Sounds like your husband is missing something in his marriage, and hasnt come to you with it. Try being more sexual with your husband, try new things with him, without him knowing about it...be spontaneous towards him, maybe shower with him sometime, be unpredictable....he will love this, and he will learn that he has what he is watching on tv, right in front of him the whole time, he just didnt realize it....Be fun for him, and beleive me, he will return it back to you. But if you just yell at him about it, he'd definately NOT going to stop....try my way, and let me know if it works....do this over time....if he's watching a video, say nothing to him....crawl up on his lap, and start loving on him...and it will end. Hope this works for you.How can stop my husband from watching porn?
Talk to him about why he does it. Is this an all the time thing or only every now and then?
Start wearing sexy lingerie.
You have 3 options the wayI see it.
1. Dont give him a reason to watch them. Granted it is better for him to be at home watching porn than filling a need elsewhere, but try being very sexually assertive, to control, be spontanious, give him some go down treatment for absolutly no reason.
2. Watch it with him, you never know, you might just like it too. make one with him. Your a Christian, not a Nun, and I hate to break it to you but some of the most messed up sexual acts were done my members of the church, and have been done so for 100's of years. Who do you think could afford courtisians in the 1600-1700's? The members of the church.
3. Make one with him. Do whatever floats your boats and then watch it together. You may just find a fun new hobby.
Lights, camera....ACTION!
you can't just impose your own morals on to people whether they be your husband, family or friends. all you can do is confront the person which you did. since it doesn't seem like he's stopped confront him again and make sure you get across why it bothers you and why exactly you think its wrong. as your husband he should respect you enough to at least make an attempt to stop. if i were you i'd spend more time chosing my battles then chasing after and being upset about silly little character flaws.
I would just ignore it, this is perhaps natural to most all men.
Its just in their instinct to do this.
It is best not to make a big deal out of this and let it ride and he will soon just get bored with it.
So, just pray for him and let him be human.
well it sounds to me like you need to lay down some ground rules and express a little deeper on how you feel and maybe get a little more serous on things as far as maybe telling him ';you know what honey, how you feel if.................'; then give an example of something you KNOW he would not allow then compare that to his porn watching and tell him how disrespectful that really is basically like watching another naked woman and you know by watching that he obviously is not thinking about you he is thinking about that woman at that time and how she looks and what she is doing and that basically IS lusting for HER and that's not right for another woman's husband, or man, to lust for ANOTHER woman
The only way to get him to stop watching porn is to be more sexual with him, maybe give him some variations, try new things, do it a lot so he doesn't have any sexual tention left over to spend at the computer. The reason he does it is that and because guys just like differences in girls, different colors, different body types, different sexual preferences, etc.
A porno addiction is hard to beat. It may be difficult for him to stop. Just keep telling him and try to work something out.
beat him around the head with a hammer - then he wont be able to watch anything ha ha
just let him....whats it hurting? Mine does...i mean i am not thrilled about it but its a man thing. at least he isn't cheating on you. You and I won't ever truly understand it but unless its obsessive i would just let it go .....you choose your battles
Guys watching porn is perfectly normal and healthy. I would be more upset that my husband feels he has to go behind my back and lie to me - and that I was making him feel ashamed enough to do it.
The way I see it is, porn keeps him from cheating.
I agree it is a man thing. and can understand your frustration.
Thing that would bother me most was the fact he made a promise to you! and broke the promise.!
Its the trust thing .
TO ME IT IS JUST LIKE CHEATING...ASK HIM WHAT CAN YOU DO FOR HIM TO MAKE THINGS BETTER IN THE BEDROOM....
maybe your so bad in bed that he has become addicted to it.
That's tough because it can be an addiction to some. Have another talk with him and perhaps consider counseling
Thats a hard one. (no pun intended) Either you accept that he enjoys that, or keep fighting about it. My ex-husband was a devout christian, who loved porn! Its hard to deal with hippocrites, thats for sure, even worse when you're married to them. I wish I had an answer for you. I guess the christian answer is to pray about it.
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