he needs you to do it now.
Why don't you do it? I do ALL the bills, phone calls, appointments, etc. Pretty much anything that doesn't require physical labor is my job. It would be nice if he helped from time to time. Since your job is ending soon, you'll have lots of time to do things like this....maybe take a little off his plate and find a bankruptcy lawyer yourself. Maybe if you have it handled, he'll be less stressed out.
I wouldn't. It's your life to and you need to know what's going on with the household money. If he gets upset, well, that's not in your control, but it is in his. It has to be discussed and does cause arguments, try to steer clear of that.
Nobody is smarter than the other, some people may be better at some things. However, you should at least know what going on.
No. It seems to me, he is in ';denial'; about what is really happening with your finances. If he gets ';acid in his stomach'; or if he can not answer a direct question, I would think something is up. Please call your family lawyer and investigate or go to the bank !
I think you should just find an accountant and let him or her decide what your next step should be. But you must stay involved, it's the only way you will be aware of where the money went or will go,
You don't know how to use the phone? You call a lawyer to find out about Bankruptcy. Marriage is a two way street. Don't leave all of the burden on him.
NO. I have very bad experiences with husbands looking after the money. No excuses, stop nagging him and do it yourself!! It's your finances as much as his.
no this is ur life and future too so if he keeps refusing to go and see one then do it urself. be assertive and stop depending on him so much afterall its ur problem too.
I would set it up myself since he can't seem to take care of it. If it needs to be done it needs to get done now.
Is there something my husband can take to stop snoring?
He has tried the breathe right strips but it did not work? Please help?Is there something my husband can take to stop snoring?
My partner's snoring disturbed my sleep every night
Her snoring has been cured wearing a stop snore ring an acupressure ring worn on the little finger
We now both sleep through the night with no problems
Check out the website there are hundreds of customer endorsementsIs there something my husband can take to stop snoring?
Snoring is a symptom. You do not want to mask it. You have a fever, you take tylenol, you still have a fevor.
Regular snoring is a problem You husband needs a sleep study. Generally snoring is associated with sleep apnea.
The treatments:
CPAP-most common, very effective
surgery-%26lt;50% success rate. often makes it worse b/c of scar tissue
Dental device-very effective with the right person
Tracheotomy--true cure, but who wants a hole in there throat.
If you husband only has apnea on his back, the tennis ball trick will work. Generally very few people only snore on there back.
One option is surgery. There is a relatively new procedure called somnoplasty that uses high frequency radio waves to shrink the uvula and the soft tissue in the back of the throat.
Another possibility is a dental device that is worn while sleeping. This is usually fitted by a dentist or orthodontist. It pulls the lower jaw foreward and keeps the airway more open and less susceptible to the vibrations that cause snoring.
I had the same prob. The snore strips did not work. What does work is a super air filter I got. We leave it on high. I call it his ';snore machine'; since it shuts them up when he forgets to turn it on before bed and I tell him to put it on so I can sleep.
I use the Blueair filter; other cheaper ones did not work too well:
http://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/711-53200-鈥?/a>
He might be a throat snorer. Breathe Right also makes throat spray and throat strips that help to tighten the muscles in the throat and lubricate the air way. It's worth a shot!
My partner's snoring disturbed my sleep every night
Her snoring has been cured wearing a stop snore ring an acupressure ring worn on the little finger
We now both sleep through the night with no problems
Check out the website there are hundreds of customer endorsementsIs there something my husband can take to stop snoring?
Snoring is a symptom. You do not want to mask it. You have a fever, you take tylenol, you still have a fevor.
Regular snoring is a problem You husband needs a sleep study. Generally snoring is associated with sleep apnea.
The treatments:
CPAP-most common, very effective
surgery-%26lt;50% success rate. often makes it worse b/c of scar tissue
Dental device-very effective with the right person
Tracheotomy--true cure, but who wants a hole in there throat.
If you husband only has apnea on his back, the tennis ball trick will work. Generally very few people only snore on there back.
One option is surgery. There is a relatively new procedure called somnoplasty that uses high frequency radio waves to shrink the uvula and the soft tissue in the back of the throat.
Another possibility is a dental device that is worn while sleeping. This is usually fitted by a dentist or orthodontist. It pulls the lower jaw foreward and keeps the airway more open and less susceptible to the vibrations that cause snoring.
I had the same prob. The snore strips did not work. What does work is a super air filter I got. We leave it on high. I call it his ';snore machine'; since it shuts them up when he forgets to turn it on before bed and I tell him to put it on so I can sleep.
I use the Blueair filter; other cheaper ones did not work too well:
http://rover.ebay.com/rover/1/711-53200-鈥?/a>
He might be a throat snorer. Breathe Right also makes throat spray and throat strips that help to tighten the muscles in the throat and lubricate the air way. It's worth a shot!
Why is my ex-husband allowed to claim a hardship with the DCSS?
I live on my own with our 3 kids. He has 2 children with his girlfriend but they (all) live with his parents. Shouldn't I get the hardship since I'm on my own?Why is my ex-husband allowed to claim a hardship with the DCSS?
Request a hearing through DCSS. Even though they have the authority to collect child support, they do not have the arbitrary authority to unilaterally determine the amount of child support. Most people don't realize this. DCSS and other state child support agencies don't really have as much power as they would like to believe. The majority of their ';agents'; have absolutely no legal experience. Regardless of what anyone else may tell you, if you are not in agreement with the decision DCSS makes, you have the right to have a judge hear your child support case.
Some states do make an allowance for other children. The difference in child support is usually not much though, 1-5%. In some states, this only applies to children born BEFORE the original child support order was issued (as in, children from a previous relationship). The reason subsequent children don't always count is because the parent knew they had other children to support before they went out and created more. If they can't adequately support the ones they already have, they have no business having more.
The best thing you can do is learn your states child support laws. Google ';Child Support Code';. If there are specific things in the code you don't understand, come back and ask specific questions about those. Having a good grasp on the laws will put you one step ahead DCSS, as most of them only know what they were taught in training.Why is my ex-husband allowed to claim a hardship with the DCSS?
Doesn't matter where he lives, if he has 2 other kids to support, they will take that into account.
And lower his support.
Really, you shouldn't try going after a little increase in support. You'll probably lose more in legal fee's, than you'll ever gain back in the extra 100-150$ a month you'll get more.
Also, i dont know your situation, but try to understand your husband's situation, he still wants to have a life of his own, and the fact that he's living with his parents show's that he probably doesn't have enough money to pay any more support.
Depends on state law, and what your court order says, if you have one.... if you don't, you should get one. Hire a lawyer to handle this for you.
If you cannot afford an attorney, look for a legal services organization in your area. Single moms are often eligible for free lawyers, but you might have to get on a waiting list.
Start with contacting your state or local bar association for guidance.... They can tell you where to start looking....
Child Support is based on the non-custodial parents ability to pay. If he is a dead beat, lazy bum now he would also be if he was at home, and thus have the same income.
Maybe he has no income for a legitimate reason.
I feel for you, but where he lives isn't the only factor they take into account when granting hardship status. The will also take into consideration how much he makes, other children he supports, medical expenses, etc.
Request a hearing through DCSS. Even though they have the authority to collect child support, they do not have the arbitrary authority to unilaterally determine the amount of child support. Most people don't realize this. DCSS and other state child support agencies don't really have as much power as they would like to believe. The majority of their ';agents'; have absolutely no legal experience. Regardless of what anyone else may tell you, if you are not in agreement with the decision DCSS makes, you have the right to have a judge hear your child support case.
Some states do make an allowance for other children. The difference in child support is usually not much though, 1-5%. In some states, this only applies to children born BEFORE the original child support order was issued (as in, children from a previous relationship). The reason subsequent children don't always count is because the parent knew they had other children to support before they went out and created more. If they can't adequately support the ones they already have, they have no business having more.
The best thing you can do is learn your states child support laws. Google ';Child Support Code';. If there are specific things in the code you don't understand, come back and ask specific questions about those. Having a good grasp on the laws will put you one step ahead DCSS, as most of them only know what they were taught in training.Why is my ex-husband allowed to claim a hardship with the DCSS?
Doesn't matter where he lives, if he has 2 other kids to support, they will take that into account.
And lower his support.
Really, you shouldn't try going after a little increase in support. You'll probably lose more in legal fee's, than you'll ever gain back in the extra 100-150$ a month you'll get more.
Also, i dont know your situation, but try to understand your husband's situation, he still wants to have a life of his own, and the fact that he's living with his parents show's that he probably doesn't have enough money to pay any more support.
Depends on state law, and what your court order says, if you have one.... if you don't, you should get one. Hire a lawyer to handle this for you.
If you cannot afford an attorney, look for a legal services organization in your area. Single moms are often eligible for free lawyers, but you might have to get on a waiting list.
Start with contacting your state or local bar association for guidance.... They can tell you where to start looking....
Child Support is based on the non-custodial parents ability to pay. If he is a dead beat, lazy bum now he would also be if he was at home, and thus have the same income.
Maybe he has no income for a legitimate reason.
I feel for you, but where he lives isn't the only factor they take into account when granting hardship status. The will also take into consideration how much he makes, other children he supports, medical expenses, etc.
How to survive a 12 hour day at Disneyland with your husband, your mother n law and your sister n law?
10 mg of Valium every 4 hours, sunscreen, and a lot of luck.How to survive a 12 hour day at Disneyland with your husband, your mother n law and your sister n law?
tell them you will meet them by the teacup ride right after you buy a Tshirt for your friend at home...then leave the park...go to a spa and hang there....at the end of the day go back to the room and tell them how you searched for them and you were positively beside yourself at the prospect of losing them in a theme park...
';thank GOD we found each other!';
Then turn to your husband and say:
'; I am so tired from the experience I need a spa day tomorrow...you guys go without me...this really took way too much out of me';
enjoy.How to survive a 12 hour day at Disneyland with your husband, your mother n law and your sister n law?
get some of that syrup of icapek (sp?) don't take a lot, tell them to go enjoy themselves and that you'll try to catch up. Then find a bar (or pull out that bottle of vodka you so smartly packed) get a couple of drinks to loosen up and join them. Oh yea make sure you don't reek of liquor.
i feel for you.
Suggest that perhaps you split up throughout the day? Make an excuse that you want to buy presents or that you want to go on the massive rides, that your MIL won't like.
or, you can always pretend you're ill :) x
Go to Epcot and have a margarita in Mexico, then Beers in England and so on. That is always fun.
- go your separate ways and plan to meet up for meals, etc
Pretend the very first ride you go on has made you very motion-sick and you must return to the hotel room......then when they leave you alone do whatever you damn well wish.....instant recovery ya know, lol.........
Wow, this is a total buzz kill. I'm still thinking of you in that short pink hair and thigh hi boots.
You just grin and bear it. At least Dland is small. Dworld...oh oh, so huge. yuck.
Tell you husband to grew some you know what and tell them both that he wants some quality time with his wife without them being there.
I dont have any issues with my inlaws except they have twice my energy so for me it would be lots of caffine to survive lol
your mother in law?? At the happiest place in the world?? talk about mixing oil and water together!
I dont know your m.i.l. but mine (now ex M.I.L) was...*shivers* ugh!
Separate from them to be on your own and say you'll meet them at a certain place and time. It will give you some relief.
Ditch them at the Matterhorn, and run off by yourself. Make sure your cell phone isn't charged so they can't find you.
Get sick???? Then you can go lay by the pool...LOL
Vodka? Either that or flirt like crazy with all the characters walking around the park. ;-)
Prozac and captain
prozak..........lots and lots of prozak.
Take Bob along with you, or me lol.
DON'T GO!
Do you have an iPod? LOL !!
Simple, feign an injury/illness, and don`t go! lol
huh ????/
you have a head achebeauty tips make up advice
tell them you will meet them by the teacup ride right after you buy a Tshirt for your friend at home...then leave the park...go to a spa and hang there....at the end of the day go back to the room and tell them how you searched for them and you were positively beside yourself at the prospect of losing them in a theme park...
';thank GOD we found each other!';
Then turn to your husband and say:
'; I am so tired from the experience I need a spa day tomorrow...you guys go without me...this really took way too much out of me';
enjoy.How to survive a 12 hour day at Disneyland with your husband, your mother n law and your sister n law?
get some of that syrup of icapek (sp?) don't take a lot, tell them to go enjoy themselves and that you'll try to catch up. Then find a bar (or pull out that bottle of vodka you so smartly packed) get a couple of drinks to loosen up and join them. Oh yea make sure you don't reek of liquor.
i feel for you.
Suggest that perhaps you split up throughout the day? Make an excuse that you want to buy presents or that you want to go on the massive rides, that your MIL won't like.
or, you can always pretend you're ill :) x
Go to Epcot and have a margarita in Mexico, then Beers in England and so on. That is always fun.
- go your separate ways and plan to meet up for meals, etc
Pretend the very first ride you go on has made you very motion-sick and you must return to the hotel room......then when they leave you alone do whatever you damn well wish.....instant recovery ya know, lol.........
Wow, this is a total buzz kill. I'm still thinking of you in that short pink hair and thigh hi boots.
You just grin and bear it. At least Dland is small. Dworld...oh oh, so huge. yuck.
Tell you husband to grew some you know what and tell them both that he wants some quality time with his wife without them being there.
I dont have any issues with my inlaws except they have twice my energy so for me it would be lots of caffine to survive lol
your mother in law?? At the happiest place in the world?? talk about mixing oil and water together!
I dont know your m.i.l. but mine (now ex M.I.L) was...*shivers* ugh!
Separate from them to be on your own and say you'll meet them at a certain place and time. It will give you some relief.
Ditch them at the Matterhorn, and run off by yourself. Make sure your cell phone isn't charged so they can't find you.
Get sick???? Then you can go lay by the pool...LOL
Vodka? Either that or flirt like crazy with all the characters walking around the park. ;-)
Prozac and captain
prozak..........lots and lots of prozak.
Take Bob along with you, or me lol.
DON'T GO!
Do you have an iPod? LOL !!
Simple, feign an injury/illness, and don`t go! lol
huh ????/
you have a head ache
Do midwives allow the husband to be a more active participant in delivery?
I have gone traditional thus far. But I think that in a way a husband is ';robbed'; of the birthing experience. Although he has not said anything about it, with our first child, he was right there at my head 95% of the time. I was thinking if we done it at home, then he could play a more active role in helping to bring his daughter into the world. I think that the bond would be stronger if he could catch her coming out. I have not talked to him yet. I am just trying to look at all angles before I do.Do midwives allow the husband to be a more active participant in delivery?
Did he ask to be involved?
It is difficult for doctors and midwives to give patients what they want when they don't ask.
To be honest the majority are a bit squeamish and prefer to stay near their wives heads and comfort and support them up there. I sometimes ask if the father wouild like to deliver or cut the cord but it depends what is happening in the room and how smoothly things are going.
It's important to make sure your wishes are made known in a birthing plan BEFORE your birth - don't wait until you get in there, and don't assume because you give birth in a hospital or a birthing centre that your husband or labor support partner cannot assist in the birth in any way. I delivered a baby 3 days ago in our local referral hospital and her father ';caught'; her and cut her cord. No problem.
HE ASKED.Do midwives allow the husband to be a more active participant in delivery?
I'm still pretty early in my pregnancy, but my midwife's assistant made sure to ask if my husband wanted to join me in the exam room during our last appointment. The midwife asked if he wanted to cut the cord. So far they seem VERY willing to make sure the husband is as much of a part of the process as possible.
As for actually catching the baby, that's definitely something to ask the midwife. I'm still having my baby at a hospital, but I think if you're having your baby at home that she might be more flexible. Ya never know 'til you ask! :)
talk to a local midwife!!
Tell the midwives what you want to happen. We were asked before the birth of my first son if there was anything we wished to happen during and after the delivery, we told them, hubby wanted to cut the cord and see the head etc. We had a wonderful midwife who involved my husband a lot. We had more of a problem with other fathers telling my husband to stay up near my head, he didn't listen... when i was 9cm dilated we were asked if we wanted to see the head, i didn't at first but when my husband asked to see i felt i should in case i regretted it, when i was pushing one midwife had one leg, one midwife was ready to catch and my hubby was in prime position with my other leg up the air yelling out exicitedly that he could see the head!I have 'heard' some midwives prefer not to let the men look for fear of putting them off sex, this could be an old wives tale for all i know... tell them what you expect and what you want, it is your birth and you are allowed input into how you want it run, if they say no to a request they will give you a valid reason why.
Well....umm...lol. I am fine at the head.
Did he ask to be involved?
It is difficult for doctors and midwives to give patients what they want when they don't ask.
To be honest the majority are a bit squeamish and prefer to stay near their wives heads and comfort and support them up there. I sometimes ask if the father wouild like to deliver or cut the cord but it depends what is happening in the room and how smoothly things are going.
It's important to make sure your wishes are made known in a birthing plan BEFORE your birth - don't wait until you get in there, and don't assume because you give birth in a hospital or a birthing centre that your husband or labor support partner cannot assist in the birth in any way. I delivered a baby 3 days ago in our local referral hospital and her father ';caught'; her and cut her cord. No problem.
HE ASKED.Do midwives allow the husband to be a more active participant in delivery?
I'm still pretty early in my pregnancy, but my midwife's assistant made sure to ask if my husband wanted to join me in the exam room during our last appointment. The midwife asked if he wanted to cut the cord. So far they seem VERY willing to make sure the husband is as much of a part of the process as possible.
As for actually catching the baby, that's definitely something to ask the midwife. I'm still having my baby at a hospital, but I think if you're having your baby at home that she might be more flexible. Ya never know 'til you ask! :)
talk to a local midwife!!
Tell the midwives what you want to happen. We were asked before the birth of my first son if there was anything we wished to happen during and after the delivery, we told them, hubby wanted to cut the cord and see the head etc. We had a wonderful midwife who involved my husband a lot. We had more of a problem with other fathers telling my husband to stay up near my head, he didn't listen... when i was 9cm dilated we were asked if we wanted to see the head, i didn't at first but when my husband asked to see i felt i should in case i regretted it, when i was pushing one midwife had one leg, one midwife was ready to catch and my hubby was in prime position with my other leg up the air yelling out exicitedly that he could see the head!I have 'heard' some midwives prefer not to let the men look for fear of putting them off sex, this could be an old wives tale for all i know... tell them what you expect and what you want, it is your birth and you are allowed input into how you want it run, if they say no to a request they will give you a valid reason why.
Well....umm...lol. I am fine at the head.
How to get my husband to give me another baby..?
So I am 30 this month and my husband and I have 2 kids and I have always want 4 and he has a son from another marriage, he doesn't live with us. So I am ready for our last child, God willing. And he is stalling and I want to do this so we can go to the next chapter of out life. So how do I get him to relax on this issue and start trying?How to get my husband to give me another baby..?
Just tell him that you really want another child and you love him and you want kids while you are still young and healthy.How to get my husband to give me another baby..?
I never wanted more than 2 kids but my wife would have one a year until she gets to 50 if she could. Any way we had two after 5 years of marriage and the question of no. 3 came up of course. The pressure was really on me not that she made any threats or got heavy. It didn't help that we'd had two boys and she had always wanted a girl (not that we don't both adore the little fellas!). In the end we compromised - I agreed to go for no3. but no more after that. I did it because I love her and I was only holding out because of selfish motives (I wasn't bothered about having a daughter and just didn't want the grief of having three little ones on the go). Guess what happened when we went for the scan and found out the sex? another boy. My heart sank through the floor as I could see this would forever be an issue between us. We now have three little boys and adore them - I have no regrets about having a third - but every time we see a little girl being fussed over or dressed up by her Mum, my wife and I exchange a little look. As for advice - don't get all extreme and confrontational but do make it clear just how much this is all-important to you. Good luck.
Tell him you want another baby. Flat out. Say ';its time, i'm ready and i do NOT want to wait til i'm older'; Make a date out of it, and if he goes to use a condom, say ';No, i want another child, i'm not waiting so quit stalling'; It's mean but if you've always wanted more than 4 then he should agree. Marriage is about compromise.
Sit down and have an honest conversation with him. Why is he putting on the brakes? What worries him? Try to work on easing the reasons that he hesitates in having another child.
did you ask him why he isn't ready? maybe he's worried about changing the dynamic of your family right now. just explain that this is a good time in your lives to have a baby and you really want to start trying right away.
Just tell him that you really want another child and you love him and you want kids while you are still young and healthy.How to get my husband to give me another baby..?
I never wanted more than 2 kids but my wife would have one a year until she gets to 50 if she could. Any way we had two after 5 years of marriage and the question of no. 3 came up of course. The pressure was really on me not that she made any threats or got heavy. It didn't help that we'd had two boys and she had always wanted a girl (not that we don't both adore the little fellas!). In the end we compromised - I agreed to go for no3. but no more after that. I did it because I love her and I was only holding out because of selfish motives (I wasn't bothered about having a daughter and just didn't want the grief of having three little ones on the go). Guess what happened when we went for the scan and found out the sex? another boy. My heart sank through the floor as I could see this would forever be an issue between us. We now have three little boys and adore them - I have no regrets about having a third - but every time we see a little girl being fussed over or dressed up by her Mum, my wife and I exchange a little look. As for advice - don't get all extreme and confrontational but do make it clear just how much this is all-important to you. Good luck.
Tell him you want another baby. Flat out. Say ';its time, i'm ready and i do NOT want to wait til i'm older'; Make a date out of it, and if he goes to use a condom, say ';No, i want another child, i'm not waiting so quit stalling'; It's mean but if you've always wanted more than 4 then he should agree. Marriage is about compromise.
Sit down and have an honest conversation with him. Why is he putting on the brakes? What worries him? Try to work on easing the reasons that he hesitates in having another child.
did you ask him why he isn't ready? maybe he's worried about changing the dynamic of your family right now. just explain that this is a good time in your lives to have a baby and you really want to start trying right away.
I'm a resident of Australia with a Polish passport. My husband only has an Aussie passport, can he work in UK?
We are both Aussie citizens and I have dual citizenship with Poland, but live in Australia. My hubby only has an Aussie passport though. I want to know if he is allowed to work in the UK, namely Ireland. Does he need a visa or special permit or can we just arrive and start working straight away?
Thanks!I'm a resident of Australia with a Polish passport. My husband only has an Aussie passport, can he work in UK?
Just an aside here but Ireland is not in the UK. Northern Ireland, along with the rest of Great Britain make up the UK. Southern Ireland is a republic in it's own right and has not been in the UK since the early 1920's. So basically what applies to the UK does not necessarily apply to Southern Ireland. (for one, they have the Euro, we don't)
I think that regardless of which part of Ireland you wish to go to, your husband would need a work permit.I'm a resident of Australia with a Polish passport. My husband only has an Aussie passport, can he work in UK?
yes
most countries need a work permit if you are not a citizen of that country. my fiance is from england and im from the united states and when i lived over there i was not able to work without a legal work visa. hope that answers your question
Might be similar to New Zealand. If your husband is a natural born Australian then he can get a slightly longer visa than if he was not part of a British sovereignty, but for a really valuable visa to work and live in the UK, I think he needs to have had his mother (?) directly emigrating to Australia from the UK. Something like that.
he has to get a working visa
Thanks!I'm a resident of Australia with a Polish passport. My husband only has an Aussie passport, can he work in UK?
Just an aside here but Ireland is not in the UK. Northern Ireland, along with the rest of Great Britain make up the UK. Southern Ireland is a republic in it's own right and has not been in the UK since the early 1920's. So basically what applies to the UK does not necessarily apply to Southern Ireland. (for one, they have the Euro, we don't)
I think that regardless of which part of Ireland you wish to go to, your husband would need a work permit.I'm a resident of Australia with a Polish passport. My husband only has an Aussie passport, can he work in UK?
yes
most countries need a work permit if you are not a citizen of that country. my fiance is from england and im from the united states and when i lived over there i was not able to work without a legal work visa. hope that answers your question
Might be similar to New Zealand. If your husband is a natural born Australian then he can get a slightly longer visa than if he was not part of a British sovereignty, but for a really valuable visa to work and live in the UK, I think he needs to have had his mother (?) directly emigrating to Australia from the UK. Something like that.
he has to get a working visa
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