Your husband can easily have his phimosis treated without circumcision, and it will definitely benefit him if he does.
The first of things he can try is stretching exercises, the first link I gave at the bottom will give you a page on how to go about doing that. Stretching exercises with the use of a steroidal cream applied topically to his penis could possibly fix his phimosis problem altogether and would be best if so.
The second of things he can try is extending his foreskin. This technique is the same as what restoring the foreskin is to men who have been circumcised. Mainly what is done is your husband wears a restoring device, over time of wearing it, a few months for your husband, his foreskin will grow new cells and become longer. Sometimes a tight foreskin only needs a little bit more skin to become loose enough to slide properly up and down the shaft of the penis. The second link provided will be on how to extend the foreskin on the page it is a bit further down; however this step will be a difficult task for your husband if he cannot even retract the foreskin while flaccid.
If stretching and extending do not work, or if stretching has not worked and his phimosis is too tight to attempt extending, the the third option is a dorsal slit. Links 3, 4, and 5 that are provided are about that. Mainly what is done is a small slit is made vertically into his foreskin to loosen it and afterward it can glide properly, there is no failure in that, it will work no matter what, and what's better is that he does not have to lose his whole foreskin to do it, actually he won't lose any of his foreskin from it at all.
There's a wonderful site out there which has a presentation about how sex is better for women and men if the man is intact. It contains 10 reasons why, each reason having various pictures and video clips showing why and how it is better. However I unfortunately can't find it at all, I visited it a few days ago, but my browser wipes its history after every session. Hopefully someone will know what I'm talking about because it was such a good argument why intact sex is best and beneficial.
And finally the last link is an overview of what can be done to help him without involving circumcision.
EDIT: I found the link I mentioned earlier in this comment about how sex with an intact/uncircumcised penis is more beneficial to the vagina and both partners. It is NOW the last link I have provided, on the page there is the ';Top 10 Ways Circumcised Sex Harms Women';. Click on the #1 and have your husband read it with you, go all the way through to 10. I think this will be an eye-opener for him as well as yourself. And hopefully should be enough evidence to have him at least considering a preptuioplasty, if not getting a circumcision. Good luck and hopefully everything I've posted will help your husband see that there's still options to try before taking the ultimate and irreversible step of circumcision.How can I convince my husband to not get a circumcision?
I was more than glad to help, I hope your husband sees now that he has plenty more options available to him. And eventhough I don't know you or him, I want anyone to be able to enjoy themselves as much as possible. Best of luck to the both of you.
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Yes there is a difference. A Major difference. Circumcised guys are a lot less sensitive then uncircumcised.
He doesn't have to get a circumcision. Tell him to get fully hard and pull the foreskin back as far as he can without pain and hold it there for 5+ minutes. And do that 3+ times a day.
If the skin doesn't start stretching after 3 weeks then tellhim to go to the doctor and ask the doctor for steroid creams to help the skin relax and stretch.
Now he has to be careful because a lot of doctors these days will tell him anything just to get him circumcised. He has to stand his ground and tell the doctor he isn't going to get circumcised untill he tries the steroid cream.
The head is sapposed to be exsposed. But if he fixes the phismosis his head will be exsposed.
The head is always exsposed it doesn't matter if you are circumcised or not.
Once he fixes the problem his skin will retract when he gets hard and he will have a fullyexsposed head and he wil still have all the wonderfu pleasures of having a foreskin.
Just tell him to work on fixing the phismosis for now. If after it's fixed he still wants to get circumcised then so be it.
But I thinkhe would be happier just fixing that phimosis. His head will still be exsposed even tho he isn't circumcised.
-Connor
You just said it yourself. Your husband has phimosis. Thats not good and its not healthy. Besides that he is not enjoying sex to the fullest because he cant retract his foreskin during sex. Its his penis, not yours. I think you are being a bit selfish here. Circumcision wont affect you either way but not having a foreskin in the way will definitely let him enjoy sex better. You are right by the way. You dont have any valid facts to convince him not to get circumcised. he has a medical problem and he should take care of it. You will also have less yeast infections and urinary tract infections yourself.
you can get all the information you need here.
http://www.penisdoctor.com/
http://www.circumcisioncenter.com/
http://www.aboutcirc.com/
http://www.medicirc.org/
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I was circumcised at 18 and would do it again in a heartbeat! I can assure you circumcision enhances the sexual experience, the foreskin only gets in the way. Right now he is basically masturbating inside you. When he gets circumcised the direct contact between the gland and the vaginal wall will drive both of you crazy! There is no downside to being circumcised, only a lifetime of benefits!
This page shows normal retraction of the foreskin:
http://geocities.com/painfulquestioning/鈥?/a>
Phimosis is caused by damage to the penis. Certain methods of masturbation that put too much pressure on the penis are the primary cause of damage (note this is different from saying that masturbation is bad per se - don't mistake me for a religious nutter). So he probably damaged it growing up. It hasn't had chance to repair because he has persisted in putting too much pressure on the penis and using it every day.
How do some masturbation habits damage the penis?
The answer is: by applying too much pressure. There are 3 main arteries in the penis. The one most often damaged and the one that leads to phimosis most is called the corpus spongiosum. It runs along the underside of the penis. It should stick out.
Look at this diagram:
http://www.med.umn.edu/anatomy/6150/CD/N鈥?/a>
Because the arteries do not fill with blood it means that the glans attached to the corpus spongiosum cannot be pushed through the skin.
Examples of damaging masturbation habits include thrusting against the mattress and also pushing down on your penis while sitting at the computer watching porn. I'd be interested to know if you do any of these.
The correct way to masturbate is by applying no pressure. Just lightly grip the shaft and move the skin up and down.
Can it be cured?
Yes. All it needs is rest and time to repair. The body will repair it if it isn't being used or constantly getting re-damaged every time you masturbate incorrectly. This usually takes a week to a month depending on the damage done. Once you resume masturbating - remember no pressure - just move the skin up and down.
You do not want to get a circumcision because a) there is no need if you follow the above advice and give it chance to repair and b) it is damaging to the penis's sensitivity and function..
Why is circumcision bad?
First understand how important the foreskin is. The foreskin contains nerves. These are specialized nerves found nowhere else in the penis.
Without the foreskin, you cannot masturbate properly. Intact men masturbate by moving the foreskin up and down, like so:
http://geocities.com/painfulquestioning/鈥?/a>
As the skin moves up and down, the nerves on the underside of the foreskin are stimulated.
Further damage is done because the foreskin is a protective layer of the penis. With the foreskin gone, the glans is exposed. Firstly it dies out. Secondly, it rubs on clothes; this causes the glans skin to become toughened. Both these things further reduce sensitivity. This page gives a good illustration of the damage done:
http://www.noharmm.org/IDcirc.htm
Circumcision obviously affects sex. Women and men enjoy sex more when the man has a foreskin. This page lists the ten reasons why:
http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/10F鈥?/a>
One physician noted that after stopping the bad masturbation habits his patients phimosis were cured and he never saw them again:
http://www.cirp.org/library/treatment/ph鈥?/a>
Well, from experience, I don't think it makes much difference in the bedroom. The man I've been with for two year was recently circumsiced and he said he felt no significant difference after the opperation. I didn't feel a difference either. I do however think it is a personal decision and I hope you would support him in his choice. No worries though, it won't effect your sex life either way =P
Andy has the goods. He can use a topical cream and stretching exercises .. if he can retract his foreskin while flaccid.. he hasn't far to go and also tell him that a foreskin provides you with a more comfortable ride if things get a little dry... as the foreskin's natural action of gliding backwards and forwards across his glans also impacts on what you feel in certain situations, like those times when your natural lubrication is not what it normally is... anal sex especially less aggressive... foreskin provides some give in tight situations... You might not be dry now.. at your young tender age.. but give it a few years and you will know that you aren't always going to be wet on demand.
His phimosis is not severe, since he can retract while soft.
He probably just needs to do some stretching exercises, ideally in the bath/shower, every day for a few weeks. Follow the instructions on this website:
http://www.geocities.com/restoremaine/ti鈥?/a>
This website also has some more general advice:
http://www.norm-uk.org/circumcision_alte鈥?/a>
Tell him to try an over the counter steroid cream for a few months and practise stretching it daily, before going for something like surgery.
Cutting it off is bad enough, but cutting it off as an adult means he'll be in for at least a month of agony plus any risks of complications.
It will be very painful!
It's easier for babier, but once you are an adult and fully grown man, it will be a tougher process. Tell him no. Maybe he should talk to a doctor about it, there might be other options.
Circumcisions are fine, but it;s not necessary.
uncircumcised men get more pleasure as well as woman.
when i was a baby i got circumcised and i wish i had the choice that he does to get circumcised or not but just tell him to read more on that subject and that u would prefer him to get get it
i think its better that he doesnt. if it would be better, then men would be born without that part. my dad had it when he was a baby and he is really mad about it. tell him that most men hate it.
I thought it was only possible to get circumcised while still a baby! Wouldn't that hurt something awful for your husband!!??
Tell him that uncircumcised men get more pleasure out of sex.
find pictures of infections from the surgery.
Tell him you won't have sex with him if he gets it!
I had it done 90 days ago %26amp; wished I'd had it done years ago!
Eeww just let him
omg ew
thats dumb tell him no
If your husband's foreskin is not retracting with an erection, then he IS missing out, the head of the penis is where a lot of the nerves are and where he will get pleasure. His is not getting exposed during sex, the foreskin is covering it.
(The argument that ';sex feels better for an uncircumcised man'; does not apply here, because the reason that uncircumcised men get more pleasure out of sex is that the foreskin protects the head of the penis, keeps it soft and sensitive, BUT then it retracts with an erection, and exposes the sensitive head. In this case, the foreskin is not retracting and is actually hindering the sexual experience.)
The most sensitive part of the penis is the underside of the head.
One of the main arguments against circumcision is that this area is now exposed, gets rubbed against his clothing, and thus because of the constant (albeit minor) stimulation, becomes less sensitive.
However, if while erect this sensitive underside is not being exposed, then he is not getting very much stimulation during sex. What small degree of sensitivity he will loose, will greatly be made up for by the sensitivity that he will gain, I suspect.
So to pull some figures out of thin air, to get an idea of the ballpark I am talking about, suppose that guys who are uncircumcised and don't have phismosis, get sexual gratification that we'll rate at say 100. Circumcised guys, because of the reduced sensitivity, get maybe 80. He's getting maybe 30 now, at best. Getting circumcised, in his case, will increase his pleasure by more than double, almost tripple what it is now!
You get pleasure when he pushes in. He gets pleasure when he pulls out, because the underside of the head is making the most contact then and is the part being rubbed. In his case, because of the foreskin, it's not getting rubbed - the only stimulation he is getting is from squeezing action that pushes hard enough to compress the foreskin enough that it pushes on the underside of the penis.
You and he have to weigh the additional pleasure that you feel having him uncircumcised vs. the additional pleasure he feels being circumcised. Now you can't know for sure how it compares until you actually have it done (and then it's too late to have it undone), but I seriously doubt your additional pleasure at having him uncircumcised is anywhere close to the additional pleasure that he will get by being circumcised. I'm sure that, in the end, you'll enjoy it more if he's enjoying it more because he will react differently as he gets more pleasure. If your pleasure decreases at all, it will be very slight. His, on the other hand, will increase greatly.
no difference and just tell him you like it how he is but it is his body and in the end it is his decision
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