Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?

He has not met any of these women in person and he insists that it is harmless - just fun... what do you think?Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?
It's cheating...my ex wife did it to me. It hurts just as bad as a physical affair. Erotic chats should be with his wife. If it bothers you, then there is nothing harmless about it.Is it cheating if your husband is meeting women online and having erotic chats with them?






Well it appears based on the other responses that the definition of cheating is having erotic chats. So it really doesn't matter whether he's having the chats online, in the office, at the grocery store or at a cocktail party. If that is true there's a lot a people cheating out there. And it ain't just men.
I hate to seem harsh...But I don't think you are taking this serious now but in time he will get bored with talking to these woman...He will then start meeting them or worse. If you are his one and true love why isn't he talking dirty to you at night? Instead, he is taking his free time looking and searching to talk dirty and have mental affairs with other women? Yes, this is a form of cheating...First the mind then the body...Start using your brain and not your heart on this one. Stop this if you can or I promise you...You will be crying later on when you find out your husband is out meeting other women behind your back.


Good luck!
its funny how the internet works , private boxes , or messeges , well they are more intimate than a corner booth in a bar room , anything can be said , boundries crossed without hesitation , infatuation which leads to addiction , take a drink , like it , take two drinks like it more , drink the whole bottle , buy some more , get it in your minds people , yes its this new age of cheating ,
its cheating with out the sexual contact. what happens with cases like this can lead into a ';emotional affair'; google it if you are interested.





of course he thinks its fun, b/c he isnt thinking about your feelings. now if the tables were turned, i bet he would be feeling the way you do.
get him off the b@@dy pc and concerntrating on the real things in his life. i.e YOU.





He is belittling you by doing this. take charge of the situation inject some more fun into your lives ';together';.





I would just distract him, the chat room become an addiction.





Good luck
I don't believe it's cheating but it is very hurtful and disrespectful. He needs to grow up and consider what it is doing to you.
Yes, it is cheating. If you are not doing it now, you will eventually because it temptation to the mind.
Do you really have to ask? Yes, it is cheating. Why would he say it is ';harmless';? Can't he see how it is hurting you and how it is affecting your marriage?
probably....but flirting is wrong also....and my question to you have you ever flirted with a guy you saw at store, even if it was eye flirt? thats cheating too
It might not be physical cheating but he's obviously yanking on his weiner thinking about it. Nasty.
I see it as cheating. This is how cheating starts. With just talking and carrying on, about what we could do if I wasn't married.
Oh yes, it's cheating. You don't know if he's meeting these women or not. If he's thinking it, he's probably doing it.
If my wife was doing that, I would call it cheating.
its cheating
yes it is cheating
he's planning to cheat.
been there done that...its awful!! dont let him talk you into doing it too