You should try to sit down with your husband and explain to him how the way he is spoiling his daughter. It best that he know what the consequences will be if he keep on doing what he does. I know that your husband is just trying to be a good dad and so are you. But it best to teach the little one from a young age so that when they grow up they know that they can't get everything they want. I hope my answer will help you out a little.How to stop my husband from spoiling my 20 month old toddler?
Wow, I'm surprised at some of the answers you got here! I agree with your best answer. Parents should always be united in front of their children, it cause problems if you aren't. :)
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It kind of sounds like you are jealous of there relationship, I have three children and I spoil all of them and my wifeis fine with that. But you have to be on the same page with disipline, or it won't work. Just remeber they are only little for short period of time so you should spoil them.
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You need to be united. If your feeling this way now your in for a rough life of fighting eachother. Children are amazing. They can be spoiled rotten but still be taught right from wrong. Count your blessings he's an active part of your childs life.
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I can not pass by what you said, ';MY DAUGHTER'; she is also his daughter, my ex and I were the same way, now daughter is 14, is a christian girl, a cheerleader, honor roll student, and LIVES WITH ME FULL TIME, lighten up, but keep united on how to disipline her.
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Unless his actions are...well, like a F/D relationship should be, it's a good thing you're trying to slow it down a bit. Spoiled kids are the ones that no one wants to deal with.
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Tell him he's not the real father.
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as a father of two daughters i can say you won't be able to stop him to any great extetent......fathers and daughters
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Withhold sex
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If he is spoiling her by buying her toys, take the toys back to the store and buy something for yourself or pay a bill. Worked with my husband, he got the hint real quick.
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Let him be himself. 20-months old is too young to really spoil. If she acts bratty then let him deal with it.
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spoiling is probably how he says “i love you”. it’s your job as parents to AGREE on how and when (NOT IF) you spoil her. decide together what is and isn’t okay. be willing to compromise and find a special way for you to “spoil” her; fun “mommy and me” time!
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Life is to short to worry. Relax and enjoy her. I have a 7 %26amp; 4 year old %26amp; I spoil them every chance I get. Just think she might not be here tomorrow or you might not !!!
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Has he heard of Paris Hilton?
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RUN AWAY!!
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how bout' not worrying so much about trivial b.s- like him being extremely loving towards his child..and be happy that he doesn't like to give his kid a beating..like some parents out there.the kid is 20 month's old-lighten up.
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The next time she has a tantrum, get in the car and go shopping and tell him to deal with it.
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I have to ask just exactly what your definition of ';spoiling'; a 20-month old child could possibly be. You only offer a general observation without examples. Any answer provided by anyone would thus be incorrect until proper information is provided.
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Put the child in the freezer. It shouldn't spoil when it's frozen.
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As a grandfather of 9, I have learned through the years that a child show allot of love and attention does not spoil a child...the only real thing that can cause a spoiled child is the excessive giving of gifts in place of showing love and affection.
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Remind your husband that it only gets more expensive to spoil children as they get older. And should you have other children, it certainly adds up. Spoil your child with attention and praise, not with things.
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Give him oral sex every time he stops spoiling her.That would certainly work for me.
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I agree with panicked...that is the remedy for everything
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She is 20 months old. Give the kid and your husband a break. Sounds like a case of jealousy to me. It is a wonderful thing if a father choses to show that much attention to a child. GROW UP!
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just take the stuff away from wat ur husband gives to the baby
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You should try not being sch a controlling *****.
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How is he spoiling her? Gifts? Letting her do what she wants? Love and attention? Letting her sleep in the same bed with you?
It kinda depends. There are a lot of moms that would LOVE it if their husband was spoiling their kids, but it depends on what's going on.
You don't want to discourage him from taking an active part in her life, she needs him. But if it's causing a problem, then talk about limits and what you both think is best for her.
You keep saying my husband and my toddler. Are they not related to one another?
What are some of the things that he is letting her do that you are not happy with? I need some more details so I can help give some advice : ) Thanks!
Good luck! lol. My husband gets mad and yells at me all the time because I spoil all three of my kids. Its not that I don't ever punish them but I am way too easy on them. they are ages 1,3,4. Its something ingrained in our minds and hearts or something and these soft spots for our children just get bigger and bigger and it hurts us to punish them severely. Its hard to explain but nothing you can do or say can change how he does things. He has to watch how its affecting his child and when it bothers him bad enough, he'll change his tactics. I still haven't changed mine. =)
he probably sees it as a bonding experience and a way to ';win'; your daughter over, perhaps explain to him that there are other productive ways of bonding with your daughter. The other thing is, he's her dad and has just as much right as you do to parent her how he sees fit, (its very hard believe me i know!!) i found the best way is to approach the issue of you thinking he is spoiling her too much is to not attack and blame him as such but rather say things constructively. Explain to him that parenting is about being a team and listening to and respecting each others views on parenting and compromise.
there are things my partner lets our 4 and 1 yr olds do that i wouldnt, but the same goes for me, so we compromise as best as we can and remind ourselves that its our kids best interests we have at heart.
daddys lil girl have fun
It is sweet that he loves her!
DEAR MISS
LET HIM KNOW HE IS NOT GOING TO SLEEP UNTIL YOU
HAVE YOUR SAY
WHILE YOU ARE LAYING IN THE BED AT NIGHT AND
SHE IS A SLEEP IN HERE BED IN HER ROOM TELL HIM
HOW YOU FILL ABOUT THE WHOLE THING OK SAY
DEAR WHEN I SAY NO IT MEANS NO SHE CAN NOT
ALWAYS HAVE HER WAY SHE IS MINE TOO AND YOU
BOTH NEED TO LEARN NO MEANS NO OK
IF YOU DO NOT LIKE IT TOUGH I AM SO SORRY HONEY
BUT MONEY DOES NOT GROW ON TREES THE LAST
TIME I LOOKED AND FOOD DOES NOT ETHER OK
PLEASE BE FORM WITH HIM OK
TAKE CARE
is int he the father????????
It's his daughter too.
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