He hates being at home and gets into all kinds of troubles(like joining a singles club on the internet)
He told me that he did that because he felt that I did not love him anymore.
We both think that he needs to go back to work.Should i let my husband go back to work and take a drop in pay to get a different job.?
yeah, work sounds like the place to be. he won't be getting into trouble. and if you are together making what you made before you really are not making any sacrifices. he probably just needs to feel like he is doing something useful. put that man to work!!Should i let my husband go back to work and take a drop in pay to get a different job.?
';Let'; your husband go back to work? Are you his wife, or his mother?
Marriage is a partnership. If your husband hates being at home and taking care of the children and is acting out childishly by joining online singles' clubs, then he should probably be at work.
The larger issue, though, is that you seem to think that this is your choice, and he seems to think that he is an adolescent boy who can only rebel, instead of an adult husband and father who can talk his problems out calmly.
You both need to sit down and talk about exactly what it means to be married, and to come up with a plan that ensures that the children are taken care of in a way that lets you both feel appreciated and respected.
I hope it works out for you!
I would not do this. I would be getting rid of him. He joins a singles club and blames it on you? He needs to grow up and take responsibility for his own actions. He also needs to get a job that does not require you quitting yours. You will need a good job for when he joins another club and you decide you have had enough.
Oh dear..absolutely not.
You're issue is not him staying home. You're married to a cheater who blames his infidelity on you.
Do not put yourself in a position to be less able to care for your children when he finds someone who ';gives him the attention he needs'; at his new job!
This does not sound healthy. It should be his decision whether or not he wants to work. If he is looking at single clubs online, it is time for therapy. Believe it or not if men feel they do not get the emotional support they need, it can create problems. Talk to him
Don't lesson your income for his ego. Hire a sitter and let him find work. If you cant hire a sitter then find a way for him to work from home or alternate hours. Its not your fault he is bored so don't buy it sister.
Being out of work drives MEN CRAZY! Been there, done that... It's a major ego drag... Him going back to work would be good for his confidence, and make him feel like a man again...
I hope this helps!
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