Should I let my husband worry about all the finances?

I keep asking my husband to setup and appointment with a bankruptcy lawyer. He keeps putting it off or telling me that he can't find one. He also says he gets acid in his stomach talking about it and gets upset with me. My temporary job is ending this week. Should I just stop nagging him and let him deal with it?Should I let my husband worry about all the finances?
It sounds like your husband needs your support. Since the well being of your family is riding on this, and he has specifically told you that the issue is uncomfortable for him (physically and probably emotionally), step in and quietly get the ball rolling. Make an appointment with two lawyers or agencies conducting consultations and allow him to choose the one you will actually visit.





If he changes his mind, backs out, makes a conflicting dental appointment, etc. on the scheduled day, go without him and report the results of the consultation. Don't sign or agree to anything without him and bring home as much info as possible. In these financial times, you do not want to wait until all options are off the table to react.





Good luck!Should I let my husband worry about all the finances?
Well, there are other alternatives than just letting him worry about all the finances.


There is probably a good reason he's putting off visiting a bankruptcy lawyer, it's a huge step. Give him time to search for alternatives and rather than nagging him, get into his court and work with him to find some solutions. He's obviously exploring and will only take the giant leap when he absolutely has to.


If you worked together, you could start a home business right now and replace your temporary income, I know because I did it and my back was against the wall as well.


Keep your options open, work with him and be cooperative. You always get more production when two minds work together.


Wishing you all the very best.
Keep nagging him. Doesn't sound like your fiances are doing too good if you're considering bankruptcy. He says he gets acid in his stomach? If he's worrying him enough to cause him discomfort, then I'd take the initiive if he doesn't want to do it and find a lawyer yourself. That's what the yellow pages are for. You can also google any potential attorneys to see if anyone has any complaints against them or bad reviews. You can do that for everything else, so I assume it works the same with attorneys. There are complaint forums for everything.
No. In fact, you should have taken the bull by the horns and found a lawyer right away.





This sounds like the two of you are in denial - he for not being a good provider and you for expecting him to do everything. Neither is wise.





So you call a lawyer and make an appointment.





If he won't go - his acid stomach is acting up again, you go by yourself.





In fact, talk to the lawyer about a divorce - since this guy is obviously unable to act like a responsible adult.
nope, you should take the steps to deal with it. Sometimes the stress of such issues is just too much for a person, and instead of just dealing with it, they'll continue to avoid it. One of you needs to be the strong one and take charge. Nothing at all against him, but it seems like it's just too much for him right now. Being in a marriage means you lift each other up when each needs it; he needs you to do it now.
Why don't you do it? I do ALL the bills, phone calls, appointments, etc. Pretty much anything that doesn't require physical labor is my job. It would be nice if he helped from time to time. Since your job is ending soon, you'll have lots of time to do things like this....maybe take a little off his plate and find a bankruptcy lawyer yourself. Maybe if you have it handled, he'll be less stressed out.
I wouldn't. It's your life to and you need to know what's going on with the household money. If he gets upset, well, that's not in your control, but it is in his. It has to be discussed and does cause arguments, try to steer clear of that.





Nobody is smarter than the other, some people may be better at some things. However, you should at least know what going on.
No. It seems to me, he is in ';denial'; about what is really happening with your finances. If he gets ';acid in his stomach'; or if he can not answer a direct question, I would think something is up. Please call your family lawyer and investigate or go to the bank !
I think you should just find an accountant and let him or her decide what your next step should be. But you must stay involved, it's the only way you will be aware of where the money went or will go,
You don't know how to use the phone? You call a lawyer to find out about Bankruptcy. Marriage is a two way street. Don't leave all of the burden on him.
NO. I have very bad experiences with husbands looking after the money. No excuses, stop nagging him and do it yourself!! It's your finances as much as his.
no this is ur life and future too so if he keeps refusing to go and see one then do it urself. be assertive and stop depending on him so much afterall its ur problem too.
I would set it up myself since he can't seem to take care of it. If it needs to be done it needs to get done now.