What would you do if you found a letter that your wife wrote to her ex husband?

the letter said that she loved him and was going to give him the house number and to call when i was at work since he is in prison for drugs the last 25 years. i have been married for 7 years and i do everything for my family and always put myself last. thats just me and thats who i am, she does not appreciate anything i do for her. she calls me names and blames me all the time, please help. what should i do?What would you do if you found a letter that your wife wrote to her ex husband?
If she is pursuing a relationship with anyone, especially her ex-husband, that is crossing a major boundary in my opinion. You did not know about this letter, so there is something knowingly indecent, on her behalf, about the letter.


If she's blaming you so often, ask her for reasons why. If they aren't valid, she's just pushing her blame, or guilt perhaps, on you. You really should get marital help, or walk away from this mess.What would you do if you found a letter that your wife wrote to her ex husband?
I think you should talk to her about it---after all the guy being in prison and being her ex husband doesn't mean that she wants him to fall off the face of the earth. You don't give much to go on, such as were there children involved or how long they were together or what..I have been divorced and my current husband has been divorced and as much as we dislike the hell we went through while being married---neither of us wishes the worst would happen to our ex's---at one time there was enough love to change us into the people that we are today, and for that, we can both be proud that we had been were we were in our past...There is always things going on in other people's minds that you will never know about until you ask..If you love the woman you are married to TALK TO HER NOT THE INTERNET.
Open communication within couple is one of the most important things the relationship will survive. TALK NOT SHOUT! Though your actions speak everything of your love to your family, you still need the words to justify your actions, especially with your wife. Talk to her and you will find the answer. Good luck.
I would file for a divorce. Then I would pack everything and move out. Don't forget to leave the letter she wrote to her ex-husband and a note from you, telling her that you always give her everything she wants. It appears that she deserves her ex-husband more then she deserve you.
prepare for the divorce. Set some money away somehow to pay an attorney and get set up in a place to live..take credit cards away from her and cancel them or at least have your name taken off of them and put an ad in the paper that you are not responsible for anything she spends after a specific date.
confront her! don't wait any longer.





remember in a relationship there should always be Love, Trust, Respect and Loyalty.





without one of those everything starts falling apart, not to mention but have an intimate relationship too.





how would she like it if u where talking to ur ex... think about that.





think about urself and ur kids.
im sorry but it time to put your self first, if she want to be with someone


else then give her the freedom to do so, it sound like she does not


respect you and what you do for her so may it time to find someone


that will appreciate you...
because she knows she's in the wrong and probably feel guilty. You sound like an aw some guy and any woman would be pleased to have you. I would suggest sitting her down and stress to her your feelings tor wards her and the name calling, because it's not necessary. I wish you good luck
If you let this continue this will end badly....for you.





Some women just cling to the worst types, I'm sorry.





Good luck
Confront her and then decide what you are going to do.
walk away. she will either wise up or not.
get out of it move to the beach and focus on you don't be codependent
She sure sounds like a real ';winner';! I would let her know you found that letter %26amp; ask her what she plans on doing. You DO NOT have to accept the unacceptable or anything she's doing against you. There is NO reason to put yourself last. You ARE IMPORTANT %26amp; far BETTER than she is. I would tell her you are NOT going to settle for what she intends on doing w/her ex. IF he calls from jail, 9 times out of 10 it w/be ';collect calls';. Of course you are NOT going to pay for these calls. I would tell her she either makes up her mind it's you or it's him. She CANNOT have both worlds nor should you have to stand for it. Actually, I wouldn't want to have any parts of her. After finding out what you just did, I'd tell her to pack her things %26amp; get out of YOUR home. You do NOT have to be second best to some scum such as she's ';chosen'; over you. I would NOT support her in any way at all. Just tell her you no longer want her in your life. You do not live like this %26amp; should NOT be forced to have any parts of it. I don't k now if you have any children, but IF you DO, they should also NOT be involved w/a mother such as she is. You should get FULL CUSTODY %26amp; I feel if the truth be known as to what she's doing, you shouldn't have any problems w/full custody of them. I don't feel a judge would think much of a wife/mother involved w/an ex who is in jail for that length of time for drugs. PLEASE for ONCE put yourself FIRST! She does NOT deserve you %26amp; your kindness, your kind heartedness. Get her out of your life for good as she is NOT trustworthy. You can put her in the past %26amp; leave her there. Start a whole new beginning for yourself. You did NOT marry the rite person, but there IS a rite one out there just for you. You WILL meet someone who deserves you %26amp; will give you the love you deserve. Please start on this immediately as she's only going to start using you. Get you life straightened out as far as she goes. Say what you mean, mean what you say...DO IT...I do wish you the very best...:)