I cheated on my husband and he left me four weeks ago. Is it okay to sleep with other men now?

We got separated mid-January when he found out I was cheating on him, but I don't want the other guy either. I've found other men who are lots of fun! Is it too soon?I cheated on my husband and he left me four weeks ago. Is it okay to sleep with other men now?
Marriage is an agreement to another person and it INCLUDES working on our self and changing the things about our self that are unhealthy or could hurt our partner or damage our marriage. Are you sure you want to throw away your marriage?





No where do the vows say ';.....for richer, for poorer or until I find someone more fun to hangout with....';





You may have gotten married too young and are obviously struggling with that decsion now. You may want to decide to handle a bad situation the best way you can by accepting your committment to your husband, acting from a place of respect for him and yourself and stepping up your integrity even when things get rough. Carefully consider your actions before you do more damage to your marriage, your partner's feelings and your own self esteem by sleeping with others before your divorce is final.





Obviously you are struggling with yourself right now. You say you wanted more attention from your husband? A more healthy and mature way to handle that would be to discuss that with him, without blaming him, and find out why you are tempted to get those needs filled outside of your marriage. Being bored in a marriage is NOT really a good reason or excuse to divorce or cheat on our partner. You could end up being sorry for this behavior some day and regret throwing your marriage away. You could also be setting yourself up for a lifetime of dysfunctional behavior that could ultimately ruin your life and any chance at being happy within an intimate partnership.





The choice to sleep with others at this time is yours and yours alone. But you may wish to ask yourself if your are prepared to deal with the fallout and consequenses of spontaneous and irresponsible behavior? This decision shouldn't be made lightly as it can have long lasting implications for you and your husband. Aside from the effect it will have on your marriage it could do some serious damage to your self esteem and your husband's ability to trust again.





I hope you find something that works for you so that you can stop the destructive patterns that could potentially deeply hurt your husband and perhaps sabatoge you in ways you have not yet even considerd.











Good luck to you.I cheated on my husband and he left me four weeks ago. Is it okay to sleep with other men now?
Get divorced.


You didn't marry for the right reasons.


It doesn't matter a toss what you do in the meantime.





And don't insult your husband any further by trying to claim any money from him.





Continue your ';fun'; lifestyle.


The more fun you have the, faster your ever lowering reputation will spread in your local community


One day you're going to wake up and realise that this ';fun'; is just a figment of your imagination.
You are kinda all mixed up aren't you. You can sleep with anyone you want at any time. The greater thing to do is question your motivations. Do you crave that instant emotional fix because you are short on your own self esteem. You want to have fun, then have fun! You don't always need to include sex. You risk prostituting yourself for a short lived display of attention. These guys don't love you you know.
Wow...so instead of talking to your husband like a smart person would about how they need more attention, you just decided to go out and cheat instead. Wow... I think you deserve the worlds biggest sl*t award... Oh and FYI, you can have fun with your husband, or are you just that boring and dumb you couldn't think of ways to have fun?





I feel bad for your ex husband for marrying such a piece of garbage such as yourself. You didn't rush into things, you're just too selfish to ever think of anyone else but yourself. Seriously, you need counselling cause your thinking is so unbelievably narcissistic.
What the hell is wrong with you you sex monster? You cheated on the guy, now your looking for your next victim? The poor man, he's already hurt, if he was to here about you sleeping with another guy so soon he'd feel so bad. Do you have no shame? You did something completely disgusting and you don't even feel bad (and don't tel me you do feel bad, if you did you wouldn't even be think about sleeping with another man, you'd be thinking about apologizing to your man and making up for being such a slob). I know I'm blunt but you did something disgusting and for you to be thinking of sleeping with another man again so soon..someone needs to be straight forward and tell you like it is.





';oooo I just wanna have fun now is that so bad';





Your not a teenager anymore, GET IT TOGETHER HOME GIRL!





The sad thing is, it sounds like you don't even see what you've done to the poor man. You sound like you don't even care. Get outah here..
You are 22 and still to grow for matured relationship.. if this is what you want to be leave him and do what you like to do.. time will come for you to understand what is that you should do in your life and you will be steady after that.. just make sure you do spoil too many things for yourself as well as for others and make sure you marry again only when you feel you can be steady with one you like and really in love.. Presently you are just in a mode of young age and fun things.. and far away from love..
Your a irresponsible woman. You get a divorce then have sex with other people. Now your left with nothing if your husband can prove you had an affair in court. Sounds like expensive sex to me. What kind of idiot asks if its ok to cheat on their ex-husband after cheating on the same husband? My recommendation is to GO BACK TO SCHOOL and start exercising that brain muscle again.
u really don't know what u want from life. guess u can do what ever makes u happy in life. but at at some point your going to look back on your life choices and regret it. like is not all about having fun and sleeping with allot of men, and getting what u want out of it, its all about how u treat others. why would u have any morals after the fact?
How old are you? Why did you get married in the first place? So you could dress up for a day, and have a party with your friends and get treated like a princess for a day while everyone tolerates it in haste?





Seriously, grow up and think about more than just you. Humans actually have something called feelings and emotions. You sound like a sociopathic whore.





And yes, your edit doesnt make it better, it makes it worse. Im not so sure that you arent a troll. a troll whore, lol.





thumbs down to you.
You cheated on your husband and find no problem with that?


You are still married. Do you have any idea what the word even means? If you think that sex is the reason that two people get together.............. how old are you anyway? 15?


(I'd actually say 3, but that's not a possibility)





EDIT: I'm glad I saw your edit. You just answered the big question. ';You wanted....'; Silly girl! One does not go into marriage looking for things to be filled. One goes into marriage with the entire condition to GIVE to the other person - not take away. Do not get married....strike that.......do not get INVOLVED with anybody until you mature enough to the point that you can start giving of your abundance of self. (And I don't mean flesh)
If you're going to cheat on somebody, you don't need to think about the time. Plus, you already cheated what's the difference? You slept with men when you were married, and you're asking if it's ok now to sleep with guys when you're separated?
Why would you worry about messing around with other guys when you've been doing it throughout your marriage? Why think twice about jumping other guys? Go ahead. Who is going to stop you? Perhaps you should find out what you really want before you get married again or have another boyfriend.
If you have to ask dont worry. The whole reason people wait is they need time to sort out their feelings and heal but I get the feeling you are kinda hollow and shallow in the feelings department....in your case I think fun is the only thing you are good for.
What? Are you for real? You CHEATED on your husband while you were STILL TOGETHER...and now your asking if its TOO SOON to see other men??? I think it was TOO SOON when you CHEATED fool! I think you need to re-evaluate your life..or just carry on being a bit*ch.
With your attitude I think he's a lucky man. I don't know if your divorced or ot but some states still hold this to be adultery. If I was the husband I would consider myself lucky to get rid of you. I hope there weren't any kids involved.
well you lost your husband because you couldnt be faithful while you were married. now you are single so its up to you...but i wouldnt suggest trying a real relationship again until you are ready to grow up and respect the man
YOU SELF CENTERED BIT*H!!!!!!! JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK THAT 'OTHER' MEN ARE FUN DOESN'T MEAN YOU SHOULD CHEAT ON YOUR HUSBAND!!!!!!!! IF I WAS HIM I WOULD OF DONE THE SAME THING!!!!!! WHY DON'T YOU KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED FOR THE TIME BEING!!!!!!!! YOU SHOULDN'T DO THAT BECAUSE THE NEXT MAN YOU CHEAT ON MIGHT BE VERY UNHAPPY!!!!!!!
You are young and want to have fun. Do it. You should have fun when you are young. I know I love to have fun.
Hahahaha it makes me laugh how much you don't give a **** about your husband! Yea, I mean, go ahead, the damage is done. Just don't let things get messy.
No, how could you even think that way, no wonder he left you.


What you must do sister is find a decent man and settle down and get married to him
If you don't care about your marriage, which you don't appear to do, then it was probably okay to sleep with people 4 weeks ago.
Well considering you cheated on him, I think once he left you, you could have started sleeping with other men straight away... you already hurt him so what do you care





ps: I dont agree with what you did in the slightest, but the damage is done.
my advice would be to go for a STD test!!!


please come back to me with the results because i would like to see the tears in your eyes when you have HIV..little *********!!!
If you didn't mind sleeping with another man while married why would you think it is too soon now?Obviously it is only your opinion that counts in the matter at this point.
Why would you even be asking this question???





You cheated on your husband, obviously it was not to soon then???





There is nothing else I can even say to this question.....
So long as you don't have children, sleep with as many men (or women) as you like (use condoms)!!!
it's still not legal until a divorce is finalized. and it's not ethical.





but it's up to you...being a slut can be fun.
You wonder why he left you!! Give your hubby some respect and let him divorce you before you put it about.
LOL, hello, you already cheated on him...


You didn't mind cheating on him when you were with him, now, you're asking us if you can sleep with another man?? lol
2 things....





First - How can I reach you?





Second - its not too soon.
Hahahahahahahahahaha, yeah sure whatever stupid *****!!! You just dont ';get it'; do you?





Why woul;d you care what he thinks(or anyone else) now? too late, as you already did it.